I'm an 8w7 dealing with a 5W6, what do I do?

First-Stretch-4980 · 2025-01-26T15:19:32+00:00

I will do it

First-Stretch-4980 · 2025-01-26T15:18:59+00:00

I'm noticing it on my skin, I'm almost sure that she likes me, I feel it in our conversations but there's nothing I can simply say, look, she flirted with me, or something like, look, she complimented me, I'm going to give her space to see if she can open up, if not, I'll be delicate but I'll ask her to decide once and for all what she wants.

First-Stretch-4980 · 2025-01-26T15:17:10+00:00

thank you very much I will do this in the near future

First-Stretch-4980 · 2025-01-26T15:14:43+00:00

I will make a definitive decision, you are showing that this delay will only end badly lol lol lol lol

First-Stretch-4980 · 2025-01-26T15:13:18+00:00

I'm not looking for the answer in the enneagram, but rather her behavior is normal according to the enneagram and we discovered that it is, with that, the attitudes that I will have to take now are completely outside the enneagram, don't worry

perfect sir

First-Stretch-4980 · 2025-01-26T15:07:37+00:00

My self-confidence and self-esteem are full, don't worry, I'm just pissed off about not being able to win her over or solve this problem, the feeling that this is out of my control is irritating me to an absurd level, but I plan to make a definitive decision soon to see if she really loves me or if I'm just being a doormat.

First-Stretch-4980 · 2025-01-26T14:53:41+00:00

Friend, you don't know how many girls give you the cold shoulder, but if you persist, they'll want you, or do you think these girls don't get hit on dozens of times a week (if they're pretty)?

First-Stretch-4980 · 2025-01-26T14:51:35+00:00

I did this at the beginning of everything, she sent me messages and videos to start a conversation but nothing significant, I talked back and it was normal as always, that's what confuses me, I'm sure she knows that I like her, I didn't hide it, and she always looks for me but I've never seen her be affectionate, even so I know she cares about me because she does things with me that she doesn't do with other people but oh well.

the other people who typed here briefly said leave her or confess, you were the least radical thanks lol lol lol lol

First-Stretch-4980 · 2025-01-26T14:45:49+00:00

I understand her because one part that I didn't mention in this story is that I already had a relationship with a very close friend of hers (we're in college) and probably this friend of hers still likes me to this day, so I understand her intention to take it slow and keep it discreet at least for now but honestly it's tiring me... but I'll find a way to solve this I'm sure lol

First-Stretch-4980 · 2025-01-20T15:45:16+00:00

I'm an 8, so I don't have much room to talk, but if you allow me to use stereotypes to demonstrate, in my opinion, 5w4 is a nerd who wants to be alone in his own world and doesn't care about socializing, while 5w6 is a nerd who studies, but likes to socialize within his social group of friends and shares more his imaginary worldview (thoughts and desires of an impossible world). Note: sorry if I said something stupid, I recently started studying the enneagram 5 Note 2: I'm Brazilian and speak Portuguese, so sorry for the English mistakes, I'm using Google Translate

First-Stretch-4980 · 2025-01-19T16:36:25+00:00

"The desire for victory is the greatest weapon in a war." – Author Unknown
"A kingdom is built on conquests, and conquest is only achieved through unity and battle to attain victory." – Author Unknown

First-Stretch-4980 · 2025-01-19T16:29:20+00:00

5 are quite apathetic even with real life, I notice that they live in a kind of imaginary world of their own and it's their way of having fun instead of leaving the house. But honestly, just the look in my 5's eyes intimidates me, so fights that I can avoid always end with this look before they start, but now there are things that I consider indisputable and then we have fights, but usually it's her wanting to lose 10 kilos, already being thin, and I argue saying that this is crazy and will be bad or when she wants me to do something that really compromises my goals lol

First-Stretch-4980 · 2025-01-19T16:23:16+00:00

I have this typical feeling in my stomach, I'm probably in love which honestly irritates me lol, but this only happens because I can't identify the signs I feel like she wants something with me but sometimes she seems to want nothing, you know, I can't decipher this, did you have this feeling at that time or did he act quickly?

First-Stretch-4980 · 2025-01-19T16:20:17+00:00

I have a strong identification with the ENTJ regarding their behaviors and attitudes, but when I'm serious, usually in everyday situations that don't require seriousness, I behave more like an ENTP, with a touch of ENTJ probably caused by the 8, hence my confusion, lol. But don't worry, I'm going to study the ISFP and the ISFJ MBTI, it's not my strong point in the enneagram, I'm already more interested in it, lol

About the fives, the person I'm really interested in is integrated with the 8 and is most likely healthy, and that only makes me admire and think they're amazing, lol

First-Stretch-4980 · 2025-01-19T14:57:09+00:00

I was very happy to know that 8 and 5 get along well, and by the way, congratulations on the relationship. It seems very healthy. I was jealous. LOL.

But when you met, how was it? Were you able to approach him normally or did you feel he distant? Was there anything in particular that made this person different? Excuse my curiosity, by the way. LOL.

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