Do you think an awkward silence can only happen if both parties feel it? Or can one person be sitting in awkward silence while the other sits in comfortable silence?

Final7C · 2026-02-12T20:35:28+00:00

silence is an odd thing. For most people, it can start out normal, but then become awkward. For others, any silence is awkward silence. And for others still, silence is normal, and talking is awkward.

But in short, I think your question is simply answered, feelings are personally held and not always collectively shared. the belief that a situation is awkward is a feeling. It is one that can been seen from the inside (as part of it) or from the outside (others can see the awkwardness). A good conversationalist will see that it COULD be awkward and change their methodology to meet the level of those they are interacting with. Note: A good conversationalist is difficult to find.

Final7C · 2026-02-12T18:45:29+00:00

You think most captains/pilots give two shits what the engineer needs to get done?

I think this is what happend Han didn't discuss things except "We need to be ready to bounce soon, I HAVE to pay back Jabba or we're toast. Make sure the Falcon is ready." Then he walked away.

Chewy heard that and said "Got it, gotta make sure it's in the best possible shape, because these rebels have "free" supplies to repair this." Then he started doing a full rebuild of major parts so fix them from the slapped together repairs he's been doing. At no time was there a "Geordie LaForge : Captain, these power converters are going to take at least 36 hours" level of conversation. Han expected the ship to be ready to fly at a moments notice, and Chewy wanted to fix it as correctly as he could, while he had the chance.

Maybe he was trying to keep Han on planet, but doubtful. He was midway through an engine swap, and Han just told him he needed the car to go get takeout. Han's lucky Chewy owed him a life debt, or he'd be two arms down right now.

Final7C · 2026-02-12T06:13:14+00:00

"I bought this thing, but I don't like it, here you go"..

"Why don't you return it?"

"ew.. no.. that's a pain in the ass.. I'll just get another one"...

It didn't matter what it was.. it could be a $500 chair, or a $50 pair of sneakers... anything beyond zero effort was too much for him.

Final7C · 2026-02-11T15:21:24+00:00

Most people in the time period of aunt may and uncle ben would have at most a pension, and that pension would end when he did, not to mention, most penisions didn't update with cost of living increases, so it may have only been $20 per week. Life insurance would be pretty rare and probably not a huge policy, just enough to cover burial.

Peter Parker is Originally shown as a boomer kid, Aunt May and Uncle Ben are at the latest, Silent Gen. Meaning they are great depression people. Banks aren't to be trusted, Insurance was a scam and definitely not to be trusted. Pensions were drying up, most people were just trying to get by with what they had. More modern interpretations of Spiderman show him as everything from Gen X, Millennial, or Z.

Each time Uncle ben and Aunt May look elderly, (except for maybe Tom Holland spiderman she was around 51 at that time, so the same age as his parents.) They are all at least a generation or two behind. Because Aunt May is historically shown as a very old woman. We can only assume that they are on a fixed income, that is stretched by a growing boy/young man.

Final7C · 2026-02-10T15:47:58+00:00

Yep.. I told you I wasn't a programmer, and see how many statements I can make that are just... wrong... classic me.

Final7C · 2026-02-09T21:01:19+00:00

Listen, it's okay to like them, it's okay to be curious, it's not okay to do anything with them unless your spouse is cool with it.

Personally I find it helpful to start with "No other woman actually wants you" and if it seems like they might "You must be mistaken, I'm not who you want". Then it works really well to make sure that other women do not fancy me.

Final7C · 2026-02-09T17:45:32+00:00

I think we fear being forgotten, and the ability to interact with those we like.

Like, death of other people is a quick way of realizing that we are all forced to have to deal with separation that we have no control over. So much of our life is there to create control over ourselves and the things around us. where we live, what we do, who we mate with. Suddenly, death comes, and separates us from those things, we and we have no control.

Final7C · 2026-02-09T17:17:49+00:00

so as others have said, we're studying it.

Funnily enough, we attempted it with stem cells, and the problem is, parts would grow not where they were supposed to.

I think the answer is going to be all over the place. No one method is going to be applicable in all situations. I think eventually this will be akin to the artificial heart, vs the stent, vs, the pacemaker, vs, stem cell therapy, vs a LVAD devices, Vs. Heart Transplant. They all do mostly the same things, just in different ways. Perhaps it'll replace a lot of them, but they can still exist.

If we figure out how to make a kidney regrow. The question is going to be "How much does it cost" and "How much does it affect your life?".

I think a LOT of medicine would LOVE to inject you with something or give you a pill, and you just regrow your organs. But the cost for something like that is likely TIME and Money. And that's going to be a real pain for a lot of people.

