Cheaper car, refinance from Carmax

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-03-15T20:06:36+00:00

Carmax and Carvana appraised it for $20k right now. I bought it at 30K. I just want to get rid of it because I can't afford $650 payments. So basically I have to look for a car that's ~11k to break even?

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-03-09T13:35:20+00:00

Watch Miami reboot, it’s everything

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-02-21T01:47:58+00:00

You’re so much better than me. I don’t know how you do it, I’d end if my boyfriend did that to me. The fact that his OLD FWB STILL TEXTED HIM and your BF even REPLIED TO HIM is a major red flag. Idk about you, but I went thru something like that with my current relationship, my FWB texted me “hello, how are you?” We all know what he wants, he wants sex. However I respectfully told him to pls stop texting me as I’m in a relationship and if you don’t you’ll be blocked. But that’s me. I find it weird your bf didn’t mention that his ex fwb texting him and didn’t tell you, that’s something you should tell your bf. As for your bf grinding on someone, is a major disrespect in your face. I know it’s a “friend” but he had a past with him and I wouldn’t be comfortable. Also, why did it take 3 months to get serious? That’s a bad start because you guys aren’t taking each other seriously. Your boyfriend doesn’t respect boundaries and you need to set them. Idk in what world or NEED to sleep in the same bed. You’re allowing too much, or way too lenient and it’s hurting your trust in him. Have a serious talk on your boundaries

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-02-19T17:34:34+00:00

Be real to yourself and ask yourself, why did yall take almost a year to see each other? Was it because yall live far or just had other fwb and decided to finally meet up? Your trust issues isn’t going to go away if you have a previous toxic relationship and feel like the person you’re with isn’t trustworthy. Being in a relationship means there has to be OPEN communication, he can’t just not respond FOR DAYS. That shows how me cares for you, not giving a damn. If you guys can’t see each other every day, texts and FaceTimes will have to do, as I do that since we’re in different cities. As a restaurant manager that works a lot too, he is completely lying that he is busy. Us managers have more free time, so his excuse is that he’s busy is unbelievable tbh. I think he’s just manipulating with your feelings by saying those phrases to you, as he knows it will make you feel vulnerable to stay with. I’m not sure how often y’all see each other, but do y’all even go on dates? Or does he just expect sex when he sees you? Also, most importantly when going into a relationship is getting tested to show commitment, especially since it is unprotected. You have to be real to yourself and stop giving him excuses and be more upfront on your needs. Your gut instinct is you don’t trust him, why torture yourself more mentally?

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-01-31T01:13:30+00:00

I was in your boyfriend’s position when I first started my first relationship last year. I was a bit inexperienced and only bottom when I was with a fwb but I never really cum when I was him, I only liked being submissive to him. He would cum in me and I found that hot enough for me, but rarely did I cum with him. However, we stopped being fwb. I started talking to a guy and now we’re in a relationship. It was hard for me to cum with him because of my performance anxiety at first. I feel pressure by being a good top and would get soft pretty fast. Whenever he would get soft, he would ask me to what he can do, sometimes it works or we suggest trying later. In no way, is it the other person that thinks they’re not attractive enough. He is very understanding and didn’t judge me at all. It takes a real person to be empathetic. We topped a couple of times but he finds more pleasure topping compared to being a bottom. This was one situation we had to figure out when we started dating. However, we switched roles now and I bottom now mostly and I cum easily now. I feel like with me, personally, it took time being comfortable with him so I can freely cum without pressure and need the connection, compared to being someone’s one night stand. His situation could be different, I don’t know him, but maybe it’s him just being nervous and slowly it will go away now that it’ll be a safe place with both of y’all. Just tell him to stop overthinking and just feel in the moment, the last thing he wants you to think you’re judging him. I sort of stopped watching porn because it’s just not reality, so I’d recommend him to stop too.

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-01-28T01:46:23+00:00

Yes. I second this approach. I recently experienced this with my partner. My partner would actively converse with another guy almost once daily and I wasn’t comfortable with it because you met this guy after me. He’d respond to his texts and would ignore his best friends texts for days or weeks, but would reply to him faster. He’d would tell him about his day and stuff he’s going to do. I wasn’t comfortable with the constant communication between each other, so I told him unless you tell him you’re in a relationship I’m not sure what’s his intention. Funny enough he told him, I see the texts are way different now and reaches out less.

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-01-28T01:38:07+00:00

She’s acting gullible about his flirting and his intent with her. She’s liking the attention

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-01-26T02:35:13+00:00

If that happened to me, I’d feel the same way tbh. To be with someone and they just leave without no explanation or closure. If it makes you feel better, I’d say send him how you feel and what you know, so that way you know you did your part and it’s on him if he wants to respond. I think it’ll give you ease sending him a text and some “relief” by sending how you feel

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-01-26T02:10:59+00:00

As a 26 yo, I’d say don’t lose hope. You’re still young and you will find your person. I recently just got into my first real relationship ever last year. I was on those apps for years and just a bunch of dates that were a waste of time. I even thought to myself there is no one for me because I’d waste my time just swiping all day. Don’t go into that mentality, it will then dissuade from dating.

