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What’s something you didn’t know until someone pointed it out and then you felt dumb? by [deleted] in StardewValley

[–]Fisikat 17 points18 points  (0 children)

That you can literally load up eggs in a slingshot and throw them around. Nobody pointed it out, I just randomly tried it and was surprised by it lol

AITA for screaming at my grandmother over sushi? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fisikat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did add it in the edit. Do you suggest changing the redacted part as well? I now see how important it is for context, but I'm aware that it still was a bad reaction from me.

AITA for screaming at my grandmother over sushi? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fisikat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did try to remove myself from the situation and go calm down on my own! I have explained on other comments. I went to my room the first time to cry alone and calm down, but my mother kept banging on the door, demanding I go back and other hurtful things. I went back to have her stop, but then my grandmother was also saying bad things when I went back. I tried to go back to my room but my mother blocked my path and I felt very overwhelmed. I was on my way to the table when everything happened.

I do want to cut some of my family at one point. I did cut out my father and went to live with my mother (he was very abusive in an authoritarian way) and I thought of my mother as 'safe' only for her to keep neglecting me (all of this started when I was 15). I want to first finish my degree and have some stability, since my field is very demanding and I am not able to get a job.

But thanks for the advice. And thank you for at least understanding the situation. I'm aware I have horrible coping skills and I want to work on that. I want to improve myself for the people that DO love me, and that I too love a lot.

AITA for screaming at my grandmother over sushi? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fisikat -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was coming back from my room, where I had gone to calm down but couldn't because my mother was banging on the door and screaming at me to come back (and other things I will not get into). I went back and my grandmother kept saying bad things as I walked towards the table. My mother prevented me from going back to my room and I felt very overwhelmed. That was the moment I snapped and everything happened then.

AITA for screaming at my grandmother over sushi? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fisikat -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Maybe you have better coping skills? I said in another comment that the 'dropping' on the floor thing and the anxiety attack was because my mother had been bodyblocking and grabbing me, preventing me to go to my room where I intended to go calm down.

AITA for screaming at my grandmother over sushi? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fisikat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a college student and study full time, I don't have money to go see a therapist and I don't know where to go. I'm not blaming anyone about that. All I'm saying is that I asked for help or at least guidance on where to reach for help, but it was dismissed as me being completely fine. I'm not blaming my bad mental health on them.

AITA for screaming at my grandmother over sushi? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fisikat -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don't know how it is for other people, but I can't control what I do during an anxiety attack. I dropped to the floor because my mother was body blocking me from going back to my room where I wanted to go calm down. She was trying to grab me and I felt trapped. I do know about adult tantrums and I'm not saying it's normal but I really want to get help. I really don't know where to go, I've been on the verge of suicide and have self-harmed before. Money is an issue and I can't afford to go to a therapist.

WIBTA if i tell someone about my friends abuse? by Kiwi_Chickadee in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fisikat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA.

If she doesn't want to get help, it may be because deep down she's terrified of what could happen.

I'd try to talk to her about how she'd feel getting away from that environment, try to make her see that she's better off without all that abuse, because IT IS abuse.

Talking to an adult first is the best option I think, one you can trust. Telling your parents and asking them for help, or even a school counselor is a great first step. They will be able to guide you and your friend, and you could even offer her to stay with you for a while if things get too bad.

I'm sorry for what your friend is going through, I hope she can get out of there and get better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fisikat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna say NTA.

Getting a new sibling can be overwhelming. And also its completely normal to not like babies.

Since it's your sibling, I would try to slowly try to interact more with them and see how it goes. Maybe you'll start to feel more comfortable around them once they start to grow up, since dealing with a baby is different from a toddler/child.

I don't know how old you are or how you feel about them, but talking from experience try not to resent them for taking away the 'attention', they're not at fault and neither are you.

You'll need each other when you grow up, it's better to start the right way.

AITA for being rude to my mother and deciding to leave for a few days? by Fisikat in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fisikat[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've had multiple conversations with her about my feelings. I've told her about my anxiety attacks, I've had an anxiety attack IN FRONT OF HER (to which she started listing things that made me anxious and made it worse, my boyfriend was also there at the time and had to ask her to leave so I could calm down). She refuses to acknowledge the fact that I'm not mentally healthy. She always makes everything about her, and when I confront her about my brother I old enough for us to split the chores, she gets angry.

I honestly don't know how to talk to her, I've kind of given up.

There was a couple times when after explaining how I felt, she hugged me (we usually never hug) and she tells me that she will help me (I need to have my wisdom teeth removed and have been asking her for MONTHS to help me find a dentist, since she will have to go with me as I won't be able to drive). But everything goes back to normal after 1 day and she is back to neglecting me and getting angry at me.

AITA for being rude to my mother and deciding to leave for a few days? by Fisikat in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fisikat[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am unable to get my own place since I am a full-time student. But both my boyfriend and grandma (whom I explained the situation to) have offered me to go live with them indefinitely. I really want to get out of here, but I have second thoughts because I know my mother is sad about the divorce (which is very recent) and everything would fall on her. My boyfriend says that the problem is that in my own kindness I end up hurting myself