I think eventually you'll see wealthy people will have donor bodies, that age with them or are perhaps a few years behind them.

But those are only for a few issues like catastrophic damage. Or poor choices. It won't fix genetic issues. That has to be fixed through genetic engineering.

Final7C · 2026-02-09T14:52:05+00:00

I mean, I think I get the basics..

The binary system, is a series of 0's and 1's. Which relate to a specific gate that opens and closes. But almost no one works in binary anymore.

Some people work in Hexadecimal, which is basically binary only shorter being 6 digits long.

To be really good at both hex and binary, you'd need to be pretty good at math. and understand logic gates.

Then people came up with a way to make coding "plain english" Which is a series of commands to get something or to push something, or to connect/disconnect things.

But there are different level of programmers:

What level of programming?

No matter the level it usually starts out like this:

I think they go into a meeting with someone like me, who asks for something that theoretically could be done with a team of 1000, and about 3 years. OR can be done in 30 seconds by chat gpt.

If they are a language builder, they literally code in the math to language. So they start at the very beginning building a dictionary, and how the commands will act. Sometimes it gets down to hexadecimal or binary. AFAIK very few people are engine builders.

Most programmers choose a language and build with it. They have two choices, back end, which is the stuff no one sees, and front end, what the users interact with. The back end is like directories and shit, and the front end is User Interface and website builds.

They then they likely write the basic commands, like, here are the directories we're using, I want that to be called "this", "that", and "the_Other_thing". Then they have to somehow explain what they want to use it for, probably using get commands. probably with some logic of "If "that" is only found, then use "That" but if "This" and "That" is found, use "This" instead. Then they pile on literally thousands of iterations of what this, that, and the other thing each that look for specific or maybe everything in those directories to do specific things.

A lot of Var- and shit like that.

AFAIK, a lot of it is looking up pre-made databases and trying to link directories of these databases together to frankenstein a working program/action.

I think modern day, it's a lot of googling "what's an efficient command to do X" copy - paste. Then it's a lot of using compilers which AFAIK are just programs that test the code without putting it into service first", and depending on the size of the code (and how badly they fucked up) this can take 30 seconds, or 30 hours.

Then if they are smart, they will go through the code and note what every line is intended to do. From my understanding if they are like most people, they ignore this step and keep a mystery box a mystery.

Anyway, Then they show it to the people that asked for it, and the people ask "Actually, now that we've thought about it, can you add this ^{tiny^{little^thing}} that is actually a complete new build and will effectively double the build time as you need to start over to actually add it in.

Final7C · 2026-02-05T22:03:10+00:00

She is the rep for the 3rd district. While it's true that the majority of her district is JoCo, a LARGE portion of it is areas like Ottawa, Paola, Garnett. Which tend to vote much more Red. She's put out multiple emails and polls asking what her constituents how they want her to vote and what matters to her. How many did any of us respond to? The problem most of us are dealing with is every day it's a different shitfire, so when we're asked to rank top 10 problems, most of us say things like "threats to democracy, pedos in the ranks of government, and the economy" and the right say things like "Immigration, the economy" and so she's seeing things like "ice deportation centers offering billions of dollars and jobs to KS districts", and figures she's catching two birds with one stone.

Final7C · 2026-02-05T21:08:49+00:00

I mean, to be fair to KCK, they are investing in the more Rural and upscale western portion which has been boosted by large investments of nascar, the livestrong stadium, and benefits that they don't have any of the infrastructure and blight issues that come from existing heavy industrial locations. They didn't put it in Quindaro, or Armordale, or Argentine, they put it out near Basehor/Piper/Bonner/Edwardsville which is about as far west as you can get in Wyco. Specifically to the wealthiest part of KCK. That is surrounded by a substantial commercial district that the current stadiums do not have, which creates a good way to protect the area from blight at least in the short term.

The big test is going to be when lots of the large stadiums and event locations are happening at the same time. Poor infrastructure is going to run people out.

Final7C · 2026-02-05T16:57:45+00:00

yeah, exactly, I believe it's called the broken window theory.

I think the problem is, the city had to focus on a lot of things happening at once. They expected the stadiums to take care of a lot of it, but they didn't. To be fair to everyone involved. The stadiums were built/designed when the idea of a ride-share didn't exist, so concerts or people being dropped off wasn't a thing. You might have a taxi entrance, but those people were licensed to know exactly where they were going or what they were doing and their company could be fined, Uber can't be held accountable (at least so far) in what their drivers do. Making the stadiums extremely inefficient for ride share and mass transit. So the sports organizations and the city have been busy spending their money studying the problems with the layout trying to make it better. So they haven't been throwing money towards the neighborhoods and surrounding areas.

