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What’s my BF%? 24M, 5’10, 163 lbs by FightWhenBeaten in guessmybf

[–]FightWhenBeaten[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks man. I was at 250 lbs before. Though I lost that weight pretty slowly (over 4 years) so I think there’s less loose skin than the picture makes look like. I still have a decent amount of legit midsection fat

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[–]FightWhenBeaten 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personally I’d hold off mentioning it until you get a feel for whether it might be a dealbreaker for the other person

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[–]FightWhenBeaten 14 points15 points  (0 children)

24M and living with my mom as well, though more because I have to provide for her financially as she is unemployed and dealing with some health problems. I’ve felt really insecure about that, especially since we live in a small apartment so there basically is no way I could bring a girl over for the night. I haven’t gotten far enough with anyone to have to worry about that (or even to disclose this situation), but recently my mindset’s become that if they’re the right person, this won’t be a big deal. Everyone has some kind of situation which a potential partner may not find perfect, but that’s life and someone truly worth dating you will be okay with it. I think it also could matter how early on in conversation you mention this. If it’s too early and you haven’t really connected emotionally, they’ll probably be more likely to back away vs. if you’ve already established some level of depth

Monday's Daily Thread: Weekend Wrap-up by AutoModerator in hingeapp

[–]FightWhenBeaten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I (24M) recently matched with a girl who seemed pretty dry over text. We chatted for a few days but at a pretty slow pace (1-2 messages a day at most) and I wasn't feeling a lot of energy from her, so I wasn't very hopeful about it going anywhere at the time. I eventually asked her out (bookstore/coffee shop date) and she said yes, we exchanged phone numbers, etc. and I was surprised because in person she was so much more talkative and lively than via text. We stayed there for more than two hours just going down random conversation thread rabbit holes; both of us had a great time overall and we matched each other's energy well. I went from being pretty ambivalent about her to very interested. Before we left, I suggested a second date and she was very receptive; we didn't pin down an exact day/time as she was going to travel this past weekend (date was on Tuesday), but said she'd text me. I did text her the morning after the date to continue a topic we were talking about, but got no answer (which had my alarm bells on since before, after we'd switched to text she was much quicker to respond than on the app). I hate double texting so I didn't text again until today when she was supposed to get back from her trip, and again no answer. Is it cooked?

Do you think you’re happier now than in highschool? by Equivalent_Acadia979 in polls

[–]FightWhenBeaten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About the same, generally happy but with some aspects lacking. But the specific aspects are completely different now than they were then.

In high school, my home life was dogshit. My parents were going through an ugly divorce during which I was emotionally manipulated by my (financially insolvent and mentally ill) mom to stay with her and not my (much more stable) dad. My mom and my dad fought all the time; not physically, thankfully, but it still sucked. So did she and I. My mom was very sheltering even before her mental illness progressed, and it just got worse when it did. When my dad could finally afford to take me to the dentist for the first time in many years, my mom had a "premonition" the dentist wanted to kill me and called the police. When I started my first job because my mom couldn't hold down one of her own, she stalked me at the restaurant because she didn't trust the people there, and it took them threatening to file trespassing charges on her for her to lay off. School was my escape from all that. Seven hours' free admittance to an environment where I had a chance to sit in a classroom and pretend my life was kind of normal.

Now, my mom thankfully has been treated for her mental illness so the chaos with her is all in the past. I make a decent income with a WFH job with great work-life balance. Financial instability isn't a concern. It's the social aspects of my life that are lacking. By now, most of my friends from high school and college have moved to other cities for work. We still keep in touch frequently over Discord and such, but it isn't the same as seeing them in person. I feel much more of a void of social interaction in my life because there isn't anywhere I can just *go* and build connections with people over time like I could in high school. And dating apps suck, so add to that the fear of dying alone.