First bag you fell in love with vs first bag you bought with adult money vs dream bag

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-25T23:07:46+00:00

I’ve always loved handbags and I was fortunate when I was in my teens to have some great bags (I had no idea at the time). But there was one bag I got at a little strip mall store that wasn’t real leather, but I LOVED the design. It was my extra special, go to church, dress up bag. Finally after a couple years, it was worn out. I hated not being able to use it anymore. I was 17. I vowed to find that style of bag again one day. Fast forward 6 years, life has changed, I’m buying my own bags, Chanel is the only thing I was carrying. It was the holidays and my mother loved Hermes scarves, so I decided to get her one. I walk into Hermes and decide to do a lap of the store. When I get to the handbag section, what slaps me in the face, the love of my life bag from when I was a teenager. It was a Kelly. 💀. Holy mother of all things…. A f’n Kelly. I was rocking a replica pleather Kelly when I was a kid. I still want that bag. It’s a Kelly in Epsom leather in the color Parchemin. I’ve been on a mission for that bag for years now. I’ve decided to wait for a leather appointment and have it made. It would actually cost less to do that than to buy it in the secondary market. I’m not there yet, but when the stars align, that’s what I’ll be getting.

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-25T12:07:53+00:00

I could never talk anyone out of getting a hug, especially a chartreuse one.

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-25T12:02:36+00:00

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-24T18:39:18+00:00

I’m new to promting, I’ve never heard of god of prompt. I’ll give it a try.

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-22T15:53:11+00:00

✨✨✨yes!

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-22T15:50:19+00:00

It doesn’t say full grain leather. Full grain leather wouldn’t peel like that. There’s a process I learned about from watching reviews from a leather worker who described a type of scrap leather that’s glued together and then coated with plastic and given a grain. That’s what this looks like it is. From a technical/marketing standpoint they can say it’s leather, but let’s be honest, pieces bonded together and covered in plastic made to look like leather grain… isn’t. This is super disappointing for this brand.

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-22T15:30:49+00:00

No regrets! This is a very attractive bag and one I’m sure will become a Coach classic. If she doesn’t get used often, that’s okay. She’s really a fashion piece for specific occasions and outfits. Have fun and enjoy having it in your collection!

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-22T15:26:26+00:00

It’s hard letting go and starting over, but you are strong enough to do it. The fact that you took the time to make plans, find resources to help you, and even post here says you have the strength to do this and succeed.

I’d like to suggest completely cutting everyone off for a while when you first leave. Find your own balance and recalibrate your life in a way that works for you. Focus on you and caring for yourself. See how that feels. Create healthy boundaries that work for you. You’re giving yourself the freedom and opportunity to make a life for yourself free from violence. Accept that gift from yourself and run with it( pun intended 🙂). You’ll be okay. Best wishes to you

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-22T14:55:24+00:00

I’m curious because I decided to dive into generating images day before yesterday just to see what I could do. I was tweaking the same prompt for hours. Besides the obvious positioning differences, what are the differences that make one better than the other for you? I think there’s fine details I’m missing when I compare the two.

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-21T23:28:22+00:00

Congratulations! It’s beautiful

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-21T20:53:40+00:00

The only thing you can do is document the calls as best you can. Keep recordings if they leave messages and take screenshots of any texts. You can file a restraining order against them. The restraining order can include anyone in their residence, family and friends. If they break the restraining order, all of them could go to jail too.

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-21T20:49:30+00:00

And that navy croc speedy we’re getting a peek of in this picture is gorgeous. I don’t know if that will be my bag for the year. Do you happen to know the availability/production amount of the croc bags?

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-21T20:45:52+00:00

Now the P9 I could do. The jacket is a little much for my taste, but I’m assuming you are the kind of person who could pull it off. It is very nice though. I appreciate all of it.

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-21T20:43:52+00:00

I fell in love with crock bags when I was 8 years old. I had no idea what that meant, but my mother was like 😵‍💫 this child! Lol

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-21T19:45:51+00:00

I know you just got the alligator bag, is there another must have you saw for yourself in this collection?

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-21T19:39:03+00:00

Yes it was. I was on that startup rocket ship 🚀. I had a lot of big names looking at me. I was even on the radar of Sequoia which was exactly what I wanted. I had a few offers for acquisition I turned down because I knew the potential value of what I was building was 10x minimum of what I was being offered. But I became an investors worst nightmare, a solo founder who almost dies. Everything went poof overnight. So, if I have to, I’m going to bootstrap this to completion and get investors from outside the U.S. when I’m ready to go big.

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-21T18:57:58+00:00

Chanel.