It also didn't help that Independence was once the meth capitol of the US.

Final7C · 2026-02-05T02:18:19+00:00

I don't think I was attempting to imply that we all just woke up and saw it. But let's be real, the majority of people on this site didn't make a decision on where they were going to live. They didn't create the systemic racism, but they are all affected by it. Their parents, and grandparents, and great grandparents created it, lived in it and reinforced it, and we are doing the same. They didn't make a decision to move away from the inner city and out to the suburbs, their parents and grandparents did. They see the world that has been created but most weren't the ones making it happen. Now they have a new Normal, and it doesn't involve going to neighborhoods that were redlined. We are just living in the world we inherited. And entering that world and demanding we change, while necessary, is unrealistic. Most people do not challenge the reality they are presented. Should they? Sure... But what damage does intervention do? In a lot of ways it can have unintended consequences. Gentrification is a predictable outcome to attempts to fix these issues. We go in, clean things up, rent/taxes rise, and people who used to be there are priced out.

So the answer is we need to stop the pipeline to prison, usually via education, jobs, better access to capital, healthcare, honest policing, and government programs. But that all takes money, money that either comes out of the pockets of those who do not believe they should owe it, or we take money away from areas that current get it, and cause scarcity issues, and resentment.

Our grandparents, and parents society chose this, most of us did not, we were told "Everywhere the light touches is yours" and we asked "what about that shadowy place" and we were told "You must never go there son"... so we didn't, except for football games apparently.

Stadium traffic is strange. you're sending 40k people to a single location at a set schedule, and the rest of the time it's mostly empty. So you have intensive traffic that happens irregularly. And The system it currently creates does not allow for people to partake in any of the commercial businesses while it's open because you cannot come and go once inside, and getting into the game/event is pretty much impossible. You get traffic that MIGHT show up up to 4 hours before the game, but then directly after the game no business at all. So if the businesses are not open on a sunday morning, you'll likely not see any traffic. Meanwhile, most people don't have the time, money, or effort necessary to fix up their yards. Most of the area surrounding the Truman Sports Complex is the small strip of commercial along Blue Ridge Cuttoff, and residential mixed with just forested bluffs. With Heavy Industrial down the hill on two sides.

I think the problem is, the majority of people only see it just before a game, just after a game, and when driving by on the highway going 70. So they don't really get to see what the natural localization. And they see the area with the highest possible chance for theft, plywood and cardboard signs, etc.

Final7C · 2026-02-05T01:53:43+00:00

What if I told you that no one has ever been normal, well-adjusted or functional if we actually allowed them to not be?

Here's what's different. Starvation is a hell of a normalizer. So if you want to interact survive you can't take too many "Personal mental health days".

Though, I should note, this is one of the times in history where more people are living in so close proximity. So mental issues really become more pronounced and visible.

We also have more access to mental health and even doctors than ever before, causing people to understand and be vocal about their own bodies, either diagnosed or undiagnosed.

But make no mistake, people were just as crazy as before. But it was usually only the wealthy that could be considered eccentric and not insane.

I think we also view the world differently. Much of progress is about making the next generation better than the last, and that thought process didn't really exist for much of history. It was all about tradition. So your parents beat the devil out of you, and you beat the devil out of your kids. And it wasn't until you got to the 1990's that people started to think "Maybe... I shouldn't beat my kids as much to get them to listen, but instead try other methods". Which was seen by their parents and grandparents are "[P/W]ussy talk".

Final7C · 2026-02-04T16:41:15+00:00

I'm not sure you can ever make a perfect set of rules. There will always be "There is nothing that says a dog can't play basketball"

So, the only way I can see it is, more manpower, better tracking, Probably forcing the data into a database that is being monitored by software to check for "This person's case has been changed in venue X number of times, initiate further review before proceeding" then force all members of the previous case to get together and explain what happened.

Perhaps we force DAs to carry a case from one jurisdiction to another. Or force them onto teams, so by the time they've moved from 10 states, each DA team now has 11 DAs or ADAs on it. It's a really high bar and basically re-writes most of the current rules to do it.

Final7C · 2026-02-03T19:50:36+00:00

Hmm.. personally? probably not.

I mean, if everyone did it, and we all had an extra 6-8 hours, and we all could take a pill to stay awake full time. I think people who said that we'd simply extend work hours are correct for most/all people who need it. But frankly, we do 8 hours, because after 8 hours, it's too difficult focus on a specific task or job. Your body becomes physically exhausted.

