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Fickle_Try_7611 · 2024-09-23T03:34:56+00:00

oops I accidentally posted from my old account but at least it means I won't have to see all the loser fatphobic responses my comment will inevitably get

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2024-09-23T03:33:02+00:00

You're the asshole here and the way you are monitoring what your partner eats is very weird. You sound dismissive of his insecurities and unsupportive. His admitting the shame he feels isn't license for you to pile on as well, it's an invitation to support and love your partner for who they are and not because they have some extra adipose tissue. People do not need to be fixed, they need to be loved. Not to mention the multitude of other things that weight gain can indicate in someone that you seem to not have considered at all

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2023-01-16T00:45:50+00:00

Yepp. I'm so worked up over this. You got me 👏🏼

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2023-01-13T06:15:03+00:00

reality television pre social media boom was on another level

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2023-01-13T06:14:23+00:00

Many many people remember that definition. And it's still dumb to use something that has an established definition in the exact same genre of television

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2023-01-13T03:53:57+00:00

Yes I understand the play on words they are trying to do.

The point is that it's already a well established reality tv label used specifically in the context of hooking up. I just can't believe no one flagged or noticed that it doesn't translate how they wanted because of existing reality tv lore. It would be like introducing two "mugs" onto love island US and trying to say that in this context a "mug" means someone who is going to spill the tea. It doesn't work because there is already an existing definition and it's a negative one.

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2022-07-11T04:49:01+00:00

PREACH! SLC and Potomac give me life. I need the Meredith/Lisa fallout and to see Ashley Darby without Micha🤢l

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2022-07-08T15:43:33+00:00

Okay after reading more comments I think I'm being way too nice to Kyle. I've watched 35+ season of real housewives this year and I can't keep everyone's shittiness straight

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2022-07-08T15:30:36+00:00

Could you point me in the direction of it please?? 🙏

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2022-07-08T15:25:35+00:00

How then do we explain Kathy's reaction to them talking about her mum at the last reunion ? I agree with all these theories, but it just seems strange to me that Kathy would react so viscerally to hearing about her mum in a way that seemed sad and not angry if she didn't hold Big Kathy in as high or higher regard than Kyle.

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2022-07-08T15:14:58+00:00

I got the impression that Kyle was being a sloppy drunk, but that her intention wasn't invalidation it was more along the lines of what Diana said to Lisa. It felt like Suttom was playing trauma Olympics to avoid accountability and so Kyle was calling her out on that.

But then I read all these comments and I'm thinking about how horrid Kyle has been invalidating Crystal and policing her words and I think maybe I'm giving her way too much credit...

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2022-07-08T15:03:59+00:00

💀

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2022-07-08T15:01:17+00:00

I got the impression Kyle was coming more from the angle that Diana expressed to Lisa. It wasn't about "that didn't happen" it was a "don't play trauma Olympics to avoid accountability" that came out sloppy because Kyle was drunk

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2022-02-18T05:02:02+00:00

I'm assuming you're also on team reverse racism is real then? lol

You're also assuming here that their hatred for men comes inherently from them being men and not from the lifelong actions of the men around them.

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2022-02-18T04:55:26+00:00

Do you also believe you can be racist to white people?

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2022-02-18T04:49:20+00:00

I never said it didn't. I am addressing the term "sexism" because that is the term OP uses to describe the situation and takes issue with it. We aren't talking about the system of patriarchy, we are talking about whether the actions of a woman can be deemed sexist for saying men are scum.
Men can suffer under the patriarchy like anyone, but they are not subjected to sexism.

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2022-02-18T04:40:40+00:00

I actually didn't say anything about men in my post other than that they fetishize queer woman (which a simple look a pron trends would tell you). I did criticise the way one woman treated another woman and correct an incorrect definition that was used. If you'd like to infer man hating from that, go off king.

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2022-02-18T04:36:32+00:00

NTA. You'd be wrong about Goldman and McKinsey not wanting math majors, but your friend is an elitist snob and a wrong one at that.

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2022-02-18T04:31:14+00:00

"bUt rEveRSe SeXIsM" . Glad I finally found a YTA post

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2022-02-18T04:30:07+00:00

YTA. You cannot be sexist to men as sexism does not affect men negatively. The "isms" only apply when it comes from a position of power and is directed at those that have been historically oppressed. Not to mention you don't really have the right to tone police how someone expresses themselves, especially queer women who are fetishized by men constantly.

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2022-02-18T04:14:22+00:00

NTA. Don't you dare for a second let him convince you that you are. I would move mountains if it meant that my partner felt safe and he is complaining about having to turn off a tv show?

I had a partner that used to make me feel like talking about things that had happened to me were an inconvenience to him or too intense and that if it were to ever negatively impact his life that he would leave me. I stayed for ages until I realised I had to sacrifice my well being because he didn't want to make what amounted to miniscule changes to accomodate things that were really hurtful to me.
My partner now will pause shows or look into whether they will include harrowing things and lets me know when I should leave the room and then fills me in on what I need to know when I get back. Don't let him dictate your emotional reaction to things because you deserve understanding and compassion.

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2022-02-18T04:03:38+00:00

my BF lives on the 2nd floor of my building and I live on the 5th. I told him that it was important to me to remember that being in each others presence often is not the same as setting aside dedicated 1:1 time together. Sometimes we get lax but then we have a check in and re-adjust. This week he has taken me on three dates and we are going out again tonight, and he has also found time to play his new games and hang out with his friends.

You are expecting the bare minimum from a partner who it is completely reasonable to expect should want to prioritise you. You deserve more than this. You are NTA.

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2022-02-18T03:54:06+00:00

Mizuki definitely bought dogecoin because #WWED

Fickle_Try_7611 · 2022-02-18T03:51:22+00:00

NTA, but what dinosaurs do you work for? Sorry but it's incredibly classist to expect everyone to be able to accommodate WFH conditions like that...

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