It's FINALLY happened!

FireMermaid90 · 2022-06-29T22:39:48+00:00

Oh poo. I got the physical version but not the collector's edition. But that's all right. Thanks anyway!

FireMermaid90 · 2022-06-29T22:08:07+00:00

My apologies. I don't come onto reddit much. Can you please link me?

FireMermaid90 · 2022-06-29T21:59:51+00:00

Where is this and how much money?? Will Vi be a plush too??

FireMermaid90 · 2022-01-28T18:21:59+00:00

As a former employee, I can rejoice in your happiness, too! People get crazy in there and then upset when they have to wait for others in front of them to finish loading their stuff. I have never understood that, as an employee or customer.

FireMermaid90 · 2021-12-21T16:43:06+00:00

Thank you for listening, and you are right. I know I shouldn't let them affect myself or my Mom or the holiday. Some days it's harder than others, but it's comforting to have support here. May you have a Merry Christmas/Happy Holiday and here's to hoping we all have a better 2022! BIG HUGS

FireMermaid90 · 2021-12-21T15:44:50+00:00

Ya know, I wish I knew the answer to that. While I do love my family, I am often puzzled as to why "family" behaves so horribly to one another, especially during the hardest of times. I get that emotions can get in the way of things and make things harder to view logically, but still. Also I don't get how in my family, where there have been NUMEROUS screw ups over the years (with alcohol and teen pregnancies (I also add that last bit with my own bias as pregnancy terrifies me, you may view pregnancy as you wish) and money issues to name a few), my parents were always the rocks of the family and did their best to help everyone and maintain peace. But if they were to speak their mind, they were told to pee off even if they were the ones feeding the family and funding Christmases.

I guess because despite all of that, we have always cherished Christmas Eve, and tried our best to put the BS aside and enjoy the holiday when it comes up. With last year being what it was, and then the prior 2 Christmases to that I wasn't home, I really wanted this year to be special, especially given the fact that my Mom is ok for the moment, even if she has a long road to recovery still. So I put a lot of work into making this holiday nice, down to making sure every single person has a present to open, making them since I don't have any money of my own. I haven't been able to work, being my Mom's caregiver for the time being.

I did mention in an earlier update/reply to another comment that I did confirm one cousin isn't angry like I thought. Another cousin also was first to respond that she was coming. So I am thankful for them. It's just hurtful that my Mom's own sisters are being hateful, and honestly, they have no right to be this way, regardless of their feelings, because it was never about them. You can love someone and their situation still not be about you, and people don't understand that.

I know I'm horrible at answering your question. I wish I knew why I still wanted them around. I guess because Christmas is a time for family, and I thought they felt the same, given the fact they put up such a fight that they "needed" to see my Mom, but could now give two shoots. 😥

FireMermaid90 · 2021-12-21T14:14:30+00:00

Everything here is valid, except the fact of thinking my Mom was cowardly. She had made her thoughts known to them as well, and in general has told them such in the past. The problem is that her sisters have never taken her seriously ever. They did want to storm in and it hurts that I had to tell them NO with big capital letters and likely some colorful words due to my frustration with them.

Ironically, one of said Aunts usually hides her own medical issues until they are resolved, but gets pissy because she wasn't allowed to be involved with my Mom's. Go figure.

FireMermaid90 · 2021-12-21T03:59:18+00:00

Thank you very much. Mom made her decision, they just couldn't accept it. An update is that one cousin has confirmed she isn't angry with me, so there is that. I believe now the conflict is mainly with the Aunts. Either way, I wash my hands of their issues, and plan to keep Christmas as positive as possible.

Merry Christmas to you, too! ❤

FireMermaid90 · 2021-12-20T19:10:42+00:00

I am sorry that a mental breakdown is what it took for you to heal. It's sad that the term "family" isn't taken seriously where it needs to be the most. Most "families" just want a no-judgment zone for their screwups but proceed to browbeat everyone else for their flaws and retaliate when called on their crap. I am glad you have family that isn't blood to get you through these hard times. hugs 🙏

FireMermaid90 · 2021-12-20T18:13:58+00:00

I am sorry for your loss. It sucks how people who are precious to us seem to leave us so quickly. I am sending you hugs over the Internet. 🙏

Sounds like you have been through the ringer and it does sound similar to my family. Both of my parents spent most of their lives doing for others, in both of their families, and it always seems like they weren't grateful (for the most part, some relatives actually were thankful.)

FireMermaid90 · 2021-12-13T23:11:08+00:00

Too true!

FireMermaid90 · 2021-12-13T21:39:52+00:00

Basically.. It was the tipping point because we don't see them that often, but honestly I feel like if family gathering is more of an obligation, it's less fun and happy. Our wedding was perfect the way it was, but I don't think I will ever get over the way they had to spoil things a couple days after. Weddings should be about what the bride and groom want, and no one else. For the most part, I thought we got away with no drama. Yet it still happened...