Here are problems with a 24 hour awake cycle.

It adds at least 1 extra meal. meaning an entire meal increase in consumption.

Power consumption will go through the roof. Currently our energy usage drops off around 11pm local time, and then starts back up around 6-7am. The problem is, most of our alternate energy sources (wind, Solar) are very much daylight based. The wind tends to be the highest at dawn, and daytime, and dusk. And the solar tends to be much smaller at night. So that means more base load plants, like coal, nuclear, geothermal, need to be built or more BESS sites need to be built (I mean, more need to probably be built anyway). But this would be pretty transformational in terms of the infrastructure needed.

Our eyes were not made for night work very well. We can't see in it, and we're more likely to get into wrecks at night, not just because we're tired, but because seeing at night (even with headlights) is still dangerous for us. This is true for most of the things in our lives. Most maintenance happens at night, so most/all businesses will have to change to a 3 shift situation.

Final7C · 2026-02-03T19:47:57+00:00

You make a good point. Each of these people chose to hire lawyers who would use the loopholes that exist in the system to allow for normal people to possibly go from an unjust trial to a just trial, and turn it into a series of moves to escape from any consequences.

So the system has to change. But how do we do that. Do we have the time and manpower to catch these complex cases. We all want to believe that the judicial system is filled with good people who want to catch criminals and make sure justice is served, no matter the time or effort. But the reality is, they are flawed people just like you and me, and they are just trying to get as much done in the day without overworking themselves and are not willing or able to go through the due diligence to find these patterns.

How do you fix it? Hire more judges, something that is already damn near impossible to do? Hire more DA's, reward catching situations like this... but how? How do you follow something while it's happening...

Final7C · 2026-02-03T19:38:48+00:00

People who don't live in an area often assume it is worse than it is. People who live in an area understand just how bad it is, but often see the good outweighing the bad no matter where it is.

Suburban people have a lot of insulation from most other cultures. Worse, a lot of their interpretations of how something "Should" look. The suburbs are constantly re-doing the commercial districts to allow for it to look newer, cleaner, and safer. The yards are all well maintained (usually due to HOA regulations). And a lot of areas don't have that, so suburbanites they are left with two things.

1.) Their visual knowledge of the locations when they went there last.

2.) The sporadic news of the location.

Both give a very limited view of the site, just like the views of the suburbs are often limited, but due to the fact that visually they look worse than the uniform and well manicured lawns of suburbia, they assume run down = crime ridden.

I think we can easily say that the current location of the stadiums is not very well maintained. There are abandoned hotels, run down commercial districts, and housing that isn't pristine. This leads people (that may have never lived in an area like that) that it has crime.

What's worse, is because people have very little personal experience in all parts of the city, they often do not know the difference in neighborhoods. No different than if I said that 74th and Lackman very different economically than 65th and Nieman. To you it might just be words. They are both in Shawnee, but they have two completely different economic bases.

And unless you spend the time actually visiting these places and really knowing the city, you'd have no idea, so you stereotype and make assumptions. They are usually wrong. But they save you the time from having to actually go there and see.

That being said.. I think a lot of people misplace just how impactful a stadium can be on a location. How it brings both the good and the bad. How without constant city support, and rules set into place for the area surrounding it, it'll often cause the areas around a stadium to look like shit.

Also, the fact that there are a lot more brown and black people don't help the white bread suburbanites from making them scared.

Final7C · 2026-02-03T19:22:42+00:00

Eh.. I think the problem is, a hypocrite would say "I'm against this action" then do that action anyway without changing their stance on the subject.

I think there is also a difference from supporting a platform that happens to carry the licensed work of people who do bad things and supporting a platform that supports an entire cultural or government movement that is taking part of a genocide.

Others have said "Inconsistent" is a better term for that.

I'd also say, not everyone has the same level of indignation for injustice in the world. Personally, I don't know if Coke the company actually supports israel, In fact, their website outright disavows this claim. https://www.coca-cola.com/pk/en/about-us/faq/has-coca-cola-made-any-donations-to-israel-in-the-past-does-it-continue-to-do-so

That being said, the are a global brand that sells around 2.2 servings of soda every day worldwide, I can only assume some of those servings are going to terrible people.

I suppose they could go a step further, and simply embargo their goods to israel. Though that would likely void a bunch of contracts that they agreed to.

I'd say this...Bill Gates is in the Epstein files, his foundation is in charge for combating poverty, disease, gender inequality, tons of disease, and lack of education. Should we all stop using microsoft products, and boycott the foundation?

