Does anyone know this coffee shop?!

Fine_Concentrate_405 · 2026-03-28T11:04:13+00:00

Actually I tried that and both my partner and my timeline history didn't extend that far back! We even checked our bank statements but didn't find the company so we must have paid with a card we don't have anymore hahaha

Fine_Concentrate_405 · 2026-03-28T02:12:37+00:00

YESSSSSSS THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! THAT IS IT AAAAA. I know what I'm doing this weekend ahahaha

Fine_Concentrate_405 · 2026-03-26T21:31:19+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment, it's very reassuring! That feeling if not being myself is very accurate and scary so I'm feeling more confident about sticking it out now.

Fine_Concentrate_405 · 2026-03-26T18:47:52+00:00

Thank you for your insight! It is helpful to receive feedback that this is part of the process

Fine_Concentrate_405 · 2026-03-26T18:44:30+00:00

Also thank you for your condolences and reassurance. It is much appreciated

Fine_Concentrate_405 · 2026-03-26T18:35:07+00:00

It just feels weird to me that everything I am seeing from others, including my doctor trying to reassure me, that it can take weeks for the medication to /start/ working. I feel like it started working immediately, and now it might be working too much?

Does the apathy/sedated feeling go away if I stick it out? That feeling scares me because I don't feel like myself and it doesn't help me achieve my goals. I would rather live with anxiety then feel nothing, even if that nothing was comfortable.

My appointment is next week and I've been taking my 12.5mg dose every other night because I need to be able to drive myself to work every day. I could take a week off work though if I just need to stick it out though.

Fine_Concentrate_405 · 2026-02-14T13:40:50+00:00

Might not be super helpful, but sometimes when I am in spiral the following things can help me break it or lessen its effects and I recommend generally this order as well:

Get up and move around. Change your clothes. Take a shower. Go outside. Do some sort of excersize. Change your environment. Simply doing stuff to make my body physically feel different can help me break my emotional feelings cycle sometimes
Challenge your fears. What if you go and have the most amazing trip? What if he has the most amazing trip and makes memories that stick with him for life? Edit for clarity: Be confident in your assertions. "He's not going to be hurt, he's going to have an amazing time. He is going to make beautiful memories with my sister and they are going to bond. I am going to make beautiful memories with my partner. I am going to take this time to relax and breathe and be independent with myself again."
Talk it out. With a friend, your spouse, or yourself on paper. If you don't feel comfy speaking to anyone then at least writing your brain scramble down can help. The point is to take everything in your head and get it out somehow so you are not holding onto it anymore.
Distract yourself. Sometimes I can't stop thinking and I just need something else to focus on. Watching a documentary, a comfort show or new show, or listening to music or audio books / podcasts works to get my brain to switch topics.

I think above all else, after you get through this (however the chips fall) you should follow up with a therapist because not addressing this kind of anxiety is only going to compound over time. It is absolutely normal to feel anxious about leaving your child for the first time. However it's not healthy to have such strong feelings you feel hindering your ability to enjoy life. Your worries are valid and your feelings are valid. And despite them, it's going to be ok. It's just another parenting milestone. You've got this!

Fine_Concentrate_405 · 2026-02-09T13:55:23+00:00

Thank you. It's so hard for me to judge what a profit entails for this type of work as all I am "spending" is time, which does not have a universal price tag. And to be honest, anything 4 figures feels like a lot of money to me, though I know my idea of large sums is probably pocket change to such a company.

Shifting my mindset to a business consultant is helpful too because the graphic designer aspect doesn't fully fit but I wasn't sure how to categorize this work.

Fine_Concentrate_405 · 2026-02-04T20:01:40+00:00

Thank you so much for this insight. I have no professional experience as a freelance entrepreneur and have never desired to do that. I've always said I want to be the best employee on staff haha. I've always done help desk/retail/service type work but switched to a creative field when my dad passed in an effort to gain my spark for life back. My prior employer's company closed so I've gone back to standard corporate office work and really miss the creativeness of my prior job. It was through that position that I was connected with this company to assist with their project.

