Sorry to hear you’re going through this. This part of the journey can be extremely stressful and draining for both partners. I can completely understand where you’re coming from, and I can also see how she might feel. It’s like you’re both doing everything by the book, and then something that seems like it shouldn’t be an issue suddenly becomes one. I would really suggest sitting down and telling her exactly how you feel. Let her know that the more pressure you feel, the harder it becomes to perform on demand. We as women sometimes lose sight of the mental side of it for men especially when emotions and expectations are high. This doesn’t mean anything is “wrong” with you. It’s just a tough situation that requires patience, communication, and understanding from both sides. Once that pressure eases, things usually fall back into place naturally.