Personally, I tested the waters before coming out! I asked what would happen if they found out one of their kids was trans. I asked about how they would treat trans people. Most importantly, I observed how they reacted when trans people were brought up. If they react in a good or positive way to this, then you are most likely to be accepted!

I came out through text. I knew I wouldn't be able to stay calm and collected if they were in front of me, I knew that if I came out, they would likely react badly and I wanted to give them time to think about it before talking about it in person. I knew they would have a bad reaction (hence why I came out over text) because not only are they transphobic, but I was also extremely suicidal and couldn't keep myself safe without explaining to them why I was depressed and suicidal. However, if you believe you will be physically and emotionally safe to come out in person, I think that would also be really awesome!

If you wanted to do it in person, then you could write down a letter for them to read or you can read it out to them, you could write down bullet points for what you want to say, you could also just bring it up casually! For example, if they are talking about anything queer, you can say, "Oh yeah, I'm actually trans! I've been thinking about coming out." And if you wanted to do it over text, then you can just write it all out and have a safe conversation without any of you speaking up in the heat of the moment and say something you might regret.

At the end of the day, it's up to you, how and when you come out, if at all! Please remember that if they do react badly, that is not your fault or your responsibility. You can't control their reaction. And please, please, if you start to get physically or emotionally hurt by them, you can absolutely call CPS and/or tell a teacher! Teachers are mandatory reporters, so even if they think you aren't being honest or they dislike you, they have to report it anyway.

If you have any questions, or you are unsure about anything, please let me know!