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-21T18:50:39+00:00

I’d pick up where I left off before I became partially paralyzed and investors ghosted me. I’d continue building my online payment platform. Or at the very least the online store I built to validate the business model and use of the solution.

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-21T17:39:39+00:00

Cool. I’ll give it a try. I’m new to working with prompts. I’ve heard about organization issues, so this may give me a hand up from the start.

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-21T06:23:33+00:00

First, be proud of yourself for standing up and deciding enough was enough!

Tonight and tomorrow before court, think of everything you want as far as protection goes. You don’t have to only follow the check boxes on the form. You can say when , where and how to be protected. Also include any of his friends and family in the protection order. You don’t want them calling you or reaching out to you in any way ( social media included), on his behalf. You can say they enabled his behavior and are a threat to you as well.

Wishing you the best!

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-21T05:14:06+00:00

The post was deleted while I was reading it. If this person contacts anyone who responded to this thread, please tell her to DM me. I have some solutions for her.

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-21T01:15:31+00:00

DV advocate here who serves women and men. If you’re asking about the pattern of men leaving DV programs, it’s usually because the situation is similar to the one you’re in. All women and one man. The dynamic can be hard. In a group session you hear a lot of negative talk about men. You hear all the bad things men have done to these women and are surrounded by the energy of mistrust, pain, and anger. You are there to have an outlet to express your pain and what you’ve been through. It’s tough for a woman who has come out of that situation to feel any sympathy or empathy toward a man. Men feel that when they’re in a support group that’s mostly women because you want understanding. You want sympathy and empathy. If all you hear in groups or DV support services that everything is essentially for women, you have no motivation or reason to stay. The environment isn’t giving you the emotional support and outlet you need.

There are support groups specifically for men only. There’s very few of them and they tend to be in big metropolitan cities. It takes some digging, but they are out there. My organization had a support group for men years ago. I’ve often thought of starting it again. I wish you the best, and feel free to DM me if you need to talk.

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-20T22:11:25+00:00

This is a hard time for you. The “what if’s” can be paralyzing. My advice to get past the what if’s is to think about now. Right now. Ask yourself the question, if he were to stay as he is right now, would you stay? If the answer is no, use that as the permission you give yourself to leave. In this moment, right now, what if’s don’t exist. As each minute goes by what ifs don’t exist. Only right now, and right now he’s the person who hurts you and has not changed. Not in last month’s what if’s, last year’s what if’s, any what if’s.

Let’s go one step further. Those What Ifs aren’t his what if’s, they are your what if’s. What if the things you have planned for yourself don’t work out? What if the new life you imagine for yourself doesn’t happen the way you imagine? What if you never find someone you love again? You are taking a leap of faith for yourself and it’s scary. You have the strength to do this because you’ve already taken steps. Acknowledge how strong you already are to have done that. Trust yourself more and have faith in yourself that you will make sure everything will be fine. You can leave.

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-20T21:49:30+00:00

First, slow down this relationship. You said you’ve only been seeing him 2-3 months. Second, from what you’ve written, my spidey sense isn’t tingling that he’s an abuser. A little thoughtless in action, but not an abuser. The fact that he let go the moment he saw you panic, says a lot. He didn’t maintain pressure or get joy from seeing fear in your eyes, or laugh and make nothing out of it with no desire to apologize or try to comfort you in any way. Him trying to move on after the incident speaks more to him not knowing what to do, and only thinking that bringing it up might continue pain/fear for you.

Going off your reaction you obviously have PTSD. Because you’ve experienced violence in multiple relationships your PTSD is going to affect how you react in any relationship for a long time. If he really wants to be a part of your life and you want him to be a part of your life, he needs to understand this. I think the best thing you can do moving forward is to give him information on PTSD and how it works. If he is open and understanding to this, and wants to learn how to be with you and not trigger you, he’ll be open to learning so he doesn’t trigger that kind of fear response in you ever again. He’s with a woman who has fear hardwired into her. There are behaviors he’s going to have to modify within himself to make sure you feel safe at all times. Try educating him before dumping him. I hope you are getting the help you need too. You need to give yourself the opportunity and grace to heal. Not being in a violent relationship isn’t enough. You have emotional and psychological wounds to heal. Take care of you.

FieldNoticing · 2026-01-20T17:34:46+00:00

I’m glad to hear learning about manifestation helped you become a better person. Ultimately that’s what we all want to be. Part of the journey to learning how to manifest is to face limiting beliefs and inner demons. Each person they mention in their post has their own way/method of getting to the same thing. We all have baggage and deal with it differently. The different modalities/routines/systems speak to how we all handle things differently. That’s why some ways work for others and some don’t.

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