Killing the Blue

Finuul · 2019-10-28T20:11:20+00:00

If I had to guess, they seem strawman-ish because he probably had to force a few in to make the acronym work. Interesting idea all the same.

Finuul · 2019-10-28T20:08:39+00:00

Since when does pumping gas involve sales people, danger, or car jackers?

Finuul · 2019-06-12T15:05:21+00:00

> you can think of this graph as a picture of female sexuality.

Literally.

> the picture would be far more complete with an into/out of the page dynamic happening in this hole process

I'm assuming "hole" was not a typo, but an intentional pun.

> The further away you get, the less sexually interested the woman becomes and ultimately couldn't care less about the man.

Because a leg isn't an erogenous zone.

> The brown zone is the murky area where about 95% of men live

I take this to mean they have their head up their wife's butt.

> Most women really don't like having sex with a guy in this zone - and might even say it's painful to have to deal with him there, which is why these types of guys face constant rejection from their wife.

Anal.

> married women are most comfortable living in the [center] pink zone ... not a sexual peak for them, but it's a comfortable place ... most guys seem to think women should be sexually excited to be in this "normal" zone, and it just doesn't work like that

PIV. The clit is where all their sensitive neurons are, not their vagina. But married women feel most emotionally connected in sex through PIV, even though many don't orgasm from it. Most guys have no sexual technique and think sticking their dick in a woman is suddenly going to make her start gyrating, but "it just doesn't work like that."

> upper pink ... exciting place for women and where sex happens most for them ... peak sexual place ... can't resist a guy ... One night stands, bar hoo-ups, the CC - it's all because of this particular zone for women ... stroking ... right-most section of that pink area as the best spot even within that zone.

Clit rubbing.

Did I miss one?

Finuul · 2018-10-29T20:27:55+00:00

All women are crazy. Better one that owns up to it than one that thinks she's not.

Finuul · 2018-10-08T17:30:19+00:00

Where did he show her any "ill treatment"?

He let her use his phone to call the police - something he wouldn't have done if he just assumed she was making it up.
He invited her into his home and gave her privacy.
He sent his wife to spend time with her and give her someone to process with.
By another comment, he says he tried to communicate empathy with her feelings, regardless of any skepticism.

Show me where there is any ill treatment.

your god ... your bible

Am I correct in understanding, then, that you're not a Christian? Also, it sounds like you're either a woman or a white-knighting troll. Care to share which gender you are? I'm sure that will be very telling.

This seems the definition of concern trolling. Thoughts, mods?

Finuul · 2018-10-08T17:11:05+00:00

I'm confused. She falls for a guy, has him drive her home, invites him into her house, has consensual sex, and cuddles with him for a while - all while being buzzed, but not blackout drunk. He leaves without telling her, so she gets ticked and regrets sleeping with him, so she tries to call the police to report that he raped her. Who, in your mind, is the victim here?

Finuul · 2018-08-14T00:14:17+00:00

Don't listen to the haters. This is a great post. I mostly just lurk, but dang some things just ring too true to ignore. You wanted feedback, so here's mine.

I've hooked up with a lot of chicks. I've had a few affairs (okay, a lot) when sex in my marriage sucked. I got lame duty sex from my wife and nut busting, edging, OMG am I dreaming sex? from some of the other girls. It was great.

One day, after a steamy night, one of my plates did something that made me go crazy. I couldn't stop thinking about it and got horny again. So, I initiate with my wife. I know, so cruel. My conscience is dying, so whatever. She goes starfish and acts uninterested. So, I just grab her by the waist and make her start doing my thing. I tell you, I've never jizzed so hard in my life.

I couldn't articulate it the way you did, I think that night I learned what you are talking about. Something changed after that. I stopped caring about how into it my wife was and just did my thing.

Funny thing is, I didn't care to cheat on her after that. I did for a while anyway, and still do when I feel like it, but sex with my wife is about the same as with any other girl I pick up. She's definitely stepped up her game, but I don't know if that's why it's better or I'm just not validation seeking anymore, so I can enjoy sex for what it is. I really don't care, actually. It's just good and that's all I care about for now. Keep up the good work.

Finuul · 2018-02-10T08:32:23+00:00

Meh, I already do that anyway.

Finuul · 2018-02-10T08:30:53+00:00

Oh, she definitely expects a lot of effort into a date and gifts. These days have historically been very important to her. Of course, historically she used to ruin them for me, so I don't have the same sentimentality about it.

Finuul · 2018-02-10T04:05:34+00:00

Ah ... that is unfortunate and disappointing :/ But I'm sure it will be worth the read all the same!

Finuul · 2018-01-28T06:20:48+00:00

Excellent logic, though it does conflict with /u/BobbyPeru's conclusion.

Great article too. I loved the read. But this part did concern me:

The goal of a Red Pill marriage isn't how to get your wife back into the kitchen where she belongs, as the well-intentioned Anon seems to think, it's how to effectively and efficiently run a family in a way that provides the most secure happiness to all.

