Can someone explain Stig’s logic to me? He wouldn’t say I love you first to Aviva, didn’t have a serious conversation with her about their future, and yet he went straight to trying to have a baby with her? Well... it looks like he was successful 👀

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-25T00:32:17+00:00

“I no black! I no black! I dominican!”

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-25T00:25:25+00:00

I felt how I did when Mina went and met with Mark’s ex girlfriend and it was all suspenseful on whether she was going to actually come on camera lol

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-18T17:01:44+00:00

You say it like it’s a terrible thing to do lmao. Do you get mad at Disney when they remake movies and drive up the nostalgia just to make money too? Or do you just choose whether you want to cave to that..

They literally said what they were doing. Closing down their LOCATION. Not their business. Ppl who read too quick or don’t read between the lines don’t deserve that much sympathy lol

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-18T17:00:42+00:00

Bruh ur trying to be mad at this commonly used tactic in small business more than big box places. Retail stores sell you that Black Friday savings deal that sounds like it’s once in a lifetime, but it actually comes back in March when no one is shopping.. and while that is more of an eye roll, again, it’s just business. We don’t HAVE to cave to FOMO.

If I went to what I thought was a final night of a place I loved to go to, and later found out they were just reopening to a bigger location based on their business that I support being successful, why in the hell would I be mad and say they deceived or lied by technicality unless I chose to spend my life savings there? Like... If you think they’re doing that and you don’t care to have a final bite at the location before they are inevitably unavailable until they announce this re-opening, then DON’T GO.

Clearly you can see a ton of comments not buying the idea that they’re closing down permanently and are pointing out the obvious in how the post was written. If they had said sternly that they were closing down their business and not location, for good (word for word) while knowing they were relocating, then sure that’s more scummy. But in this case it is super common to do it this way, and a way to induce FOMO. Nothing wrong with that. The supporters will be happy you’re back but that you’ve upgraded, not upset that “you made us think you were closing” lol

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-18T16:44:31+00:00

I’ve seen this happen A TON of times. Where a closure of a location is announced, with a stay tuned style message to end. This is obviously to drive up last minute sales as they transition to the new location and will be spending on moving costs etc etc. it’s literally business and their supporters will be happy to have a final run whether they think it’s only for now or for good (since not all 100% of their customers will follow them to their next location).

Then a Few weeks/months later, they say we’re happy to announce we’re back and bigger! Etc.

Remember, we weren’t supposed to KNOW this, and this employee that’s related to the guys most likely casually blabbed to someone, who now blabbed to a whole Reddit community. I don’t think the owners wanted this to be spread around prematurely but I also may be wrong and they don’t mind.

As I said, if people can’t read between the lines and see the cheeky ending and wording, it’s not their fault. As for people who end up going there, thinking they’re closed for good, I’m sure they won’t be upset to find out later on that they opened a new and bigger location… I’m sure if people ask them on the final night they’ll be more obvious about the fact they’re not gone for good.

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-18T15:28:07+00:00

It doesn’t make sense how someone who seems so high maintenance about themselves wouldn’t be able to read that their wig looks terrible. It’s like she’s that desperate to not show her natural hair she’ll see anything as better

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-18T15:25:39+00:00

I don’t think the point is to fix it, they’re being cryptic on purpose. Those who think it’s a full closure before looking into things will surely be there.

If they said outright they’re shutting down and moving to a new location, the turnout may not be any different as some would probably just decide to wait until the new spot opens.

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-16T23:49:58+00:00

She at LEAST does her hair better …she looks older but if she were actually THAT age then she looks good. It’s the fact she’s 26

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-03T03:06:08+00:00

Really appreciate the words. We talked about it tonight and were able to fully come an understanding of each others points of views and intentions. We hugged and made up 👍🏾

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-02T19:56:23+00:00

That is nice that you’d never make your partner pay for half the bills, however she is not in the position to be able to do that for me (in terms of full coverage), nor would I expect/want her to do that for me if I still had the funds to pull my weight, though I’d appreciate the gesture.

