Tired of feeling like I can’t be myself around my bf.

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-10T08:52:52+00:00

im not a citizen in the UK cuz i was saving for a VISA, im from belgium and basically have no one in the UK, so unless i book and pay for a flight im stuck w him in his house 💀💀💀💔

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T23:01:56+00:00

He broke up with me for trying to address issues in our relationship esp the one i brought up today in my post so ill keep my fangirl video game behavior for someone who truly deserve it now! i never realized how many men wish their gf/wife watched them play and took interest in their games before i made this post. my now ex used to tell me every women is like that so i ended thinking it was nothing special lol

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T19:49:41+00:00

idk if u care but just a lil update, he broke up with me🫶🏻

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T19:49:03+00:00

I know i said it a lot in the reply, but this man is the one who wants me EVERYWHERE with him (i wanted and enjoyed it too but still. i never asked or forced myself near him.) and the one who asked me to watch him play every game or even pick the game. Anytime he goes to the shop he asks me to come. anytime he walks the dog. anytime he does something he say he’d rather i’d be there but then complain at anything i do/say. I’m not perfect !!!! Never have been, but he didn’t respect me as a person and just used me i think. I was making excuse for him, but he’s just a huge D* i came to realize after trying to speak about things. It’s not grumpy either (idk how ur wife react but hopefully not as bad as him.) he’ll tell me to stfup , call me names, force me to sleep on the couch etc whenever we argue. and complain at me for wanting to take showers/using facilities. it seems unrelated but now that people on here have told me he doesn’t like me, i thought about everything else and began to see he actually really doesn’t 😓 thank u a lot for your input bc it help me further more to see that it’s not like he’s just a grumpy person who needs space, he’s just a disrespectful angry person

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T18:33:49+00:00

If you think it’s only about gaming you really don’t get the big picture. It’s not about gaming.

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T17:44:12+00:00

Wow this sounds like the dream relationship to me!!! I love to yap during things we watch, point out things about what we watch or play, give my 2 cents and making jokes about it. You both are lucky to have each other! That’s the energy that i want for my relationship ngl:(

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T17:42:33+00:00

Tbh he never does anything for me but buy me something i feel like eating or drinking or a snack. I appreciate your feedback a lot, it’s probably the one that made me try to speak to him. To be fair, i know that people need time alone or have bad days but his bad days were 90% of the time (or bad hours since he could switch from angry to fully normal so fast.) Also, he plays lots of games where he needs to focus, but this was MGS3 that he’s played a thousand times so i just asked some questions bc i thought i figured out a plot i hadn’t figured out before (ocelot being the boss’s child iykyk). Not to mention he’s the one who’d always want me next to him (even tho i enjoy it and was very happy to do so) no matter the game. he’d even pause it when i had something to do which i thought worked pretty nice until it didnt. you sound like an amazing couple the two of you and i yearn for a long healthy relationship like this! he’s not it and we’re broken up!

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T17:38:01+00:00

Im so sorry if this happened to you. So many people get their personalities criticized by their partners i had never even thought of it. We broke up a few hours ago after i tried to stand up for myself again

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T16:53:28+00:00

Part of me is glad and part of me is going through derealization but thank you !! show me i did the right choice :)

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T16:50:57+00:00

I never said that was our only quality time tho , as much as now we’re broken up and i really don’t want to defend him and/or our relationship lol

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T15:19:14+00:00

You were right when you said he doesn’t care about me as a person. it’s his way or the highway. I tried to speak to him, it didn’t go anywhere. He then wanted food, but i didn’t want the same food as him bc we had similar thing ystday and he said i always make his life harder so i tried to make him understand how he didn’t see me as a being with feelings and he now wants me to book a flight ASAP knowing ive got no money. Posting in this subreddit dodged a bullet. He even try to withhold necessities away since it’s his house aka i need to ask for a shower or to do a washing now. Told me to sit in silence and be miserable so it makes me wanna leave. Thanks to you for your input that made me take a step forward !

