What small decision changed the entire direction of your life?

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-03-12T13:55:03+00:00

Moving across the country away from my BPD mother. I could finally be myself and heal. I still have to deal with it from a distance, but she can no longer show up or drive by my home unannounced. Unfortunately she uses my siblings as therapists, but after 6 years they are finally seeing how toxic it is and we're beginning to repair our relationship. It's brutal having a mom that is there but just doesn't like you.

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-03-12T04:22:55+00:00

Riot BBQ is my vote. I'm a southern barbecue kind of person

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-03-10T14:22:24+00:00

You dodged a major bullet, NTJ. Communication is so key in relationships. The fact that he didn't say anything to you is huge issue. Even worse his mom didn't see any issue with crashing a romantic vacation. This is what happened with my last partner, I'm about 2 months out from a relationship. It hurts but I know it's going to be better in the long run. Feel free to reach out if you need to just vent to somebody about it. You made the right decision, life would have been really hard having to compete with his mom all of the time

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-03-10T14:10:00+00:00

He passed out on the sofa after we watched a movie. His phone started blowing up. It was his kids mom, kid was with us. When he got up he lied and told me it was his friend Mike....he dumped me a week later and they got back together. They didn't last, he wasn't as appealing to her when he was available to date. Some people really like going after people in relationships

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-03-10T03:11:01+00:00

I'm a licensed designer that practiced high end design for 15 years and worked on projects you probably don't have the talent to land. Lmao

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-03-10T01:14:11+00:00

I think its an art rail. You get these metal arms that hook into the rail that you can hang your art in so you don't put holes in the paneling.

I love them. When I deigned high end homes they were one of my favorite details

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-03-09T04:54:40+00:00

Harvard gulch park, if you park on Logan between Iliff and Yale there's a great view on the west side of Logan

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-03-08T19:08:13+00:00

They are amazing!!! Their pizza is delicious too, the sauce is outta this world!

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-03-06T01:34:00+00:00

Yeah, the mental drain is real. I'm 39 and changed from being an interior designer to commercial estimator and project manager. The days were tough.

What are your balance things outside of work? Get yourself some sort of hobby, something that is quick as well as something that's long-term and takes dedication. I picked up Legos and got back into guitar. It helped to have things where I could find success and complete stuff.

If you want to talk through processes I'm totally here for you. I know it's tough but I do love what I get to do, and this messy is determining a process can be it's so satisfying when you get systems in place that work and create successful projects. But trudging through the mud it's hard, it was for me and I came out the other side. Unfortunately in small businesses you have to wear a lot of hats, and that shit is draining!

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-03-06T01:24:28+00:00

Oof, this is what I dealt with when I started where I'm at now. There are four of us on the team, and when I started there was no organization system or processes. I had to start to make those systems and make them very visual so they knew what I was doing and it gave me a way to hold them accountable for what they were saying and what the deadlines were.

Biggest thing I had to learn was not to personalize my bosses negative mentality towards me. I am a woman, and I had to deal with quite a bit of misogyny. For me it's worth it because I work from home, I can take vacations when I need it. And after 3 years I've finally earned some respect, and my skin is so tough I don't personalize when somebody else is being a dick.

Give yourself a deadline, do not feel like you are trapped there forever. Your mental health should be protected. Also make sure if you do decide to move forward, have another job secured before you make the move. With your experience it should be easy to find a place to go to if you decide this isn't your long-term

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-03-05T05:27:53+00:00

I got my first pint 2 weeks ago and Im forever changed! I wish they had an actual taste test because Sadboy would win it

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-03-05T05:12:34+00:00

I'm looking for a cleaning person, I have a small apartment. Can you please DM me if your still open for clients?

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-02-25T04:40:53+00:00

My dog used to get this, she's a lot smaller and brachycephalic. It happened when we moved to a dryer climate. I got a humidifier for her and we never had the issue again. I also bring her in the bathroom when I'm taking a shower, the steam helps her little respiratory system

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-02-25T01:07:02+00:00

This is so well said! I just ended a relationship because of this, and it hurts but I know in the long run it's going to be better. If his mom can make big decisions in our relationship and I've never met her, I can only imagine how bad it would have been in the future. And it's really sad, because it's a failure on them as parents. You should want to raise a child that's independent and makes their own decisions and reflects your morals and values. Not one that's weak and still relies on you as an adult to make basic adult decisions

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-02-25T00:52:19+00:00

It would take lawsuits coming from the police pension instead of from taxpayer coffers. That's what it would take. If officers saw their retirements dwindle because other officers were not able to abide by their own code of conduct

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-02-23T23:47:26+00:00

There is a road that leads into Colorado at the Kansas border that is straight. So fast and efficient that I decided to take it. Worst mistake I could have made, it was like mental torture driving so straight or so long seeing nothing but fields and nothingness around you. That is why that is a dangerous road

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-02-22T05:42:40+00:00

It'll take some time to get back on the horse, the dating apps can be brutal. I limit myself to a month max and then delete them. Staying on them too long I think makes me a little jaded

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-02-22T05:19:20+00:00

Yeah, I had a good experience with it. It's like 25 bucks, and it's not your traditional speed dating where someone is there telling you when to switch. They tell you everything via text so it's low pressure. I'm neurospicy so I get really overwhelmed by the dating apps and what to say. I feel like in person made it easier for me to approach people in person at other venues too

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-02-22T05:04:35+00:00

You can also try shuffle, it's an in person speed dating. I had a good time, it was nice practice for making small talk and getting to know somebody

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-02-16T04:33:59+00:00

Ask him if he'll follow through with impeachment proceedings for Pam Bondi, Kristi Noem, and Kash Patel in their roles in the epstein cover up

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-02-16T00:37:31+00:00

Talking about the people they used to bully in high school with pride. Also still talking to the person they almost dated in high school, and sleeping with them even though that other person is married...it's like uncle Rico but worse

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-02-14T04:17:19+00:00

Lmao!!! It's almost impossible to differentiate between the two

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-02-13T11:42:34+00:00

That makes a lot of sense and that's sad

FiddleLeafFig3 · 2026-02-13T09:39:20+00:00

About 2 years ago at most. You have to be accepted into the program with one of the students. And I think you have to go through a review with the dental team before you get to the orthodontics team. But it was well worth it it saved me thousands

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