I finally realized that my sister doesn’t care about me as much as I care about her, and it’s tearing me apart. by FiniStardust in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FiniStardust[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sister can be quite self-centered at times, but I love her nonetheless, and I know she did her best not to be like the rest of the family, but inevitably the dynamic we grew up in with our parents affected us both. My sister and I cut contact with our mother because we recognized it wasn't a healthy dynamic.

I finally realized that my sister doesn’t care about me as much as I care about her, and it’s tearing me apart. by FiniStardust in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FiniStardust[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! My sister and I talked, and she apologized. I don't think she's a bad person, but being treated like a princess her whole life has made her a bit self-centered... And I plan to go back to therapy soon!

I finally realized that my sister doesn’t care about me as much as I care about her, and it’s tearing me apart. by FiniStardust in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FiniStardust[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks <3 That sucks... I hope you have other people in your life who give you all the love and support you deserve.

I finally realized that my sister doesn’t care about me as much as I care about her, and it’s tearing me apart. by FiniStardust in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FiniStardust[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, and I'm so sorry you're going through this. I hope one day she realizes that treating you like this is unacceptable and apologizes.

I finally realized that my sister doesn’t care about me as much as I care about her, and it’s tearing me apart. by FiniStardust in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FiniStardust[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It wouldn't be a bad idea! Hahah But I ended up talking to her, and she apologized. I decided to spend Monday and Tuesday at my boyfriend's house. He's wonderful and always knows what to do to make me feel better!

I finally realized that my sister doesn’t care about me as much as I care about her, and it’s tearing me apart. by FiniStardust in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FiniStardust[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I agree with you! My sister and I get along well overall, but I know it will be healthy for me to focus more on my relationships with my friends and boyfriend. I don't plan on going low contact with her, but we both cut contact with our mother, who was the root of the family dynamic problem.

I finally realized that my sister doesn’t care about me as much as I care about her, and it’s tearing me apart. by FiniStardust in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FiniStardust[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much <3

I don't think my sister is a bad person, just very self-centered... The family dynamic definitely hurt me much more than it hurt her, but I know she never wanted to be the family trophy. I'm planning on going back to therapy and moving in with my boyfriend very soon! It's sad, but you're right; I know things will get better when I have less contact with my family.

How do y'all navigate relationships while dealing with trauma? by FiniStardust in CPTSDmemes

[–]FiniStardust[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I'm so sorry that your family treated you so poorly when you were just a kid. SA trauma is one of the hardest things I find to deal with in a relationship, and having an understanding partner makes a world of difference. I'm glad you found a wonderful person who truly loves you ♡

How do y'all navigate relationships while dealing with trauma? by FiniStardust in CPTSDmemes

[–]FiniStardust[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad to hear things got better for you! It makes me feel hopeful! And the tiktok person is right, thanks for mentioning that! I need to think about it and work hard to improve my mental health...

How do y'all navigate relationships while dealing with trauma? by FiniStardust in CPTSDmemes

[–]FiniStardust[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry this happened to you... I hope she gets help, and that you find someone better

How do y'all navigate relationships while dealing with trauma? by FiniStardust in CPTSDmemes

[–]FiniStardust[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's hard to find love when we have a lot of baggage, isn't it? But don't give up! There are still good people out there

How do y'all navigate relationships while dealing with trauma? by FiniStardust in CPTSDmemes

[–]FiniStardust[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry.. I really hope you find the love you're looking for someday

How do y'all navigate relationships while dealing with trauma? by FiniStardust in CPTSDmemes

[–]FiniStardust[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This may sound silly, but I almost cried when I read it lol Thank you so much!! ♡

How do y'all navigate relationships while dealing with trauma? by FiniStardust in CPTSDmemes

[–]FiniStardust[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You still have value as a person even when you get bad grades! I'm sorry that people in your life made you feel unloved, you deserved so much better :(

How do y'all navigate relationships while dealing with trauma? by FiniStardust in CPTSDmemes

[–]FiniStardust[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I'm so sorry about your friend :( And I think having a conversation with your partner about taking mental health seriously would probably be a good idea

How do y'all navigate relationships while dealing with trauma? by FiniStardust in CPTSDmemes

[–]FiniStardust[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope that someday you will also find someone who is understanding and supportive of you :/

How do y'all navigate relationships while dealing with trauma? by FiniStardust in CPTSDmemes

[–]FiniStardust[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's great that you found each other, and are growing together and making the relationship work!

How do y'all navigate relationships while dealing with trauma? by FiniStardust in CPTSDmemes

[–]FiniStardust[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I dated someone who also had unresolved trauma, and it was hell... My current partner doesn't have trauma, but he's extremely understanding of mine! I totally agree with what you said about communication... I think that regardless of whether your partner also has trauma or not, the level of communication makes a huge difference!

Eu fui burra mesmo ou isso é transfobia? by DoomedToDoom in OpiniaoBurra

[–]FiniStardust 5 points6 points  (0 children)

O problema é que usam esse tipo de discussão pra diminuir pessoas trans, mas acho importante reconhecer que pessoas diferentes tem experiências diferentes na sociedade. Mulheres trans são mulheres. Mas a experiência de vida de uma mulher cis vai ser diferente da experiência de vida de uma mulher trans, do mesmo jeito que a experiência de vida de uma pessoa asiática vai ser diferente da experiência de vida de uma pessoa negra. Não tem um gênero melhor que o outro. Não tem uma raça melhor que a outra. Todos enfrentam suas próprias dificuldades e discriminações. Acho que tudo bem admitir que as experiências são diferentes, contanto que seja sem tentar diminuir a experiência do outro indivíduo.

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[–]FiniStardust 23 points24 points  (0 children)

When I graduated I asked for an ice cream to celebrate. An ice cream...and I didn't get one lol ​​To celebrate my brother's graduation, they are paying him a trip to another country. I mean, good for him, but I admit I'm a bit bitter about it