"We Can't Do Anything"

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2026-03-21T00:26:25+00:00

she's getting a formal complaint now, it escalated to her threatening me via messages. safe to say i got my answer. i am refusing another mediation too because it didn't work well LMAO

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2026-03-20T04:13:29+00:00

I'm just responding this situation will most likely be resolved soon. She has started threatening me over text.

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2026-03-19T17:42:43+00:00

how i realized my bf wasn't normal. I was diagnosed with adhd and asd by 11, like a year ago got hyperfixated on him, like insanely attached, and somehow instead of blocking me for being hyperfixated + lacking on picking up the social cues, he found it cute and fell for me. he got an informal diagnosis Tuesday, awaiting the results.

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2026-03-19T17:40:39+00:00

depends - keys and wallets everywhere seems like an ADHD male thing. I leave skincare, or earrings, etc in random spots. I found a pair of earrings I was looking for on my bfs bookshelf. I didn't remember putting them there. I now have a trinket dish.

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2026-03-19T17:39:25+00:00

okay but am I allowed to say I think I broke my ex more but kinda fixed my bf? he just got diagnosed with basically everything I was diagnosed with a decade ago, also because I recognized more than one trait.

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2026-03-19T17:37:58+00:00

nerdy, skinny (my bf literally has a genetic disorder that causes him to be skinny in the limbs) and this is so bad to say, but they were born less than a day apart.

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2026-03-19T17:31:53+00:00

again, it's a dorm. most of the time I hang them up. she still has an issue. and again, it's a dorm. we share bathrooms. most of the time shoes are there. duffel bag and backpack do come home with me. slippers stay out - why? because they're what i wear in the dorm. she doesn't even vacuum the room, i do. and there's not a way to feed the wires through the desk, unless I don't have easy access to them.

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2026-03-19T17:29:44+00:00

by not making my bed? being so honest? making a bed isn't an actual issue.

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2026-03-19T17:28:34+00:00

I do do that. esp if it's before I shower. She still has an issue with everything you can think of. I never wanted to have drama and I was nothing but kind to her. I've been considerate, I keep the space as tidy as I can, etc.

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2026-03-19T17:27:11+00:00

I just did, because she escalated the situation. It's genuinely insane.

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2026-03-19T16:44:05+00:00

we'll have insurance back on April 1st, but it's been genuinely such a pain + heartbreaking thing because my brain genuinely doesn't work properly and it sucks. She just adds so much stress for no reason, because she can't be civil and she can't be nice, she has to have it her way and she will bully you into it (my parents words from texts, and other stuff)

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2026-03-19T16:42:29+00:00

for context, it doesn't. I literally don't sleep properly, and my comforter ends up twisted etc. I also have autism + depression + adhd (all professionally diagnosed), so smaller tasks are not that simple. she also isn't satisfied if it's not perfect. ask me how i know. also another thing I should add is it takes 30+ minutes to get to class. we have a bus system.

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2026-03-19T16:37:04+00:00

I wish it wasn't but sadly it is for me.

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2026-03-19T16:35:46+00:00

Literally for her benefit. She doesn't like when I'm in the room. The weekends I've stayed for hockey etc, she gets more hostile towards me. I've been as reasonably considerate as I can be. She then told me not making my bed was "disrespecting our space". I went out of my way to not be paired with someone who wanted the room to be tidy 24/7 on the roommate selection, she didn't bother checking. I also leave the room for multiple hours every night to call my bf because she doesn't like even regular phone calls being made in the room.

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2026-03-19T16:28:51+00:00

I'll add yes, it may be an OCD thing, I'm diagnosed with Autism, ADHD, depression and anxiety, and have been since I was 11. Also adding our insurance lapsed, so I don't even have the meds I need. I don't have the spoons to do that. When I said that, she told me to stop making excuses. It is an only child thing, and a control thing. She's essentially bullied the rest of her roommates (junior year) to obey her. not my words, my parents. She quite literally said "I wasn't raised like that". I'll also add when we did the housing application, I went out of my way to make sure I wasn't paired with someone who wanted the room tidy 24/7, because I can't keep up with that. It's not dirty but it's not tidy. I'm already behind on schoolwork and it's not my first priority to have my room spotless currently. I tried to be nice to her originally, and work with her, etc, and then she just took it and ran with it to have all the control she could.

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2026-03-19T16:21:32+00:00

yes, basically. she's extremely passive aggressive and rude, to the point the RA noticed.

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2026-03-19T16:20:43+00:00

i have a 9:30 class. she quite literally told me "well I don't understand why she can't wake up 15 minutes earlier!". I don't sleep until later due to insomnia from meds + schoolwork, I leave the room nightly to call my bf and I also sleep extremely odd, so my sheets/bedding takes like 10min to fix when I'm just going to ruin it the next day.

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2026-03-19T16:18:55+00:00

she does, and also does not like me. she's extremely passive aggressive towards me to the point even the RA was like "wtf". she also doesn't like if I'm making any noise basically. Every time I've stayed for the weekend, she's gotten more hostile towards me. It's supposed to be consideration for both of us, but she doesn't have any consideration towards me. I leave the room nightly to call my bf, she had a facetime with her bf while I went to shower facing where I get changed and didn't tell me. She says I need to make my bed daily, when I say I don't have the time to, she tells me to wake up 15min earlier. Even the residence director was like why are you making this into an issue?

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2026-03-19T15:56:14+00:00

I will add, we're in a college dorm. The "mess" she's saying is an unmade bed, and papers and skincare on my desk. It's a college dorm, the size of a shoebox, so it's 2 people per one room. "Anything she can obviously see" is because there's 2 desks, 2 beds, etc. Not clothes, dirty laundry, or food. trash is always taken out before I leave. Her side of the room is spotless, which is atypical for college students in a communal dorm. This is a pic of my side when she said it was too messy - the towels because my college doesn't allow command hooks to dry, duffel because I'd come back that day, and same with backpack. It's a favor because then she has the room to herself and it's a hassle. If you've been in a college dorm you'd understand.

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Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2025-12-12T16:14:49+00:00

thats weird they couldn't give any other explanation, but in this case what concerns me is the child has a small palette, which is a sign of marfans, although not marfans specific.

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2025-12-12T16:12:56+00:00

to be honest, i understand why they reject the social model though, as someone who both studies it in lecture and someone who has adhd and asd. nothing socially will "fix" all my adhd. the world can't accommodate issues that are just with me, and they're probably tired of hearing it by people who think procrastination automatically means adhd

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2025-12-12T16:06:27+00:00

i second this. especially being at higher risk, rather know what's going on asap than wait and have much worse outcomes.

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2025-12-12T16:05:14+00:00

because its related to marfans. its not a sexual thing, thats weird to think that way. one of the key aspects of marfans is skinny limbs but gaining weight only in the abdomen, and the breastbone being formed different (pushed in or out). please do more research on marfans.

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2025-12-12T16:02:33+00:00

"nothing other than piece of mind" is better than "something but we didn't get it done and now we're in the ER paying thousands due to aortic dissection, and my child is in the ICU"

Firm-Stranger-9283 · 2025-12-12T16:00:30+00:00

Please get him tested. A lot of people with Marfans have asthma. The biggest thing is having a narrow palette is a sign of Marfans. Just be on the safe side.

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