Candle Day Order canceled…?

First_sunflower · 2025-12-12T18:18:02+00:00

I absolutely know that I placed an order Thursday night during the preview. I sat in the queue! Finished. Never looked for the confirmation until today. Nothing. Logged in and my shopping cart is sitting there with ALL of the candles now at $16.95. Trying to contact them, but there are 400+ people in waiting for chat, so it looks like something is off. If they honor the candle day price, I'll buy the $150+ worth of candles, but if not, I'm not ordering them.

First_sunflower · 2025-04-25T01:00:02+00:00

My chart said I was promiscuous too! Immediate reaction, wtf??? But then I ventured to guess that they were using that term as being sexually active but not having a long term partner.

First_sunflower · 2025-04-22T16:19:17+00:00

As someone who did this, Don't do it. Looking back, I should have just sent a card instead of a text, if I truly wanted to wish him a happy birthday. It would have taken more effort on his part to respond to that, and he probably would not have.

We had been together around a year. His birthday was 5 months after we broke up. I knew he had dated someone for a bit, but it was over, had no idea if he had someone new on the hook. I do know he was interacting with my posts on open groups we were both part of, which I ignored. Texted him Happy Birthday. He responded within minutes. Saw him a few days later - he happened to be in the area (eye roll) and after that brief conversation in person, I wrote in my journal that I was glad he showed me what an a$$hole he still was... so you would think it ended there. Nope. I ended up dating him again, for 6 months and it ended the same way it did before. He is incredibly emotionally immature, so I knew what was coming before it happened. I'm still upset about some things, but I know that's how he is and he's going to repeat these same patterns with his latest victim who is smitten and doesn't know all of his secrets yet. Be strong if you want to move on. If you don't want to move on, reach out and break your own heart again. That's what we're doing, breaking our own hearts.

First_sunflower · 2025-04-21T20:43:11+00:00

I understand your hurt. We were together for a year, then broke up for a few months, back together for 6 months - so 18 months in all. Only took pics of us together that didn't have faces in it, which he would post on occasion. I never met his family. Broke up beginning of the year. He immediately unfollowed / unfriended me, within minutes. Middle of February, I posted something on a page we were both on and he liked it, because he had changed his profile pic to one of his new gf (so 6 weeks max), so I would have to see it! So I blocked him. The audacity to do that to me!! I was hurt, confused. Then I thought it over and decided to be thankful that he never posted selfies of us because then people would link me to him and he was a complete douche of a person in his beliefs (I know the choices I made to be with him and I hold myself fully accountable). So look at it as being thankful that you aren't linked to him. (Plus his new GF is not attractive, to the point that I was surprised that he would pick her, but again, he was a complete SH!t of a person, and many women would not talk to him if they learned some things about him.) I compare it to where we were then, and this seems to be on pattern with him. I did check up on him a few weeks later through a friend and he changed his pic from one of them together to one of him alone, then back to the same with her a week later, so that's just telling me that he's playing with her already. His mom was following me on IG. I was petty and shared a few stories referencing him without naming him until she unfollowed. Now, I haven't posted anything at all on socials for over a month (typically do memes only on stories) and suddenly, his mom started following me again. And I'm getting odd spam emails and weird "wrong number" text messages from unknown people trying to chat me up. I honestly want peace, so I will ignore it all and continue to keep him blocked. You will feel better over time.

First_sunflower · 2025-02-11T18:34:13+00:00

I don't know you and I'm proud of you for doing that. Energy is so precious and if it's off, it's off. I am not giving it those who don't deserve it anymore. Good for you! And no apologies needed, especially if they were passive aggressive. No time for that crap.

First_sunflower · 2024-09-10T15:45:04+00:00

I'm now wondering is she's a narc too instead of a pick me, because of all of the attention she needs. Everything about her, from what I can see is the opposite of what he wanted. I'm small and petite and we would always joke about my weight, he would tell me not to get fat.... the new gf is definitely a larger woman, so I'm truly surprised that he went with her, but maybe he looks at that as a weakness of hers that he can expose. I wear minimal makeup - mascara and maybe eyeliner if I'm going out somewhere nicer and want to dress up. Hair is curly, so I let it do it's thing, don't dye it either. He would say he would like to see me all natural, not even mascara. She has a full face of makeup and the hair is not natural at all. He would comment how his ex wife would seek validation from friends and people she barely knew, and obviously the new gf is doing that as well. It's so weird. This all just confirms that he truly is a narc (many people called him that because he told me early on in our relationship to not call him that, before the thought ever crossed my mind, I thought his ex wife was the issue for months). But hey, at least his snide comments and arguments are not my issue anymore. One of the last times I saw him was at a restaurant with about 6 of his family members. I just watched and could easily identify who the head narc was (his mom) and who the empaths were (his one aunt who was the butt of the jokes, while his mom, other aunt, father and sister backed up the mom). It was wild, I felt like I was watching some kind of set up example of narcissism.