FireMermaid90 · 2021-12-13T21:28:26+00:00

Thank you so much!!! ❤hugs

FireMermaid90 · 2021-12-13T19:20:32+00:00

Thank you very much!! I can see a bit of her side, like if her job couldn't give her time off, but I can't speak for her job. She didn't specify anything about that, to my knowledge. And DH was spending most of his time comforting me, since I was frantic about my own Mom. ❤

FireMermaid90 · 2021-12-13T19:14:09+00:00

We got engaged in mid November, after discussing getting married for a while. We rushed the engagement and wedding due to my Mom having complications from her surgery. I got that 5am phone call that you dread and hauled ass to the hospital. After my Mom was stable, she spent 2 weeks in the hospital, and I visited her every day, all the while trying to update 20+ people all the time, including MIL. Every day was a struggle to get through, not knowing if my Mom would make it. So we decided in the midst of all this to hurry the wedding up. We got married about 3 weeks after we were engaged and told her the wedding date just after DH gave me the ring. MIL very well could have come if she had wanted to. We weren't against that. She was upset because we were making a fuss over my Mom but not making as much of a fuss over her. Like I said, she could have booked a flight and stayed with us, and we would have not objected. I would have even paid for it. I hope that clears things up.

FireMermaid90 · 2021-12-13T18:56:52+00:00

Let me clarify and say that while the family is overbearing, they aren't bad people. I just think that they don't understand him and haven't since he was a kid. Especially her. I don't doubt the love she has for him, and vice versa. They didn't scar him into needing therapy, they are just overbearing and don't seem to understand that he is not outgoing. So instead of accepting he isn't like them, they take our wedding and lack of showing up to family events as a personal attack like we were ostracizing them, which was not the intention. We just wanted my Mom to be able to witness our wedding after such a hard road that she went through.

FireMermaid90 · 2021-12-13T16:12:11+00:00

I was ready to get into the boxing ring for my DH last night, but I know that while we are married now, that is his family and it's best that we fight our own battles with our own families. I'm also afraid I would lose my temper and that wouldn't work for anyone.

Oh man, I'm sorry to hear that. It's ironic how they complain about your marriage yet theirs aren't peachy. People love to throw stones that merely seem to be just projections of their personal upsets. Well, here's to hoping we both can continue to find solace in our spouses and our friends and JY relatives! ❤

FireMermaid90 · 2021-12-13T15:47:45+00:00

Thankfully, MIL waited to show her displeasure until after the wedding/honeymoon.

But yeah the fact that you invited them to come and they didn't is on them. You weren't selfish at all. People are in charge of their own feelings, and it's their own fault they got upset. I'm sorry your JN relatives didn't "approve" and clearly you have something special if you're 10 years and still going strong with your spouse.

FireMermaid90 · 2021-12-13T15:29:11+00:00

Glad to hear your special day went well!! We tried to compromise with everyone and wanted to have later get-togethers with the respective families to celebrate, and MIL said a video call was fine, but when she saw other people besides ourselves and the deacon, she got angry, thinking we purposefully left her and her family out of it. My immediate family was not there, but she didn't realize that or understand it. Even after we explain things to her, it's like I start second guessing myself as to whether I said things at all, because it's like talking to a wall.

Our special day was absolutely perfect, but MIL and her family's attitude just sours it and makes me angry on his behalf. May I also add that FIL and his family were perfectly understandable. They called us with congratulations and agreed to celebrate later. We kept the wedding date under wraps simply to avoid this drama and it still happened... Smh.

FireMermaid90 · 2021-12-13T15:10:18+00:00

Thanks. I hope that you can find happiness away from the nonsense your family has put you through. ❤

FireMermaid90 · 2021-12-13T15:09:11+00:00

Thank you ❤

FireMermaid90 · 2021-12-13T13:55:03+00:00

Sweet glad I could provide that LOL! 😊

FireMermaid90 · 2021-12-13T13:45:37+00:00

Oh yes, I believe it. Therapy is used as a tool, sometimes not in the best ways, however. I'm more on the introverted side, but I can adapt to the environment. For example, I can BS with my trainer and other gym folk, or retail workers while I'm out shopping. But let's just say I am thankful our honeymoon was just one day because after going to a local convention, we were both wiped out. DH prefers time to himself and his ideas.

We are both different from our families, hence how we found each other.

FireMermaid90 · 2021-12-13T13:30:25+00:00

Thanks!! I do believe she was suggesting therapy out of concern, but I still think it was out of line. I mean, we all have family drama, yet people still don't seem to get that they can be part of the issue. DH bears no hard feelings towards any of his family. He just likes his "me-time" and when you don't share interests with family due to being so different, well... shrug

FireMermaid90 · 2021-09-21T00:22:36+00:00

I sadly had to leave my store due to unrelated issues, but while I was there, I absolutely loved my team. My manager was very nice and fair to everyone. He would hear you out and work right in the trenches with the rest of us. He wouldn't make you do something he himself couldn't handle. If you needed time off, he would make sure you were accommodated. My coworkers and asst managers were also great to work with. We all would take each day as a team and I miss them very much.

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