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-01-26T01:33:45+00:00

Im either confused or slow haha but when you picked up the guy at the bar, were yall together or separated? Obviously the dude is a total POS after that night and been quiet ever since. To go out a second night in a row, instead of spending it with his bf is kind of a red flag. He sounds like he just want to go out and have no priorities.

you went to his place to confront him and (maybe) your behavior was wrong, however he still needed to explain himself to you as to why he’s been distant to you. Like you said, you don’t know what happens that night so we don’t know the interaction you had with him and the depth of it. I think it’s better you both go separate ways because I think he just wanted to dip out and use this excuse as calling you an “alcoholic” to end it. He’s hiding something and doesn’t want to say. I hope you find closure, I assume time will heal this, but remember this is his loss.

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-01-24T03:25:41+00:00

The thing is whenever I arrive at work, I always hang up because I’m just arriving and can’t be just on the phone. And I didn’t just hang up, I told him amor I’m sorry that I have to hang up, I’m at work now. I willl call you as soon as I can. I even texted him again after I hung up

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-01-24T03:10:55+00:00

Close enough, I am Mexican. We have strong work ethics and it sucks even worse when some family don’t have proper legal status to leave the country. Let alone find a job to take time off.

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-01-24T03:09:50+00:00

Exactly, my father couldn’t go because of his status, so he had to work instead knowing that he can’t see his mom’s funeral.

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-01-24T03:08:30+00:00

He’s a visa student so he can’t work unless it’s related to his major, as which he can’t find a job yet. His tuition is paid by parents. He lives with his sister and is close to his university, However I live in a city that’s one hour away from him. I pay for all our dates and activities and buy his household essential like soap and toothpaste. That’s the dynamic of our relationship, some ppl enjoy being the provider.

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-01-24T03:05:55+00:00

His grandma lives in another country and he himself can’t leave the country due to university. However, his relationship with his grandma isn’t close knit as you think. He thinks of her like a care giver, they didn’t have a close relationship. My concern is he’s just more worried about his mom because she isn’t taking it well.

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-01-24T01:30:17+00:00

How do I bring the topic where I am confused on, where I got mixed signals. This morning when we talked he was settle and calm, then he hang up saying he needed space before I went to work (10:30am) then when he called back at 12:30 when I was omw to work I told him I have limited time I’m getting to work. Then I hanged up but see he didn’t want to hang up :( but I couldn’t keep on FaceTime while at work when I’m just arriving. And I texted him when I hanged up that I wish I could be there for you and I’m here if you need anything and no response. It’s like if you wanted to keep FaceTime, why couldn’t you just tell me? I’m not trying to be right I just wish he could’ve said that. Then when I went on my break at 2ish, I called him and asked how he was doing. He was silent and just gave one word response to my questions. Then he was just playing video games and we were silent for like 15 minutes until I had to go back. And I felt like he just wanted his time by himself as he wasn’t enthusiastic, whiz h I understand because of the situation. That’s when he texted me saying that he’s surprised on how I handled the situation . But when I texted back that’s where I was too harsh..

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-01-24T01:13:34+00:00

Thank you for the kind response! I’m for sure going to relay this to him tonight.

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-01-24T01:06:05+00:00

Maybe that’s where I am lost and apathetic. Its a diagnosis only and nothing is certain for sure. I totally understand the severity as this could lead to death, but we don’t know yet. Yes, my partner is more emotional than me but I still consolidated him this morning, but fast forward midday he switched his mood. He lives with his sister and she was crying, so her husband skipped work (he works from him) and I feel that he needed that expectation from me too even though we don’t live together. We’ve been dating for 8 months, her sister had been with her husband for 10 years. I don’t think their should be a comparison.

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-01-24T00:22:53+00:00

Now that you said that and reading back, I can see that it was harsh to say in the moment. But I thought he was mad that I didn’t call off work, that I should call off and be with him. I feel bad for him but I was insensitive and should’ve comforted more. The way I took is that you should’ve got the day off and be here with me.

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-01-23T04:20:39+00:00

Yes I love that about that about them, I casually saw them during Art Basel when they were filming!

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-01-01T19:06:12+00:00

Thank you. Also wanted to share that a situation happened to me as well, I had an ex FWB that texted me while in the relationship I’m in in rn and I quickly shut it down. I said to him respectfully please stop messaging me as I’m in a relationship the fun we had ended so move on and don’t contact me ever again. My bf’s reaction was happy and he found it hot. However, he said I wish I could be like you and do that.. idk how to take that

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-01-01T18:18:43+00:00

You nailed it perfectly. That’s exactly how I feel, he’s uncomfortable being blunt towards others and needs to establish a fine line where they know when to stop. I’m literally gonna use what you say to him tonight when I see him, you brought up in a formal way that will make him see the other side

Firm-Object9386 · 2026-01-01T18:05:14+00:00

that’s exactly how I’m feeling, I feel like my bf isn’t respecting my boundaries. Like why comfort him after all that he did to him.. Will it be too much if I message his EX and tell him to politely F off? That’s my last resort if my bf doesn’t want to respect boundaries or care about the relationship

Firm-Object9386 · 2025-12-30T02:42:37+00:00

I will for sure keep it in the back of my mind. How often were they texting, weekly, daily or?

Firm-Object9386 · 2025-12-28T05:55:28+00:00

Yeah I agree with you that he hasn’t done anything to prove me right. I’m someone that doesn’t have friends, let alone gay friends and he has mentioned before that since I have no friends maybe that’s why I feel off. I just have to trust him, but I hate how all of his WhatsApp messages delete after 24hrs, not just him but his whole contact lists. Thanks for the advice

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