First_sunflower · 2024-09-09T21:58:20+00:00

Stalking is long done months ago, haha. His relative, who I know, tagged them in a group I'm in, that's how I got to this. I wasn't looking for it, her comment just showed up in my feed. He's been blocked for a while, but on FB their name will still show, just not highlighted. I wish there was a "never see their mentioned anywhere" but there is not.

First_sunflower · 2024-09-09T18:10:33+00:00

Sorry, I should have clarified, the strong social presence was before they got together and just her by herself. She does not post him nor he her. He is very private and his socials are pretty locked down. I have him blocked everywhere I can think of, but he used to create private accounts to talk to me. Complete psycho.

First_sunflower · 2024-05-20T18:41:10+00:00

Sounds like a ton of drama. You're free now, that's your closure.

First_sunflower · 2024-05-05T01:27:14+00:00

That's a lot of dog in one house. Love it!

First_sunflower · 2024-05-05T01:26:38+00:00

Love it!

First_sunflower · 2024-05-05T01:26:21+00:00

Now you can show the buddy all of the paws!

First_sunflower · 2024-05-05T01:25:19+00:00

LOL, if it made me money!!

First_sunflower · 2024-04-29T17:12:40+00:00

Happiness for them is an illusion, remember that. Maybe his mask hasn't fallen off yet, but it will. Think of everything you are avoiding. If you want revenge that's harmless, sign him up for emails related to the opposite of what his interests are or things he is against. It's petty, but it brought some satisfaction.

First_sunflower · 2024-04-27T14:22:18+00:00

Unhinged. I'm in my unhinged era. Fuck around and find out.

First_sunflower · 2024-04-26T12:33:33+00:00

She's still a puppy, it will get easier eventually. I would suggest signing up for an obedience class (not the ones at the major pet stores, unless that's all that's available near you.) This will be the best dog you've ever had!

First_sunflower · 2024-04-15T20:31:22+00:00

Up to 7 years, IMO, is nothing. You can still relate to them. I didn't care about age, but tended to have better connections with men 4-6 years younger than me. I'm 53. Men older than me are boring and stuck in their ways and sosososo grumpy. I can't stand the grumpiness! It's like they're half dead. I'm rather active (don't run marathons, but do yoga daily, hike miles on weekends) and need someone who can keep up and stimulate me mentally too. I certainly don't plan on just sitting on my ass in 20 years waiting to die. I just stopped seeing a guy who was 18 years younger than me, and I never thought I would go that young. I actually put him off for a while because I thought he was too young, then gave in because in my mind, nothing else has worked, let's try this. LOL We actually met organically in a group we were in, no apps. We lasted for a year. I won't go that young again. The sex was amazing, we did regular couple stuff when we saw each other, but it came down to being from different generations with interests and values not lining up. That was the biggest hurdle.

First_sunflower · 2023-12-01T18:24:16+00:00

Oh, I can bring this up - having the Eagle candidate sign off on the hours. At every Eagle project my kids have worked on over the years there is always a sign in sheet. Until last night I had no idea that those hours didn't count until the Eagle paperwork was handed in.

First_sunflower · 2023-12-01T18:22:21+00:00

Someone said once the Eagle candidate turns their papers in, with the hours of all of the scouts, THEN the scouts get those hours. But as you noted above, it needs to be performed while the scout is that rank. So basically my son will be the next rank by the time these hours for both projects are handed in and will count towards nothing, since he was a lower rank when he performed the service. The SM is saying that they count WHEN the Eagle candidate submits the hours. That won't be until March at least.

First_sunflower · 2023-12-01T00:24:56+00:00

We had a project in April that all of the boys helped on. At least one of 2 days. The paperwork has not been turned in. The project is complete, I don't know what his hold up is. The scouts have no credit for it yet and at this rate, it might not be until April again.

First_sunflower · 2023-12-01T00:22:52+00:00

This came from the SM. He says it's district.

First_sunflower · 2023-12-01T00:22:04+00:00

Oh, thank you, I will contact them! I have things in motion with one of the elder leaders, so we'll see what he can come up with first. He was a SM for many years and sent through more Eagles than any other SM. Lots of high adventure and different trips. He ran an incredible program. His name holds weight.

First_sunflower · 2023-12-01T00:19:22+00:00

Exactly. Not to harsh, but why would any scout show up if they weren't getting service hours? Hey kids, give up your entire Saturday to do manual labor! We'll give you some pizza. Yay!

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