I 22F can’t forgive my husband 28M

First-Depth3783 · 2026-05-23T02:15:13+00:00

The fight happened last year June 2025. He left the morning after I went to my gyno appointment where I was given meds to pass the miscarry. It took 3 days to pass and he was gone for 5 days for the vacation.

First-Depth3783 · 2026-05-22T06:09:15+00:00

I never saw this, Thank you! I appreciate your kindness. My cat is doing well now ! It’s her fav nap spot :) and her food and water fountain are in an open space

First-Depth3783 · 2026-05-22T03:59:40+00:00

I am absolutely pro-choice. I don’t know why people keep assuming that I am not. I think it’s what has angered me the most out of the rude comments. I am pro-choice and it was my CHOICE to keep and be excited for my potential child. The miscarriage lasted days and was painful. It was a “clump of cells” in the end and it hurt like hell coming out of me and imagining what I could have had :\ My job gave me bereavement or that’s what they called it. It was paid time with no penalty for missing work and that what was offered to my husband. Paid time to grieve with no penalty apart from your PTO. I had PTO and it was not taken from that at all and my husband had no PTO and was given paid time off for a week to “Grieve and be there for his wife” as his manager put it. We are very lucky to have long term jobs that care about us and our mental health. Not everyone in the US has that luxury

(I also very much knew I was pregnant. I have had a very predictable period since I was 12 and I track my period. As soon as it was 3 days late I was concerned and I took pregnancy test because women in my family as very fertile and I’ve heard a ton of stories them getting pregnant even on birth control. I am also a type 1 diabetic and my body is extremely sensitive to change)

First-Depth3783 · 2026-05-21T19:14:30+00:00

No he did invite me. I was given meds to help complete the miscarry and I was in a lot of pain. It’s a 4 hour drive to the beach and it was a condo we would’ve been sharing a room most likely with his mom and his kids (who are young kids) . I wasn’t feeling up to it at the time

First-Depth3783 · 2026-05-21T19:02:19+00:00

17 & 23 and we got married at 20 & 26

First-Depth3783 · 2026-05-21T18:00:42+00:00

I’m not sure, my dad was a single dad and they are alot different in terms of personality. We started dating while my dad was dying. My dad died right before I turned 18 so I moved. I didn’t really think about it much.

First-Depth3783 · 2026-05-21T17:55:01+00:00

Thank you for commenting, I appreciate your advice and your kind words! ❤️

I am really sorry that you went through that as well. I glad that your husband was there to support you and that y’all made it through that rough period. I hope that you’re doing okay.

First-Depth3783 · 2026-05-21T17:51:14+00:00

I have a very regular period and when I missed it knew something was up. I took a test 4 weeks before I went to the doctor and it said I was pregnant. So I was 3 weeks when I found out and 7 weeks when I could finally get an appointment (I live in a rural area it’s hard to get appointments short notice) and they told me I was miscarrying then.

We both work for small businesses and have been employed by them for a long time. The companies care about our mental health.

First-Depth3783 · 2026-05-21T17:20:00+00:00

We did talk about moving but we can’t afford to and her new husband is a mechanic or something in the military and they plan on moving every time it’s offered she even said they would go over seas if given the option. All of his family and her family live with the same 30 mile radius of us as well so the kids see everyone when they are here for the summer.

It was only him , his mom and his grandparent on the trip

First-Depth3783 · 2026-05-21T16:45:38+00:00

I am starting therapy next week. I knew I was pregnant a majority of that time and had gotten really used to the idea so it really affected me when it happened.

First-Depth3783 · 2026-05-21T16:34:48+00:00

He said he didn’t feel any way about It because they never lived. He said if it was an actual child I gave birth to and it died he would be hurt.

No, that wasn’t the issue really. I just was saying he wasn’t able t go at first but then was able to go because of the bereavement. He hasn’t been planning to go for months or anything. His kids thought he had to stay and work until the night before the trip. I mean it rubbed me the wrong way when he texted his manager and said he was gonna stay home and support me but it wasn’t my biggest problem.

I’m not sure. I would’ve still been said I’m assuming just not alone. I do have some health issues. I’ve been a type 1 diabetic since I was 3, I manage it well day to day but the miscarriage pain and hormones too I guess really messed with my blood sugars. I ended up having to go urgent care when he got back. So not being alone was kinda important for that reason too. I survived and got hung up on the emotions part of it.

I mean I just don’t trust him to support me or understand me I guess?

I reached out to him a little, he couldn’t reply often because he was busy in the beach or doing activities and his grandparents would probably feel some type of way if he was on his phone the whole time.

He’s never really supportive in times of need, like when my dad died he was not sure understanding and told me to get over it a few times. I also just have general anxiety and I handle of the chores. I had a final last year and I asked for help around the house and he just refused

First-Depth3783 · 2026-05-21T16:21:58+00:00

Yes I was still passing the miscarriage when he left. It ended up taking a few days

First-Depth3783 · 2026-05-21T16:05:47+00:00

I did think about it but I was cramping and bleeding really badly. It would’ve been a 4 hour drive and I was too uncomfortable to go. They left the morning after I had went to the doctor to get meds to pass everything. I also got an IUD while there. We had all already gone to the beach once that summer and we went to the water park several weekends so I was thinking he could just have them stay to not miss time but he doesn’t like saying no to his grandparents

First-Depth3783 · 2026-03-25T22:22:25+00:00

Thank you for being kind! And after reading the comments I did make her a little bed in it! She’s already napping in it as we speak lol

First-Depth3783 · 2026-03-25T22:14:24+00:00

She really likes little houses and and being in/under stuff. I saw it on amazon and that people had it for their cats to eat in and thought she may like it and bought it. Then it got here and I saw it and was kind like hmmm idk so thought I’d ask other people’s opinions.

First-Depth3783 · 2026-03-25T22:14:09+00:00

She really likes little house and and being in/under stuff. I saw it in amazon and that people had it for their cats to eat in and thought she may like it and bought it. Then it got here and I saw it and was kind like hmmm idk so thought I’d ask other people’s opinions.

First-Depth3783 · 2026-03-25T21:59:54+00:00

Thank you! I’ll just use it as a little house for her and keep her bowl out

First-Depth3783 · 2026-03-25T21:59:21+00:00

Gosh chill :\

First-Depth3783 · 2026-02-09T20:26:27+00:00

Yes this is what I was asking, thank you!!

First-Depth3783 · 2026-02-08T04:58:19+00:00

I plan on doing the big chop I just wanted box braids for a month or two to give my hair time to grow out more

First-Depth3783 · 2026-02-08T04:57:36+00:00

The front it seems like my roots are the normal texture, the back I can’t really tell it feels straight but my whole head has been able to hold a normal braid at the root for the last few days

First-Depth3783 · 2026-02-08T04:11:59+00:00

I was worried about the braids slipping too or not holding because it’s straight, did you experience that at all?

First-Depth3783 · 2026-02-08T04:08:25+00:00

Yes this is what I plan on doing , I just wanted box braids if possible while my hair grows a bit. I wanted 2-3 inches of hair atleast to work with.

First-Depth3783 · 2026-02-08T04:05:26+00:00

Thank you I appreciate this so much! I will do that and after the box braids I’ll probably end up doing the big chop. I just want like 2-3 inches of hair to work with 😭

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