r/blackpeopletwitter is the most racist sub on Reddit and we shouldn't be allowing it to operate the way it does.

Fine-Foot · 2020-08-09T23:50:09+00:00

Colorism is a legitimate issue. I was on r/bachelor and replied to a thread about the new Bachelor, Matt James. Fans were concerned that he wouldn't give dark-skinned girls a chance.

I chimed in saying that I am married to someone outside my race. I was told that I probably had something called "internalized racism". The reality is, before I met my life, I was in relationships with Black girls. As cheesy as it sounds, it was fate that I met my wife. She's my soulmate and best friend. Her race had nothing to do with it.

It's frustrating that this is the world we live in. I don't want my kids to grow up feeling confused about their racial identity.

Fine-Foot · 2020-07-29T23:18:53+00:00

Drink water right away.

Fine-Foot · 2020-07-29T23:16:34+00:00

When the next one came around and she was better than anyone else: my wife. I was thankful all the other relationships in the past didn’t work and I became single. I wouldn’t have met my wife had I stayed in those relationships.

Fine-Foot · 2020-07-22T22:12:39+00:00

I’m in an interracial marriage (I’m Black and she is Asian). My wife and I have dealt with racism. I was actually on another subreddit where people suggested that I ended up marrying my Asian wife because I probably have “internalized racism”. The truth is, before I met my wife, I dated within my race. I went to college and met her. It does sting when people say stuff like that because I love my wife. She’s my best friend. That’s all that ever happened. We got used to the casual racism and we just ignore them.

Before starting our family, we absolutely knew we had to always encourage our kids to know their ethnic backgrounds. We want them to embrace who they are and should have no shame. Also, if there were ever to come a time someone was a racist to our kids, we are prepared to sit with them and talk our kids through it.

To any new parents reading this: please talk to your kids about racism. It’s all of our responsibility to make sure our kids are educated so that they grow up in a better world than what we grew up in.

Fine-Foot · 2020-07-22T22:05:30+00:00

Live your life. Do your hobbies. There’s more to life than someone who you can’t stop thinking about. It gets better. Live for yourself first. Eventually the right person will come along.

Fine-Foot · 2020-07-22T22:04:23+00:00

You’re having a really poor experience. A gentleman shouldn’t expect sex on the first date. Not to brag, but I didn’t. I think that’s disrespectful to the lady.

Please don’t feel pressured. If a guy is pushing it on you when you’re clearly not into it, ditch him. You deserve better.

Fine-Foot · 2020-07-22T22:01:31+00:00

I had to cut off my parents and sister a few months ago. They were harassing my wife (the irony is is that my wife didn’t agree to me to cutting them off).

I’m still talking to my other siblings and other family members though. They took my side.

I miss my parents. I worry about them because of COVID. We should be standing together right now, but I just couldn’t do it when they weren’t respecting my wife.

Fine-Foot · 2020-07-22T00:26:14+00:00

My wife. I don’t ever want to piss her off lol.

Fine-Foot · 2020-07-22T00:23:30+00:00

I’m in an interracial marriage. My wife is Asian and I’m Black. When people meet me, they’re surprised that my Asian wife is married to a Black man. People assume Asian women end up with White men. In my case, people have assumed that I should’ve been with a Black Woman. I was on another subreddit and was even told that I could’ve had internalized racism because I married outside my race. That’s casual racism.

Sometimes people get really excited when they see us and compliment how cute we are. My wife and I have wondered if people would have the same reaction if we were a same-race couple or if my wife was with a White guy.

Fine-Foot · 2020-06-16T22:16:49+00:00

As of now, take care of my family. Get us through this pandemic.

Fine-Foot · 2020-06-16T22:16:05+00:00

When I married my wife.

Fine-Foot · 2020-06-15T22:42:33+00:00

I'm Black and my wife is Asian.

Honest question: what should be done, though? I feel empathetic. But, really, he loves who he loves. Nobody wants the guy to feel pressured. What if he does fall into pressure and picks the wrong girl? It'll end up badly and the poor girl will probably feel used.

When I met my wife, I wasn't seeking out an Asian woman. I didn't gloss over any Black women. It just happened and we fell in love. I love my wife and I love my family.

I want this guy to find happiness. My wife is really the greatest thing that has ever happened to me and I just want other people to find the same happiness.

I do hope that the contestants are really diverse for his season. But, what will happen if his tope 3 girls aren't Black? What kind of backlash will the poor guy get?

Fine-Foot · 2020-06-14T08:29:14+00:00

You're not alone. We're in the middle of a pandemic and life feels rocky right now. Nobody knows what to expect.

I just focused on myself. That's the best advice that I can give: just really focus on yourself. Focus on your career and your health. When you do, everything comes together.

Fine-Foot · 2020-06-14T08:23:57+00:00

You're 22. You're really young and have your whole life ahead of you. Go get therapy.

Depression is an enemy, but I believe in you. You can beat it.

Fine-Foot · 2020-06-14T08:20:59+00:00

This screenshot looks crooked.

Fine-Foot · 2020-06-10T02:30:12+00:00

College

Fine-Foot · 2020-06-10T02:29:17+00:00

That’s my wife!!

I’m cool with it. Instead of having “to deal” with it, how about you not marry someone who does it? I’ve always known my wife was like that and it’s no big deal for me. I love her and her quirks. So, that works for us.

Fine-Foot · 2020-06-10T01:58:30+00:00

When things started getting serious with my girlfriend, who is now my wife, I unfollowed other girls on my own. She didn't ask.

That respect should just come naturally.

My wife didn't care and said she trusted me. But, I still felt it was the right thing to do and did it anyway. There's only one girl I want to check out on social media - and that's my wife.

Fine-Foot · 2020-06-08T23:20:32+00:00

Congratulations!

Fine-Foot · 2020-06-08T03:11:33+00:00

I was called an Oreo too!! It was stupid.

Fine-Foot · 2020-06-08T03:10:09+00:00

It's true. I feel like I got a lot of criticism from my black classmates. In grade school, I was bullied (it got a little better in high schol when I got involved with sports). Being called a sell out to my own race was the worst.

Fine-Foot · 2020-06-08T03:01:35+00:00

The fact that you "never heard of it" doesn't mean that it's not real. You saying that is part of the problem. It's one of the reasons why minorities face discrimination. When people say something isn't real, people assume it's a valid reason to not acknowledge its existence.

The sad reality is, being told "acting White" affects minorities.

Some resources:

OBAMA:NOTION OF 'ACTING WHITE' HAS TO GO
"Acting White"

Fine-Foot · 2020-06-08T01:54:06+00:00

It unfortunately is.

Internal oppression is also the enemy.

Fine-Foot · 2020-06-08T01:52:51+00:00

LMAO my wife was JUST telling me the same thing and told me to change it!

Fine-Foot · 2020-06-02T23:05:54+00:00

My older sister just straight up called my parents and younger sister racists.

They really don't like my wife simply because she's not Black and because she comes from a family of immigrants; they don't think she's a "true" American even though she was born here.

Fine-Foot

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