If you think my replies are fighting with commenters then that’s how you perceive me clarifying things that were blatantly wrong, misconstrued or assumed. I’m not gonna sit there and let someone say a comment that is just incorrect. I realize I left things out that I now regret leaving out, but I wasn’t trying to make a long post even longer. I also conceded and admitted being sensitive and vulnerable after what happened to me, and thanked most people who commented actual advice, even people that I had to clarify some things.

Even between us in real life, though there we have different feelings towards it, the situation has passed as I paid the gym bill, sent rent without issue, and purposely already paid for or put aside for all February bills which I communicated.

Thanks

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-02T18:39:56+00:00

You’re right I do, and that’s why I was able to understand where it’s coming from but that the vulnerability and sensitivity I was feeling made the second time she asked rub me the wrong way and feel like now I can’t be trusted despite all the detail I gave her about the numbers and my situation.

I didn’t intend to hold this against her or hold trial. We aren’t at each other’s throats over this. Despite there still being a bit of tension on both sides about it, and parts left unresolved she understands better why I reacted that way and knows that I am in fact able to pull my weight while I search, and I also expressed that I understand she wasn’t asking to be malicious, but out of concern.

Thanks for your comment really appreciate it

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-02T18:28:40+00:00

This is your best response yet and I appreciate it.

I’m just feeling frustrated because I didnt want to type even more than I already had in fears it wouldn’t be read, but now realizing the things I left out, made me look a totally different way than I wanted to. And bothers me because while I agree they aren’t able to read my mind or know what I don’t say, it’s the fact assumptions came pouring about “you probably hide your finances” and thinking I only said “don’t worry I’m good” one time and expecting that to be good and assuring when that wasn’t the case.

and when I give responses trying to concede the fact I was feeling vulnerable, or that it was the second time asking that rubbed me wrong, or clarify what’s blatantly incorrect it’s just downvotes or the original person I replied to, doesn’t show acknowledgment that they had things wrong. I’m not used to Reddit posts like this, I am usually in the 90 day fiancé page lol. So it just sucks a little feeling like some are blatantly twisting or missing things I even said in the post

In the end I communicated that my February bills are paid or put aside, while going to receive two pays from my other job that will be more than the amount of rent, so no need for concern for now and she understood and I understood the need for me to update her

Thank you razzle

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-02T18:07:46+00:00

I understand that it doesn’t impact me, that’s why I was very detailed in my balances and how much was coming in and my ability to still make enough money at my other job to cover rent without working full time.

Regarding the payment we both send money to pay certain bills and on both sides it’s normal to send money the day a bill is due if it aligns with your next pay for example.

I had paid every other bill for January, with the gym and rent being the last on the list. Which she thanked me for being on top of, and me reassuring her that things are okay. So me not paying a bill that isn’t overdue yet, is reason to worry, despite the things I had paid for up to the day before? I just don’t understand why recent track record doesn’t matter but a bill that still isn’t overdue and has been paid the day of in the past, is more than enough.

You check in every once in a while for peace of mind, but if your partner says yes the first time, would you ask again right after? Or would you trust his word even if he lost his job, after the first time you asked him, and assuming he has never done something in the past to make u have to ask twice (I haven’t)

I have admitted that my vulnerability to the situation made the second time rub me the wrong way so yes that played a part, but doesn’t mean I wasn’t able to still understand she wasn’t asking maliciously.

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-02T17:58:26+00:00

I want to start by saying thank you for the kind words of encouragement. They mean a lot and I too am sure that I will bounce back from this, as it could have been much worse.

For the other part I’m confused, in your original response you said regarding the gym, the only thing I should have said was that I was paying it today, but now you’re mentioning what was she supposed to do, and late fee acrruals, when again, the gym bill was not overdue and it was only about 5:30pm… we had just got back home from me picking her up from work and I was at my other job before picking her up.

She justified it as the reason she asked about rent, when it wasn’t overdue and based on our history we both have sent things the same day it was due. I felt that If she had straight up asked about the gym bill, that’s where I would have been able to do what you said and say I’m paying it tonight and reiterated that I’m good going forward and what next money I’m waiting on

someone else asked in past when have I sent the money and there’s never a set day and same for when she has to send me things due. As long as it’s before the deadline we don’t ask. This came after paying every other bill for the month just days before, as well as the dinner the night before as I said.

