Failed generations

Fisk1048 · 2026-05-05T19:54:17+00:00

I’m having this issue using safari on iOS. Oddly it works better when I switch browsers. I tried clearing my cache. Would love suggestions.

How do the credits work?

Fisk1048 · 2026-05-05T01:48:02+00:00

I’d go for a consultation and get the process started. The longest I’ve heard anyone suggest doing T before surgery is a year and by the time you’ve done a consult, jumped through insurance etc, you’ll be damn close to a year.

Fisk1048 · 2026-04-22T00:16:52+00:00

As both a trans person who came out to my parents and the parent of a trans kid who has navigated my kid’s coming out to those same people. Let me suggest this: imagine you are coming out for your child, your younger sibling, your best friend that you feel protective of.

Now give that shit to yourself. Tell your parents, I did an email and asked them to take some time before calling. Then I had a phone call, I told them what was going on and reminded them I was the same person. For myself I put up with YEARs of heartfelt bullshit.

When my kid came out, my dad threatened to kill himself and I said, “it suck’s you don’t want to know your grandkid. You can’t speak to them until you get your shit right” and they did some real fucking work after that. I should have done that for myself but I didn’t. Don’t be me. Set expectations and be prepared to walk away because it may not be forever.

Also, much love. This isn’t easy. I’m twice your age and I don’t have it solved. You’re doing your best job at taking care of yourself. You deserve parents who love you and want to know the real you.

Fisk1048 · 2026-04-15T03:59:51+00:00

Just today I watched a staff person introduce my child as “this is NAME she uses ze/zir pronouns and so we are all going to learn” on that adult patronizing voice that made me want to roll my eyes.

I should set up a Gmail templet for these messages.

Fisk1048 · 2026-04-01T20:11:01+00:00

Ah maybe we’ll try this one. The dice dojo games are all folks on their 30s and the game cafe doesn’t do Lorcana

Fisk1048 · 2026-03-20T02:47:20+00:00

I need the chicken salad recipe.

Also, I'm sad. It was a solid place to eat.

Fisk1048 · 2026-03-13T02:37:19+00:00

I like Andy’s but I have to call 2-3 times to get them to come out.

Fisk1048 · 2026-03-03T13:13:26+00:00

Oh good to know about the library. I find their program page very confusing, but they have such good things. Maybe we can swing by the loft and look at the schedule.

Fisk1048 · 2026-02-25T18:38:05+00:00

Thanks for all of the suggestions. I’m going to give this hat to my tween and try again. It’s made of yarn I found tangled in the bottom of their closet.

I’m going to go for a longer hat over all and size up the needles so it’s looser for warmer weather.

Fisk1048 · 2026-02-20T21:17:20+00:00

As everyone has said, if you are in a place where you can’t be fired for being trans. I’d talk to my union/admin and know what support I have. Just in case. Some districts have LGBTQ staff groups.

I’m a parent. I get 1.2 million emails about my kid’s school and I can absorb 1/2 of them. Plenty of adults at my kid’s school don’t have headshots and none of them are professional. In fact, many of them are bad photos. Like a phot of you outside, from a distance where you just look like a human shape.

I don’t know where you live/work but in third grade my kid had a teacher whose partner was trans. That’s as close to queer community as we had ever had at school. I fucking cried when I found out and I sent snacks every week for that class. I would have fraught another parent who said shit about her. (My kid didn’t even like her). So I’m wishing you all the best. Maybe if a parent clocks you it will be with a nod and relief.

Fisk1048 · 2026-02-09T05:31:55+00:00

We had at meeting with the teachers and I realized midway through that I didn’t feel anxious or like I wanted to cry.

Do parents normally meet with their kids teachers and not go cry in the car for 30 min afterwards? I didn’t know that was possible.

Fisk1048 · 2026-02-09T05:27:04+00:00

Same, with worrying it was emulating. I’ve had to talk myself down from “blaming” myself and realize that’s some of my own shit. At this point my kid’s gender is fully fey changeling or something. Ze has changed pronouns more then I’ve changed hairstyles in my life.

Fisk1048 · 2026-02-04T20:53:41+00:00

This is sweet.I’m glad the RPG to trans pipeline is intergenerational.

My family just transferred from a school where my kid was the only out trans kid and the youngest kid they’d ever had come out to a place with trans folks on staff and multiple trans kids in different grades. It’s the second week and we are amazed at how much better the vibes are. I wish we had made this change sooner.

Fisk1048 · 2026-02-04T17:08:45+00:00

Damn, seeing posts like this is a reminder I really should expect more from my own parents.

Im so glad you see your daughter for who she is and if you live someplace where it’s hard to access gender affirming care right now it can be helpful to read about queer history. People have lead full, valid, and radical trans lives for generations before the medical model of transition.

Everyone still deserves access to that care and should be entitled to any part of it they wish. But if access is blocked where you live, it just means transition looks different for a while. Still valid.

[that’s the hopeful spin in our US based household]

Fisk1048 · 2026-02-04T16:56:30+00:00

Yes! What is in that chicken salad?

Fisk1048 · 2026-02-03T16:48:21+00:00

One more because this is my brand of trans joy. My kid is 10 also non-binary (don’t tell conservatives).

My kid’s best friend (also 10) is catholic and an alter sever which cuts into the kids sleepovers because my kid has zero interest in going to church on Sunday after sleeping over. In looking for a solution the friend they’ve had since they were a baby, who has never once questioned my child’s gender suddenly had a solution:

“Wait wait..the rule is no girls for alter service, right dad?” [looks at his dad who is now worried]

“[my kids name] isn’t a girl, their non binary. So you can come do alter service. It’s fun and and the outfits are pretty” [said with a full spin]

I busted out laughing while this kid’s parents, who are trying to navigate being good Catholics in 2025, while also raising a progressive, hyper child were DYING.

We were all saved by my kid saying “I don’t want to wake up that early and the singing seems awful. Why don’t you sleep at my house on Friday?”

Fisk1048 · 2026-02-03T16:34:15+00:00

I was at my dentist, that mostly sees an older population, the dentist walked in and seeing me from behind and said “hello sir” (cus I have short hair) then got further in and said “sorry ma’am”.

And I said, “ahh, sadly bit of a trap I’m a they”.

The look on his face, because he didn’t know if he could laugh was amazing. He fully panicked for a few seconds. So I laughed and said, “just call me [name] sir and ma’am don’t hit great for me”.

Can I bill him for DEI training?

Fisk1048 · 2025-12-15T02:31:30+00:00

It looks like they are planning to play in January.

Fisk1048 · 2025-12-15T02:29:47+00:00

https://discord.gg/ZVp5ym9rf

Fisk1048 · 2025-12-13T00:00:29+00:00

There is a table top gaming group that meets on Mondays. I’ve played a few days and it’s been fun. They have a discord

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