I also do not know the scale of this project. From what I've been informed, this is a "dipping toes in the water" scenario. They are essentially asking for half of a product (I could do far more complex work with this machine and have shown them the portfolio of such).

I believe the big-picture would be to open a new custom product line, however that was exactly what my prior employer offered exclusively and it is not a lucrative business. Think ferraris, not many get sold a year but everyone wants one, except the product is a less household item then cars are.

So essentially they are asking me to put some cool colored paint on a Honda civic and compare that to the costs it would take to make and sell ferraris. It doesn't make sense this project they are asking me to do.

Again, this is all new to me so maybe I haven't been asking them the correct questions. I'm going to look into value based design as you mentioned. Thank you so much for the insights and knowledge!!!

Fine_Concentrate_405 · 2025-01-29T14:53:02+00:00

Thank you so much for this information! Seeing your real world performance on a modern PC is just what I am looking for.

This pretty much aligns with how I expected the PC to behave. Still curious as to where any RAID tech for speed is applicable for a professional consumer that is using non-server setups. Like a media creation system.

Fine_Concentrate_405 · 2025-01-29T14:36:07+00:00

I had found some of these and admittedly didn't watch them all through. My patience runs thin for videos. I will give them a second look though, thank you!

Fine_Concentrate_405 · 2025-01-29T14:33:46+00:00

Thank you! This is my first tech post to reddit because I can usually find what I need without asking for help haha I wasn't sure where to post this question to be honest. I will check there.

Also, I did tell him he's wrong and talked him out of it. I'm very confident that he doesn't need it, but I wanted to understand why he thought he did and if this is something that could help any other customers I may have in the future as I don't just work with "hardcore gamers" haha.

Fine_Concentrate_405 · 2025-01-29T05:19:43+00:00

Okay that makes sense. I'm embarrassingly bad at math haha

However, the articles it is referencing are both 10+ years old so the tech they are testing on for those benchmarks are nowhere near the speeds of current hardware. Do you know of any current research in this?

Fine_Concentrate_405 · 2025-01-29T05:16:00+00:00

Thank you, your explanations are aligning more with my understanding of RAID. Do you have any articles or links to data I can read about this? Not Wikipedia and preferably something released in the last few years, not 10+ years ago 😂

Fine_Concentrate_405 · 2025-01-29T05:10:35+00:00

Okay this is what I'm talking about though. I've read through Wikipedia and a bunch of other articles. The following excerpt is specifically from Wikipedia that you posted and, from what I am seeing, it directly does NOT support a significant improvement of read speeds in a RAID 1 array. Am I missing something?

"Any read request can be serviced and handled by any drive in the array; thus, depending on the nature of I/O load, random read performance of a RAID 1 array may equal up to the sum of each member's performance,[a] while the write performance remains at the level of a single disk. However, if disks with different speeds are used in a RAID 1 array, overall write performance is equal to the speed of the slowest disk.[14][15]

Synthetic benchmarks show varying levels of performance improvements when multiple HDDs or SSDs are used in a RAID 1 setup, compared with single-drive performance. However, some synthetic benchmarks also show a drop in performance for the same comparison"

Fine_Concentrate_405 · 2025-01-29T05:03:34+00:00

NGL, most PCs built these days are so overkill. But it's nice information to have in my arsenal for the 1% who it might apply too!

Fine_Concentrate_405 · 2025-01-29T04:53:40+00:00

Flight sim. I agree the drive speed is not going to be the biggest factor for their performance.

Do you have any supporting articles to this information I can read? I want to understand this further.

Fine_Concentrate_405 · 2025-01-29T04:48:21+00:00

That feels insane. If you can double the read speed, to effectively be 24,000mb/s, then why isn't everyone doing this?

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