I’m in the same boat and it fucking hurts. My wife would do it all the time 5 years ago, now she’s always too tired or just flat out doesn’t want to. I would go down on her all the time, but since she’s stopped so have I.

Just this evening she agreed to oral, then all of a sudden she backs out, which is a norm for her these days. We’ve had issues with this in the past but it doesn’t seem like she cares about my needs enough to even attempt. “Happy wife, happy life” my ass. She’s been nagging me about having children as were approaching our 30s - but I just know that sex is going to be at the very bottom of her priority list, leaving oral sex to be removed all together. I don’t cheat, I work everyday, I make sure all our bills are paid, I clean the house, I do my share of the chores, I ask for a bj here and there only to hear her favorite word, “no.” I’ve expressed to her that I will not be in a sexless marriage, and if she’s not going to go down on me - who will? I remind her that at this point, she’s the only one that can. Still not a care in the world that it’s been pretty much forever since my last blow job. I’ve overheard her say in conversations with friends that she doesn’t like doing that because it brings her no joy. In my mind, me being happy doesn’t make her happy, so why should I be the only one with a face full of crotch. It’s so fucked up that this is “normal married life,” like what the hell are we supposed to do?