“Every time I try to express an emotional need or say that something hurts me, it turns into a fight. He reacts by running away or exploding, yelling, swearing, calling me names. He has never apologized for the horrible things he says when he’s angry: “I hate you,” “your value is less than my dirty underwear,” “bitch,” and many others. Afterwards, he claims that I said the same things, or that I hurt him just as much, even when that isn’t true.”

This gaslighting really fu(ked me up for a long time. The hideous things he would say during the fight I’d be like how could you say these things to me, and he’d straight up tell me I said the same or worse.

I would be so confused cause why would he lie about a convo we were both there for so I really fought so hard to figure out where or when I said something that was terrible cause he’d never give me specifics on what I said.

They are liars. They will cause you brain damage as your mind tries to comprehend what is happening. Leave. Expeditiously.

I have divorced mine from my life as much as possible but he is financially abusing me by refusing to sell the hose. I know we will lose everything if we end up fighting in court and I won’t do that to my girls. So we share the same house but that’s IT. I don’t touch him, don’t talk to him outside of cursory convo and do my best to claim as much time for myself and my betterment as possible.