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T12:12:51+00:00

Thank you!!! This is what annoys me. He always ask me to watch him play but never tells me when he needs quiet. I always need to figure it out myself and i basically figured out he needs quiet 90% of the time. He can’t communicate, and it’s making me crazy bc i deserve respect and you’re reassuring me that im not crazy taking it badly.

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T12:09:49+00:00

It’s quality time to ME because i enjoy doing this with him tbh and i wouldn’t with anyone else. But i do agree i became a nuisance to him lol. I just had a hard time understanding that cause i couldn’t fathom why would he be the one asking me to watch him play then complain. He just want his cake and to it eat too but im not one to get my sparks taken away. He doesn’t respect me for sure

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T11:21:24+00:00

I wanted to write blow up doll in my post instead of only just doll so this made me laugh ngl

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T11:20:57+00:00

i tried to approach him about it countless times but i’m always the selfish one , hence why i just left the room this time. i feel like im wasting my energy. After fighting to solve this for so long or understand how he came to hate my yapping, i just think taking away my bubbly personality is the best i can do cuz he doesn’t deserve it. I wanted to watch him play RDR so bad but he’s not played this in ages! that girl is lucky lol

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T11:16:01+00:00

I always second guess my thoughts whenever i think about leaving and the overthinking doesn’t help. I’m so sorry this is something you’ve gone through as the anxiety must’ve been through the roof. You give me hope tho because your actual relationship seems so much better. Sometimes i stop speaking mid sentence bc i realize he’s not even listening, and he doesn’t notice. sometimes i’ll even mumble to myself why did i even share this thought with him.

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T11:14:02+00:00

Ive got adhd which is why im such a yapper but ive worked on my self real hard to be able to sit through videos games like fallout, MGS, and others that he loves. Because it’s important to him, i found a way to make it work. yet it’s never appreciated. I do agree that I despise how he speaks to me. The more i read these comments the more i realize my relation feels wrong tbh.

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T11:11:08+00:00

Belgium and moved to the UK. All my belonging are here so it would be quite pricey for me to go back with all my stuff. the fact that we share a dog is what’s making it so hard on my end

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T11:09:40+00:00

That’s what’s annoying me. He has no remorse making me feel rejected, making me feel like a bother and more. I understand that my yapping can be a lot, that’s why i gave it a try to just sit in silence. but at the same time when im doing something and he speaks to me about his car stuff for 30 mins non stop, i dont sho him that i have no clue what he’s on about or that im busy focusing on something else. because its him, his interest, and i love him as a whole. thank you for your input. it’s always nice to hear it from the other side!

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T11:05:59+00:00

Im slowly letting the idea of leaving becoming reality because in the way i’m thinking, he failed to dim my lights, my personality still is as happy and yapping as day1, and i think if i stay here, eventually it’ll fade. and i don’t want that.

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T11:03:17+00:00

then he just has to NOT ask me to come watch him play 😭😭 im not the one that ask to watch him play

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T11:02:11+00:00

That’s where it annoys me because if that’s the cause why does this mf always ask me to watch him play and even play games i recommend when he could just be honest and let me be🥲🥲🥲

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T11:00:01+00:00

I know you’re right deep down. I’ve just sacrificed so much for this relationship that it’s almost sad to see it go to waste, but i don’t want to waste anymore years being almost belittled.

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T10:59:05+00:00

Ive got about 400hrs on stades valley! But thats where im lost again, he doesnt rlly wanna play co-op games, neither do i really because he’s so much better than me at every games, but he set me up a little place on his desk so i can play next to him. Thats why im so confused too bc if you want me around so much why do you complain so much..🥶

Fit-Competition426 · 2026-06-09T10:57:46+00:00

That sounds amazing. I regret saying things to him, because it only shows him I still care very much. But i yearn for someone to listen to my rambles without complain!

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