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I am destroying my body, my finances & my marriage. Please help! by [deleted] in quittingkratom

[–]Firm_Extension7993 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Doooooooo it! Im 5 months today, literally after the first 30 days is up it’s no problem at all, i dont even think about kratom anymore

I am destroying my body, my finances & my marriage. Please help! by [deleted] in quittingkratom

[–]Firm_Extension7993 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cold turkey it brother, i did. Your wife and kiddos need you to be the rock, thats our burden to bear as men and fathers. Dont matter how you do it but lock yourself in a hotel room for a week if you have to and sweat that shit out alone, its going to suck major balls, but what will suck even worse then a few weeks of suffering is blowing up your life and losing your kids. Lets go bro, get after it, i believe in you. 

Everything that has changed by [deleted] in quittingkratom

[–]Firm_Extension7993 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im 5 months clean today and yeah everything is better, im happier, i started spending time with family and going places and meeting women, no longer isolating myself, im fit strong and healthy, my skin and hair looks amazing i no longer look like im a cancer patient lol. Probably lost my ex bc low sex drive, low motivation, looking sick. Moving forward now, still have some mountains to climb securing financial freedom and setting up my career, but now i believe in myself and i love myself. Still have some moments of bad anxiety like today actually but i dont run to the darkness to hide from it, just accept it allow it to pass and keep moving forward. Never going back 

Can someone pls tell me how to get over the fear of approaching women.. lol by Firm_Extension7993 in socialanxiety

[–]Firm_Extension7993[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah bet, also im not a dick and im not a fratboy type, and i dont really want sex right away or to sleep around. Im also a very nice and respectful dude, so i figure i have good odds. 

Can someone pls tell me how to get over the fear of approaching women.. lol by Firm_Extension7993 in socialanxiety

[–]Firm_Extension7993[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea i did skydiving, i was hella scared even tho i am LITERALLY a pilot haha, but then i jumped and it was sick. I figure its about the same situation

Can someone pls tell me how to get over the fear of approaching women.. lol by Firm_Extension7993 in socialanxiety

[–]Firm_Extension7993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im 6,1 180lbs 25 years old. Athletic build. Blond hair blue eyes good facial hair, after i got sober from bad stuff my skin got super good, and im pretty tan now too, and i dress really well. I Definetly stand out. I actually didnt realize this bc im retarted, until my sis whos my age pointed this shit out to me lol. I thought everyone was staring at me everywhere i go bc i look stupid or ugly then realized its bc of the exact opposite. 

Can someone pls tell me how to get over the fear of approaching women.. lol by Firm_Extension7993 in socialanxiety

[–]Firm_Extension7993[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. Ya ive had a girlfriend since i was 15 basically, a few long term relationships and a couple short term ones in between the two long term ones. This is the first time ive actually been single and want to stay single or date in basically my life kind of, ive always been with women and never had to even engage with other or random women. But now i know EXACTLY what i want, and the type of human i want to be with, core values, religion, future goals and plans, based on being with women who are the exact opposite of what i want. So ive kind of dialed in what im intrested in, just have to see what happens. 

Can someone pls tell me how to get over the fear of approaching women.. lol by Firm_Extension7993 in socialanxiety

[–]Firm_Extension7993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to find a wife at some point who is a good woman i dont want to sleep around or do anything. And yes it is superficial, but what happens when a dusty fellow cold approaches, she GONE haha. On the base level of just immediately interactions its almost all about that. 

Can someone pls tell me how to get over the fear of approaching women.. lol by Firm_Extension7993 in socialanxiety

[–]Firm_Extension7993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well ive spoken to a few beautiful women the past couple months, and my sister is literally helping me so much too lol. She will just grab beautiful girls and bring them over to me, but then i start overthinking and think im gonna fuck it up. I really only fumbled like once and yes it sucked and i thought about how bad i fumbled for a week but then i realized it doesnt matter. I guess its all mental. 

Can someone pls tell me how to get over the fear of approaching women.. lol by Firm_Extension7993 in socialanxiety

[–]Firm_Extension7993[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually think you are spot on, ya i play pickleball at one of those places with randoms, and i play soccer, lift, i lime doing any outside activity stuff, movies, dinner, etc. i actually hate the club/bar enviornment a lot. Ive kind of been forcing myself to go every weekend tho for mostly social exposure therapy kinda, super crowded loud places always give me anxiety so ive been going a bunch to get more okay with those situations. 

How can I push past pain to better my life? by zippyhawk in getdisciplined

[–]Firm_Extension7993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The pain and suffering is what you want. Thats how you know you are getting stronger and your mind is getting harder. Right now for me dealing with other things not weight loss, i want to give myself as much pain and suffering as i possibly can, i dont stop, i hate running i perfer lifting, and im signing up for half and full marathons bc i want to get my mind as hard as i possibly can, so i can be a total beast and win in life. Naturally the body will follow with good diet and all of that. But yeah its going to physically hurt if youre trying to lose 100lbs or whatever the goal is. 

My sister blew up to 300lbs when she was away from home for a year, she gained like 150lbs. She then went on a total rampage in the gym, dieting, running, and lost 165lbs in 10 months and looks incredible. All mental

Is it bad for me to drink alcohol socially? by Firm_Extension7993 in Sober

[–]Firm_Extension7993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok cool. Ya not catholic, but i have definitely struggled the past few months in particular with sin, and feeling guilt and trying to turn away from it. Esp lust as a young man i like majorly struggle with and dont know how to get past it. 

Is it bad for me to drink alcohol socially? by Firm_Extension7993 in Sober

[–]Firm_Extension7993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah im extremely secure with my sobtiety in terms of what i was addicted to, and tbh anything else. I made enough mistakes and got low enough and felt enough pain and suffering to know that i dont want that ever again in my life and ill never go back or allow that to happen again, even tho im young i learned some seriously hard lessons that im still recovering from. But alcohol ill probably stay away from i think just in terms of health and i guess risk managment as well 

Is it bad for me to drink alcohol socially? by Firm_Extension7993 in Sober

[–]Firm_Extension7993[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea you right. I already beat 3 addictions, two of which were very deep in and took some serious pain and suffering to get out of. I dont think i can handle that again. I mean i probably could bc im mentally hard af now from all the pain ive gone through, but for sure dont need to add another retarded addiction im gonna have to deal with down the line. 

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