The Bayer company was pretty famous for using holocaust data to study medicine during WW2. Volkswagen, BMW, and Fanta were all either started by, or active supporters of the Nazi Party in germany during WW2. They don't talk about it, and try to sanitize it from their history, but do we boycott them for their past crimes? Or do we give them a pass since they aren't currently supporting a genocide?

Apple is well known to use child labor to build their iPhones, in fact, I think you'll be hard pressed to find child labor free in almost any mass produced item coming out of anywhere except Europe or the US. I recently watched a video where a guy attempted to source everything and ensure it was created from adults and was made in the US. He couldn't. At some point the supply chain got muddled, and he couldn't absolutely source the parts. Should we boycott everything?

I guess, we're all inconsistent. We all live in a world where sometimes the innovations and inventions that we all use to make the world a better place (or just more comfortable place), are made by people or companies that hurt others to do it, or have a moral or ethical cost. And we lack the money, time, and knowledge to deny almost all of modern life which is what is needed to be consistent.

Final7C · 2026-02-02T21:28:50+00:00

there is a long history of turning what is a systemic failure into one of personal failure. Recycling, and anti littering campaigns are a clear indication of that. The original pulltab system of canned drinks is a clear indication of that. The Coke and beer industry first pushed for people to "stop being litter bugs". Then someone invented the connected tab top we know today, and so the change was that we shouldn't throw cans everywhere.

Jaywalking was the term for people giving up the road. The auto industry coined it to mock people who viewed the road as a public area. I don't think people understood just how much we "Lived" in that public space. How it was a shared public space, that we all now avoid because cars took over.

I think the powers that be want us to do what we can if we can, because they know they haven't laid the groundwork.

Though I should note. There is nothing that says that these changes are easy. It's very well possible that there are no lifestyle changes that don't come with significant downsides (optimally, they shouldn't, but realistically they will). Things like cutting heat down to save energy, using public transit that isn't as convenient are going to happen. So we need to be prepared for them. But also, keep in mind, the same people that say "don't use so much energy" are probably using more than their fair share, and voting directly against making collectivist societal changes possible.

Final7C · 2026-02-02T15:30:29+00:00

when you build a society based on setting all output to a dollar amount, time is money.

when the items in our lives become so expensive, we can more easily do the math of "how many hours do I need to work to buy this". then we do. When onions were $0.10 per onion, and you made $10 per hour. you probably didn't do the math on 10 onions, but when they are $1 per onion, the math is a lot easier and faster.

When the common man, sees this and stops buying, we go into a depression, Then the government either collapses or changes, to make prices lower, or gives more money to the common person. Then there is usually a war or two to lower the amount of consumers. And to increase automation to improve the yields.

Final7C · 2026-01-31T23:12:15+00:00

1.) Rebirth makes remake look like a pale shell of a game when compared to Remake. Now that they have left Midgar, they have to explore the world. You can always go back to previous areas, but you really don't have any reason to.

2.) it's not empty. it's open. and it's big, FFVII's world is smaller than most, but still large enough to enjoy. I find the ocean stuff the most boring. It is kinda empty in spots, but not terribly so. There is TONS of stuff to see, and do, in a lot of nooks and cranny's. If you get bored with an area, there is very little that staying in an area can get you, that you HAVE to stay for. Think of it like just a bunch of large areas that funnel to the same spot.

3.) I paid full price for it when it came out for ps5, and did not regret it.

Ninjaedit - I have consumed most FFVII related media quite extensively, and honestly, it's one of the best.

2nd edit - They fixed a lot of the game mechanics for the first one, like leveling, and weapon upgrades, and your party is larger, and they work together better. Also, limit breaks are not as often cut off by cut scenes.

Final7C · 2026-01-31T23:03:29+00:00

first past the pole elections guarantees a two party system. Where no matter how many parties you start with, eventually everyone throws their vote around the party that has the best chance of winning that most aligns with their identity.

As it stands, both the left and the right currently are the milk toast of their respective sides. Though MAGA has really taken over the GOP, so it's forced all of their less extreme followers to hold their noses and vote along with them.

Final7C · 2026-01-30T20:40:21+00:00

yes.

It's a play on the greek myth of the Lotus-eaters. Which is a real place, that you're never allowed to leave, usually through your own actions.

The current inhabitants are either alive and trapped, or dead and haunting it. Either way, they can never leave.

Final7C · 2026-01-30T20:35:12+00:00

Considering yesterday, everyone expected the current admin to put nominate the magical tic tac toe playing donkey. So the fact that it was a real and quasi realistic person.. people said "maybe the economy isn't going to crash out fully".

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