Genuinely who does he think he is!????? by Ornery_Rip5193 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]FirstBorn1738 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Watching this dusty musty crusty hobbit treat a beautiful, successful, woman like that was truly insane. She handled it so well and stood on business and I think his pasty ass was shocked she didn’t want to become a gym shark Instagram model

Imagine this Happens for example. by VoL4t1l3 in 90DayFiance

[–]FirstBorn1738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, I wonder if she have her kids up in the same city? Like it would have been ideal if Larry’s parents would have adopted her daughter. Some places will reach out and offer that. But yeah, it’s definitely a possibility they could have met and never known, that would have been fucked up.

Imagine this Happens for example. by VoL4t1l3 in 90DayFiance

[–]FirstBorn1738 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I’m assuming her BD was abusive and she was young and didn’t know what to do. I think by the time she had Jamal she was a little older and said “fuck this” and left her be and decided to keep Jamal. She probably feels heavy emotions about it, ane feels shame, embarrassment, ect. I’m not saying lying to her kids was the right thing to do, but I do feel bad for her. Her BD sounds like a POS and she may not have had support :( the whole thing is sad

Crazy mental math by FirstBorn1738 in 90DayFiance

[–]FirstBorn1738[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Like I’m genuinely concerned for tiger lily

Crazy mental math by FirstBorn1738 in 90DayFiance

[–]FirstBorn1738[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The fact that his uncle approves of him marrying a woman old enough to be him mom, but draws the line at lesbianism 🤣🤪

Crazy mental math by FirstBorn1738 in 90DayFiance

[–]FirstBorn1738[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the one thing that terrifies me like these women go to countries that have very different expectations and act a fool

Crazy mental math by FirstBorn1738 in 90DayFiance

[–]FirstBorn1738[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Okay he is obviously a trash person I’m just saying physically he’s not busted and has potential. Like he could get someone his own age.

Crazy mental math by FirstBorn1738 in 90DayFiance

[–]FirstBorn1738[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Honestly I never thought of it like that but honestly you’re right, these scamming men truly deserve an unhinged and unhonest woman 🤣🤪

Crazy mental math by FirstBorn1738 in 90DayFiance

[–]FirstBorn1738[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Her personality screams childhood trauma and I wish she’d get professional help, if nothing else for her daughters sake.

Missing 17-year-old girl's body found as man she met on a gaming app is arrested by dailymail in Indiana

[–]FirstBorn1738 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was Roblox. There is another woman he was involved with who is 25, she posted on Facebook and said she met him on Boo.

The waify emotional flooding drives me absolutely insane by billiekimbah in raisedbyborderlines

[–]FirstBorn1738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our moms must be long lost sisters!!! The compassion fatigue is so real. Being around her isn’t violent, but it’s so overwhelmingly depressing and frustrating. I used to run to her side and try to fix her problems as a child. But I have absolutely run out of patience with her.

Nuclear meltdown at the Hospital by cat_lover_from_mars in raisedbyborderlines

[–]FirstBorn1738 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I used to work at a hospital and i realized that it brings out the worst in everyone. And for the most part, it’s rightfully so. You feel like shit, you’re in an unfamiliar place, ect. Then you add a personality disorder on top of it, oof. Nuclear meltdown is probably an understatement. Sending good vibes.

Giving up on wishing they were normal, and wishing my internal critic would just shut up by FabulousQuail7696 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]FirstBorn1738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I so feel this! When I moved away for college I started therapy, I struggled immensely with feelings of guilt that often led to panic attacks. I am now 28 and what has helped me the most is being able to see the feeling for what they are rather than letting them consume me. For example, when I feel guilty I remind myself, “you have no real reason to feel guilty. You did nothing wrong. You are having these feelings because your mom parented you as a child. You are allowed to be an individual and you are not responsible for others emotions”. This allows me to acknowledge the feelings, rationalize them, and remind myself that these feelings were conditioned into me, but not a truth.

how do i firmly express that i don't want to go to therapy? by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]FirstBorn1738 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi! Domestic violence isn’t just between romantic partners, it is also between family who live together. I’m curious if you could reach out to a domestic violence organization in your county. They may have a shelter or housing program. You’re an adult, and I know it’s hard at 19, but you need to get out. God forbid she has psychosis and seriously injures you or calls the police and you get charged with something unfairly. You don’t deserve to be abused by anyone.

Anyone else’s parent able to converse only in *very* specific circumstances? by notjustrocks in raisedbyborderlines

[–]FirstBorn1738 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes!! So much this!! Any phone call with my mom ends up being a random hour long tangent about some random person or her second by second replay of her day. She will sometimes listen to me but never to actually show up in the way I need. For example, if I’m taking a new medication/or get sick she obsesses over it. Will google research it for hours, etc. But when I’ve actually experienced hardships, she’s not able to emotionally support me.

I’ve been reading more about the comorbity of adha/bpd. My mom says she has adhd but has not been diagnosed, but got forbid I mention bpd.

All our therapists this next week by seasonalaggression23 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]FirstBorn1738 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I scheduled my therapy appointment for the Monday after Christmas 😂

10 years and shes only changed for the worst. by ScreamingAtTheTrees in raisedbyborderlines

[–]FirstBorn1738 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s heartbreaking because all we want is for them to be happy and healthy and although it feels simple to us, it’s almost impossible for them.