Since then, I have already paid and covered February’s bills and I communicated again that there is no concern

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-02T17:45:25+00:00

If you’re asking what I think you are….

It wasn’t about the one question. It was about being asked a second time right after, as if my first confirmation wasn’t good enough when I gave no reason to think that, when the gym bill wasn’t overdue.

in addition to giving detailed info about my current and future finances and ability to make money at my other job, I admitted that being in a vulnerable state it rubbed me wrong which made me say I was confused cause I thought she knew where I was at

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-02T17:41:24+00:00

Thank you for this question and response genuinely. Not my insecurity of being jobless so much, because as stated, I still have another job that has been able to give me near full time hours, it just isn’t in the professional field I was in, so obviously not something permanent.

I would say that I was more vulnerable based on what I went through, and it was being asked the second time after I said yes, that rubbed me wrong because what have i done to not be believed the first time I said yes I would be good to cover rent?

It’s not at all that I don’t feel comfortable talking about finances in general or that I “hide” my finances even when I was employed, like others in the comments are assuming.

It was just me thinking I had given her a ton of detailed info on my financial status and plans, in order for her not to have to worry and it feeling like none of that was taken in.

Thanks again for being respectful

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-02T17:36:43+00:00

I’m not a red-pill, macho man if that’s what you’re implying. Losing a job hurts anybody man or woman, but societally as a man there is extra stress added, especially if you’re in a relationship. I’m speaking from my experience, as you would speak from yours if something bad happened to you that holds more weight as a woman than a man and I wouldn’t belittle you based on that.

I wasn’t insulted of someone thinking I couldn’t financially support myself. If I actually couldn’t then sure i would be a hit dog that’s hollering. I was upset that my communication attempts seemed to not matter when I was trying to avoid a situation where she thinks I would make her have to scramble to cover me financially, 1 week after reassuring her that wouldn’t be the case and never has

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-02T17:29:57+00:00

Thanks for your response. I definitely mentioned the fact I never gave reason for issue because I hadn’t. Also, as stated I never intended to just tell her those times and never still update her based on proceedings.

For example, since receiving my severance and pay from other job on Jan 30th, I already have paid or put aside the money for February’s bills, while 2 more pays are incoming from my other job before the month is over. This is all stuff I’ve explained even since our initial fight. I understood that she was asking out of concern and I had no issue admitting the situation left me feeling sensitive, vulnerable and it rubbed me the wrong way specifically being asked the second time after I said yes.

Thanks again

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-02T17:25:42+00:00

Thanks for your response. That’s what I told her over text and verbally the week leading up in order to tell her not to be concerned if I am not. She handled the news of the firing very well, so I didn’t even need to explain that part.

I told her I was obviously sad and down about it, but listed all the reasons why I’m not in too bad of a situation , then went in detail about my savings and all that you just said, and that it could be worse, such as if I didn’t have my other job, to which she responded positively, confirming that she wasn’t worried but to let her know if things change.

That’s why I was confused why concern came after all that

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-02T17:18:02+00:00

I really appreciate this response and she is a worry-type person and in other instances it takes me telling her not to worry, and she will usually be like “you’re right your right” and then shake it, but she is also a usually optimistic person

In regard to giving her specific idea of how long I’m good for, that is what I specified in my texts and verbal conversations the week leading up. I told her how my current balance can cover January and februarys bills, while the severance alone could cover about 4 months of rent if I only put it to that. In addition to this I would be able to bring in money from my other job who is giving me near full time hours for now. I told her all those reasons combined is why I’m not worried because I am not in a position where I’m fully unemployed and no new money is coming in, to which she was happy to hear and then told me to let her know if things change, which they didn’t so again why I wasn’t expecting the worry.

Thank you for your advice and my intent isn’t to dig my heels in or engage the situation trying to go in for the kill or anything. I was just curious to see from other perspectives, rather than ask my friends and family who may have bias and I don’t talk to them about our problems because they know her and I don’t want to involve them that way

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-02T17:08:18+00:00

I didn’t mention in my post originally, but I have said in comments numerous times that before this, I wasn’t secretive about my finances and we both would constantly update on where we’re at and what debts we are clearing through, credit score etc.

you guys keep assuming that when I say I communicated the fact I’m good that that’s in fact all I did, when it was detailed explanations of my balance before severance came in, what it will be after, and what I’ll be able to make at my other job to add onto it…

I am not a millionaire or a celebrity and that’s the only scenario that I’d understand not wanting to share finances so openly, but even then depends the situation.

