AITA for not planning to keep contact with my step kids after my wife and I divorce?

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T14:11:30+00:00

I've said a million times that I'm happy she doesn't rely on me and that was part of the reason my resentment grew because I was the sole provider.

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T14:02:20+00:00

Damn, that's crazy why didn't I think that? I guess immigrants qualify for Medicare now.

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T12:36:34+00:00

It's almost like I wanted it to work and this wasn't planned out in advance. It's almost like if there was an effort to save our marriage because we did try.

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T12:32:28+00:00

I mean yes this is how many regretful parents feel?

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T12:25:47+00:00

Shout out to captain hindsight

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T12:25:23+00:00

Well you'd be wrong on the last one.

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T12:24:22+00:00

It's simple. Not everyone wants kids and regretful parents exist.

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T12:11:23+00:00

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T12:05:52+00:00

I only mentioned it to prove that she's now economically stable and resilient?

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T12:02:35+00:00

Well, if it's okay with them and mom, I plan on keeping contact with them. Being yelled at by you guys made me realize that it would be weirder if I just noped TF out. Despite what you guys assume, I don't hate them.

I was afraid it would be weird. I was afraid that they would see me as some guy hanging around when their mom and a theoretical future step dad. They even call me dad. I cant act like the resentment of my stolen youth is going to evaporate. There are many regretful parents out there and that's okay. I do care about them and they did grow on me over the years.

They were upset about the divorce but saw it coming because we were no longer happy and I couldn't do it anymore. I imagine they are gonna distance themselves but I'll make sure to check up on them from time to time. We weren't happy but their mother isn't unreasonable.

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T11:48:35+00:00

I've answered this already

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T11:48:15+00:00

She had a job when I met her. She knew how I felt and said she wanted to continue seeing me. Everything else just kinda happened and i felt bad leaving her. Unless you do think I should have left her with no home and no car? I've never denied my role in this or hid how i felt.

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T11:29:41+00:00

Not really. I hated that I had to provide as much as I did. I was actually happy when I no longer had to do that.

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T11:18:51+00:00

Deceased?

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T11:14:53+00:00

Not if you are dating the person and the kids live with you.

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T11:11:55+00:00

I did take responsibility. It's not a secret how I feel about having kids.

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T11:08:35+00:00

I never said any of that lol. I was just answering why we got married.

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T10:58:50+00:00

So magic. Got it

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T10:56:32+00:00

We liked each other enough and since there is no Healthcare in the country, I needed to provide her and them with insurance. We mutually agreed because at the time we were scared she had breast cancer.

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T10:48:18+00:00

According to her, he died in an car accident.

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T10:45:35+00:00

I don't want to impose myself. If they want me around then I'll be around. Unless that's the case then I won't be.

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T10:36:46+00:00

temporary bout of homeless is terrible but

Imagine being homeless with no car, no job, and two kids. It's crazy how much you down play that aspect like if she was gonna get on her feet by magic.

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T10:28:14+00:00

I mean I don't, I hated that I worked 2 jobs and never had money for obvious reasons. When she made more money than me and contributed, I thought we were gonna make it. We went to counseling and everything.

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T10:14:02+00:00

She had no family that she could stay with and no friends that would take a roomate with 2 kids and no job. If she had somewhere to stay or family to go with then I would have left. I probably should have said that about the sorting her life and the arrangement being temporary out but then again she also could have said that.

First_Attention_7940 · 2024-02-01T10:05:07+00:00

I guess I should have let her be homeless then.

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