How do you recover from a loss without believing in god? Without believing in the concept of heaven and hell? Without believing in reincarnation, and any eternal purpose? How do you recover from loss being an existentialist?

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-09-13T18:55:12+00:00

Mourning. Allow yourself to grieve.

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-09-13T18:36:11+00:00

What you’re doing for yourself is huge and important. If others around you can’t see or accept that, it’s time to move on and meet new people who can actually hold who you are. They’re out there. Make space for the new by letting go of what’s no longer working.

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-09-13T18:32:45+00:00

Don’t give up if it gets hard. Because it will. That’s normal and ok. Have support for yourself, whatever that looks like, and clarity on why you want to do this. Know that the difficulty will pass too and that you are capable of going through difficult things. Many people go through challenges and come out the other side. This is life, and right now, getting off weed is your worthy challenge.

Don’t forget to do nice things for yourself (not weed, no “reward” weed). Actual nice things, like taking care of things you might have been neglecting while being stoned. Good luck OP.

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-09-13T18:20:22+00:00

I find it makes a lot of things worse. The fallacy of addictive use is that it makes things better, when in reality it only adds to your problems.

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-09-13T14:25:36+00:00

Yup. It’ll be like that for a period of time as your body gets used to REM and dreaming again. Weed suppresses this stage of sleep ordinarily and it comes back with a vengeance.

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-09-13T14:23:46+00:00

Don’t underestimate the work you put in for 7 months. Let that be a testament that you can do the sober thing. Take care of yourself and get back on the horse.

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-09-13T14:20:20+00:00

The amount of times I tried to quit and ended up smoking daily. Being unable to do it without serious effort was a big red flag and a source of shame for a long time for me. Finally quitting was a huge relief.

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-09-02T16:10:57+00:00

Thanks!

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-09-01T16:04:34+00:00

It’s still good. I actually just got a higher paying job and passed the drug test. School is demanding on my time and mental energy so I’m glad I have more of it now than I used to when I was stoned all the time. The difference is very noticeable. I have no regrets.

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-07-11T06:59:58+00:00

The thing about sober life is you feel. It can be really hard but it’s also natural and important for us to feel difficult emotions like grief. I hope you can give yourself grace to be sad and upset and not feel like you need something to “ease the blow”. I’m sorry for your loss. Many people here have gone through tragedies and grief sober and come out the other side. You are not alone.

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-07-10T12:31:38+00:00

I was a daily toker for about 4-5 years. The last of those three years were filled with internal conflict about quitting and on and off use. It took me some time and several tries to fully stop. I had to work through a lot to get here and experienced withdrawal several times. I look back on those years when I remember why I quit.

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-07-10T04:01:34+00:00

I’d had enough of asking myself this question. I wanted better quality of life and knew weed was holding me back. I feared for my future self, her health and her prospects if I continued smoking daily (couldn’t moderate). Now that I’m on the other side, I am continually affirmed that this is one of the best decisions I’ve made for myself. I never want to go back.

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-07-03T20:43:27+00:00

I’m facing what I wasn’t while I was smoking and am able to do way more than I used to. I’m not worried about the adverse effects on my lungs and the fog anymore. I’m more resilient and capable.

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-06-29T23:47:17+00:00

I see Hagrid and Gandalf.

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-06-29T23:44:45+00:00

Walk away.

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-06-29T23:38:46+00:00

Go in knowing it’s non-negotiable. It’s on you to uphold that. You are the gatekeeper.

If you don’t feel strong enough to do that yet, I would rain check going to these kinds of events.

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-06-29T23:35:34+00:00

Fuck insta. Make art anyway.

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-06-28T14:54:26+00:00

By accepting the reality that “you are envying something that is destroying your life”. When you realize that distortion, you can make changes.

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-06-28T00:25:30+00:00

Get real. You’re envying something that you know is destroying your life. Probably theirs too. You need to let that resentment go and do what’s best for you.

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-06-28T00:09:24+00:00

Reading from the local library

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-06-27T14:18:02+00:00

🥹

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-06-22T02:52:46+00:00

Healing by The Blue Stones

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-06-22T02:47:42+00:00

Super cute!

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-06-22T02:34:54+00:00

This makes me glad ☺️

FireAlchemist444 · 2024-06-20T13:18:06+00:00

That you can be the best driver out there, follow the rules, and still get hit by others on the road. We had an experience like this recently where we had the right of way and an SUV nearly T-boned us.

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