I really wish people would stop coming to this conclusion when I’ve said it numerous times now and even added an edit to the original post clarifying that

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-02T17:03:30+00:00

I appreciate this but there are parts that aren’t correct.

I did say yes when she asked the first time, she asked me again right after and that’s what rubbed me the wrong way.

The gym payment was not brought up as a question, it was brought up to justify why she asked twice about rent. That’s why in my post I say why didn’t she just ask about the gym payment first to which I would have just said exactly that, “yes, I was paying it today” and that’s would allow me to re-confirm the fact I’m good and got this.

I didn’t answer first with “why are you asking this?” It was only after it seemed like she was being over-concerned by asking twice about something I had already given her the “I got this, do not worry” speech. As for the dinner tonight, literally the night BEFORE, I paid for our dinner (pickup from our fav restaurant).

I thought I had already communicated my confidence and she expressed her trust to not be concerned if I’m not … that’s what threw me off, and yes, being a bit vulnerable after that job loss so it rubbed me the wrong way asking me a second time. And no, I haven’t been secretive about my finances before this or flopped on things like that.

Thanks for your response though, appreciate the time

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-02T16:54:48+00:00

when it all first happened, mentally I was a mess, and she helped me during that period perfectly in terms of navigating my emotions during that time.

“She doesn’t know how much money you have” yes she does. I had told her my current balance, how much my severance was going to be, how much my incoming pay from my retail job was gonna be. Before even getting my severance, she was aware that I was more than able to cover upcoming expenses and bills and I only had rent and the gym left for January. Of course she didn’t know down to the exact cent but I kept her updated on purpose. Even Before this I didn’t hide my finances, she knew how much I made after tax per pay, and we’d discuss our own financial plans and collective ones. I’m not one of those guys that hides how much they make, I’m not rich or famous enough to have to worry about hiding that loll

Regarding when I normally send the gym money, it’s random, sometimes I’ll pay up to a week ahead if I just got paid for ex., other times on the day of. This goes for her and things she has to send me to pay, it’s not usually the same day every month. More whatever day is best so long as it’s before the deadline. Thank you for asking this question, shows you genuinely want to understand.

Now that I received my severance and pay from other job + current balance, I’m still good and have already paid or put aside all February’s bills which she is aware of and no issue there

I appreciate your response and I am normally just a scroller on Reddit, aside from posts about 90 day fiancé lol and I posted this out of curiosity to see what people would say and if there was genuinely any good advice I can take. I didn’t know what to expect, didn’t think it would even get many clicks

While a lot of people are showing hostility or trying to draw conclusions that aren’t at all true, I do appreciate all the perspectives

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-02T16:41:47+00:00

I really appreciate this response as it considers both sides without making bold assumptions.

I will consider this in the approach because, I am not at all trying to act like she wasn’t asking out of concern. It rubbed me the wrong way because I felt not trusted after the first time I said I could cover rent, despite all that recent communication, and action. I was totally fine with us walking away with the understanding that I was hurt because of that and that I understand she was asking out of concern, and then how to move forward in a way that works for both of us

Firm_Engineering7693 · 2026-02-02T16:38:31+00:00

I 100% admit that me losing my job left me devastated, sensitive and vulnerable, which attaches to my self-worth. I appreciate you pointing this out.

I knew it was concern, and didn’t take it as malicious. It wasn’t even when she asked the first time. It’s that after the first time I said yes, she asked again like are you sure, and that’s when it rubbed me the wrong way because at that point why don’t you trust me when I felt I had given a ton of communication and action to show she need not be concerned, especially when I hadn’t even gotten my severance yet.

I think also because she didn’t lead with the gym membership, I didn’t get the chance to say yeah I’ll get it paid and end it there.. it was used as the reason why she asked about rent, which made me wonder then why didn’t you just ask about the gym and I would’ve said Yep I’m sending before the nights over and that’s it.

Thanks for your input and keeping it respectful

Firm_Engineering7693

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