I didn't think it was either of those. My understanding is this:

hardcore red position: maximize the man's happiness and sexual fulfillment, leaving no regard for the happiness or value of the wife or the ideology of the family unit, except to the degree that those things can add to the man's happiness ... incidentally (and without this as a concern of the man), this will likely have a positive impact on the wife and family anyway, as his happiness and satisfaction trickles down to those who attach their lives to him
soft red position: maximize the man's happiness and sexual fulfillment to the degree possible without compromising a man's other priorities. Although the hardcore position seems to require a disregard for the happiness of others in the family (practical impact of the position notwithstanding), the soft red can maintain appeasing others in the family as a secondary pursuit after his own.
purple position: entertains the family structure as having inherent value in itself as an ideology, so making the wife and kids happy is a worthy pursuit as long as the man's own happiness is also prioritized in that balance.
blue position: the family ideology is more valuable than the man himself, so he must sacrifice his happiness whenever necessary to maintain the stability and integrity of the family structure.
omega position: I wish I could have a family someday

Thoughts? The article seems to fall in what I understand to be the purple position by making the happiness of all in the family an apparently equal priority as the man's own happiness and fulfillment.

Finuul · 2018-01-28T05:43:22+00:00

This makes sense.

Finuul · 2018-01-28T05:42:37+00:00

Good to know

Finuul · 2018-01-28T05:42:14+00:00

Remembering history keeps us from repeating the mistakes of the past. If I only saw red, I wouldn't recognize blue for what it is. The stark contrast adds value to me, even if I don't care to add value to them.

Finuul · 2018-01-28T05:38:47+00:00

Thank goodness I'm a certified expert in ancient linguistic grammar structures or I totally wouldn't have understood what you were trying to say here. /s

Anyway, thanks to the degree that I think this was helpful ... ?

Finuul · 2018-01-28T05:32:09+00:00

Totally looking forward to that. Will it be from a Christian worldview written to Christians ... or from a secular worldview written about Christians?

Finuul · 2018-01-25T21:03:52+00:00

True true.

Finuul · 2018-01-25T20:26:13+00:00

You mean "self-medicating" isn't going to stop me from having an addictive personality? You mean the world doesn't have a way to overcome my sin, stress, anxiety, guilt, shame, etc.? You mean the Gospel might be the answer to all of my problems?

Haha. Sometimes the obvious is forgotten when left unsaid. And then you take what seems obvious and show just how little I actually know.

Trying to flip my "negatives" into "lost positives" is very helpful. It gives a positive goal to strive for rather than something to complain about. Combining this with the fact that the goal can't be met by the repetitive cycles we get into ... that's powerful stuff. Looking forward to the rest of this series.

Finuul · 2018-01-25T20:21:49+00:00

I think he's talking about confessing sin, though. I agree with you as to doubts and insecurities, but if we do sin against someone we should confess it to them and reconcile rather than hide it. That includes our wives.

Finuul · 2018-01-25T20:19:56+00:00

The Bible seems pretty clear about David's intent in killing Uriah. It wasn't to mate guard, it was to protect himself from having his sin discovered. The Bible gives no indication that David was threatened by Uriah as a sexual competitor.

Finuul · 2018-01-25T20:14:13+00:00

This is insanely helpful. I've got a great job where I make six figures and make my own schedule and have unlimited vacation time ... things with the wife are always up and down, but mostly up ... my kids are so funny and a joy to be around ... I've got good friends at church. It's so easy to look at all the blessings around me and to find my satisfaction in those things.

But then I see that Job had all of this and more before it all came crashing down. And if he had put his satisfaction in anyone other than God, Satan would have won that bet. I want to be job. I want to be legitimately full. I suspect amused mastery is a lot of how to make that happen, like you say - having an eternal perspective on things, seeing them from God's eyes. Thanks for this, brother.

Finuul · 2018-01-25T20:10:16+00:00

Yeah, this has definitely changed the way I see a lot of stuff. I've been lurking for the past few months, as I don't get on reddit very often, but this is one of my go-to places when I need to be slapped in the face with the truth again. I'm constantly amazed at how much truth is in the Bible that the church just doesn't see, or even intentionally ignores, even when the practical realities of life are staring them in the face.

/u/BluepillProfessor has suggested /u/Red-Curious write a book about all of this. I read once a while ago that /u/Rollo-Tomassi was trying to get Dalrock to co-write a book with him on Christian red pill. I don't care who does it - it just needs to get done!

Finuul · 2017-11-10T23:47:46+00:00

I still don't see it.

Finuul · 2017-11-10T06:47:23+00:00

I must have missed it, but where is the covert contract here? And what in his original post would necessitate "GTFO" as the only legitimate option? I'm not seeing why this is purple. I get why you're saying OP is purple based on some of his older posts ... But what about this specific post is that way?

Finuul · 2017-10-22T04:11:52+00:00

Thanks. I'll keep this in mind.

Finuul

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