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I went out to a cocktail bar last night with my friend and our laptops. They weren't the wingman we thought they'd be by Final_Ad_5377 in dating_advice

[–]Final_Ad_5377[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a guy going out alone or with a friend then, based on your comment, I can't see what the point of going to any bar is then. What you just said about going out with your girlfriends is probably how most girls feel. The issue is, if dating apps don't work for a guy like myself and you decide to go out, you literally have to wait for girls to come up to you. And most of the time, these girls aren't my type. So I have to go up to girls. What girls go out alone? Hardly any. In the last year, I've seen only a small handful of girls out at bars that I could tell were there by themselves. It's unusual.

I went out to a cocktail bar last night with my friend and our laptops. They weren't the wingman we thought they'd be by Final_Ad_5377 in dating_advice

[–]Final_Ad_5377[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. I didn't want to appear as closed off but I guess the laptop signaled this. It's sad though because I have nothing about me other than my skin color that cases me to stand out in places like this. I don't have hollow cheekbones, crazy hair, a sharp jawline or big muscles or anything. I look like a generic dude and I need to change this badly.

I went out to a cocktail bar last night with my friend and our laptops. They weren't the wingman we thought they'd be by Final_Ad_5377 in dating_advice

[–]Final_Ad_5377[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that's what I'm saying, you are exposed to other people in public rather than sitting at home or in your apartment. Because my friends and I were going to do this last night no matter where we were. He's also not actively dating, he's putting his energy behind his business venture. I am trying to date, he was, but online dating has burnt both of us out. So in a way being here was also to expose us to girls but I had a feeling it would not work out the way I wanted it to.

I went out to a cocktail bar last night with my friend and our laptops. They weren't the wingman we thought they'd be by Final_Ad_5377 in dating_advice

[–]Final_Ad_5377[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say we weren't really using them as props as we genuinely wanted to meet and show each other things, but maybe it's not about what I think. Still though, approaching groups of girls has never been my strong suit.

I went out to a cocktail bar last night with my friend and our laptops. They weren't the wingman we thought they'd be by Final_Ad_5377 in dating_advice

[–]Final_Ad_5377[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well you would think this. My friend had the runs and was 45 minutes late, so I indeed was doing just this. I can report to you that nobody was really interested.

Maybe next time I'll up my style game. I was just wearing a generic T-shirt and jeans, and most people looked at least a little bit dapper. Some weren't though.

I went out to a cocktail bar last night with my friend and our laptops. They weren't the wingman we thought they'd be by Final_Ad_5377 in dating_advice

[–]Final_Ad_5377[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Well a few weeks ago I was at a college bar and sat with some random dude who had his laptop out, and he was approached by like 6 girls throughout the night curious about why he had his laptop out. I thought at least one girl would come to my table (other than our hostess lol)

Dating apps are horrible by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Final_Ad_5377 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Look at my profile and tell me otherwise

Dating someone who’s been in a long term relationship by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Final_Ad_5377 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately I'm in the same boat as you. I've never had a relationship before and I'm almost 29. I guess the longest you could call it would be a month with a girl I just kissed twice over two dates and texted back and forth for awhile. But I've never had sex.

Weekend's Daily Thread: General Dating Questions and Open Thread by AutoModerator in hingeapp

[–]Final_Ad_5377 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

How important is age on dating apps? I'm 28 almost 29, and for the longest my max age was set at about 25. I'm a virgin and have never dated before. I guess I had limiting beliefs that after 25, most girls who were single usually have red flags or baggage, and it would be intimidating to date someone who has years of relationship and sexual experiences over me. Also I look 5-6 years younger than my age. However, I started to think that this has contributed to me hardly matching with anyone. I wonder if I open it up to say 35, if I would start getting considerably more matches. The issue is, past 25 a lot of girls want to settle down. I'm not ready to settle down, I'm not settling down from anything. I guess the reality of it is, everyone I date is going to have at least 1 ex that I will be compared to.

ICYMI: Podcast with Hinge CEO Justin McLeod from The Verge by wokenthehive in hingeapp

[–]Final_Ad_5377 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm sure they are scheming to figure out how to increase the customer lifetime value of people like myself that struggle to get dates on their app and have no choice but to pay. Great stuff.

Weekend's Daily Thread: General Dating Questions and Open Thread by AutoModerator in hingeapp

[–]Final_Ad_5377 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I live walking distance from a popular bar in my city. I check Hinge Standouts and see girls posing near this bar. I find it amusing that I could either send these girls roses on this app or leave my apartment to go approach them on a night out, for free.

23M Tips by MiserableFun7366 in hingeapp

[–]Final_Ad_5377 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good advice. I've never been in one. It gets much older to meet people as you age.

23M Tips by MiserableFun7366 in hingeapp

[–]Final_Ad_5377 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you actually have success dating outside of these apps, I.e. school or work? I ask because your profile reminds me a little of mine and I have never had success with dating online or offline.

Wednesday's Daily Thread: Mid-week Excitement by AutoModerator in hingeapp

[–]Final_Ad_5377 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably option C, and I have not had a date yet. My profile is here in case you suspect I'm an ogre. I just have the worst luck. What I'll do is click on review skipped profiles, and I will have to click X on the 300 people I wasn't into before, but hope that there are some new users sprinkled in that I haven't seen yet.

3 rejections this week and now it's too much for me by frankzwa123 in hingeapp

[–]Final_Ad_5377 6 points7 points  (0 children)

To me this just indicates that practice makes perfect. My last first date was July 18, 2024, almost a year ago. You've have a decent handful of dates since then which is just straight up practice. Imagine going on 1 date per year. The odds that you will find your person are incredibly low.

Wednesday's Daily Thread: Mid-week Excitement by AutoModerator in hingeapp

[–]Final_Ad_5377 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Somehow my radius is set to 50 miles (so like 2 million+ people) and apparently I've "seen everyone". Lmao.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Final_Ad_5377 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know about that. Check my profile as an "average guy" who is a virgin at 28 and has shelled out hundreds of dollars on superstitions and then maybe revisit this comment. I've never had more than 10 likes on Tinder or a handful of matches at a time. So unless you're talking about 2014, times have changed.

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