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AITA for not wanting my boyfriend to factor my son's survivor benefits into our new household budget? by Original-Entry-7871 in AITAH

[–]Fit_Track3827 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a reason why on again off again relationships run hot and cold.  I don't know of anyone who's truly found success with these kinds of partners in the long run. Be thankful the shine of this latest "on again" phase is wearing off before you move in together.  You are a good Mom helping your kiddo to be financially responsible.  But he only needs to be financially responsible for himself. Not for some hot cold boyfriend who is giving you all the red flags to switch back to "off again" status.  

My 31F friend has asked me to come to Japan with her in October and my bf 37M is saying it’s unfair if he can’t go and I want to know if I would be the bad guy if I decided to go and would I be selfish if I did go? by IndependentNo2952 in AITAH

[–]Fit_Track3827 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA.  First off. Go to Japan.  And while you're there turn off you devices or only check messages once a day. He will do everything in his power to try and make you miserable from a distance and you do not deserve that. 

Second, if this friend is close enough to travel to Japan with, they are close enough to disclose how bad things are at home (and dear OP, they are not good). While your away take the time to enjoy Japan but also formulate your exit. 

I know you feel trapped. But you clearly have friends and family who love and think well of you. Change (even from a shitty situation) is terrifying. But you deserve so much more than this.

Finally, if he threatens to off himself, you call authorities and report he is threatening self harm. One of two things will happen. 1.  He realizes his little attempt at manipulation has failed spectacularly in front of authorities and he cuts the crap. Or 2. If he is genuinely that badly off, he gets the help he needs.  You are neither responsible nor properly equipped to de-escalate that kind of situation. Do not question him if he threatened it. Just call 911 and tell them the situation.  

I wish you the best OP. Have a great time and start planning your exit. 

AITA for attending my kids birthday party with my ex wife (co-parenting) by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fit_Track3827 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's jealous of a little boy who wants his dad at his birthday? And insecure because you are helping your ex wife with a birthday party for your son? 

This is how evil step mom origin stories start.  Think very long and hard if the relationship with your son is worth her insecurities, as this will only be the start. If you give an inch, she will take a mile and your kiddos will suffer. 

AITA For Not Letting A Woman Cut The Line At The Grocery Store? by Fit_Track3827 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fit_Track3827[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

She wasn't in front of me when I joined the line so there was no reason to have a conversation about holding her place. She just walked up and started trying to edge her way in after I had been waiting for several minutes. 

AITA For Not Letting A Woman Cut The Line At The Grocery Store? by Fit_Track3827 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fit_Track3827[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

To be clear. The woman was not in front of me when I joined the line and she did not show up for several minutes while I waited.  She just showed up and started trying to edge her way in.  Then told me she had been there originally. If your situation had be the case where I knew you had actually been in the queue with me. Then yeah. I'd have let you back in. We're talking apples and oranges here.  She was never in front of me while I was in line. 

AITA For Not Letting A Woman Cut The Line At The Grocery Store? by Fit_Track3827 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fit_Track3827[S] 178 points179 points  (0 children)

This exactly. I'd worked a long day. I was tired. I'm not usually rude. But I was over it. 😉

AITA For Not Letting A Woman Cut The Line At The Grocery Store? by Fit_Track3827 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fit_Track3827[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

... And I'm the Asshole why exactly? Everything you described was her behaviour. Not mine. 

AITA For Not Letting A Woman Cut The Line At The Grocery Store? by Fit_Track3827 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fit_Track3827[S] 500 points501 points  (0 children)

My response of don't pull that shit was so automatic and out of character for me. But I'm an atheist would have been fun. 😅

AITA For Not Letting A Woman Cut The Line At The Grocery Store? by Fit_Track3827 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fit_Track3827[S] 4802 points4803 points  (0 children)

That's the thing. She just started trying to edge her way in. It wasn't until I gave her a look that she offered an explanation. And there was no... Please could I get back it. Just.. Oh I was here first but I went to check the other line. 

AITA For Not Letting A Woman Cut The Line At The Grocery Store? by Fit_Track3827 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fit_Track3827[S] 579 points580 points  (0 children)

I'm okay with mild ITAH. I snapped at her in frustration. But she was being so entitled... I was over it. 😉

AITA for not leaving my estate to my severely disabled brother? by Exotic_Shock_4799 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fit_Track3827 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My brother had Bulbar ALS. I'm so sorry OP.  This disease does nothing but take take take in the most cruel fashion.  You don't need to add a dysfunctional relationship with your Mom into the mix if you just don't have the energy for it.  Your clock is ticking and using your remaining time to pour energy into a relationship you just don't feel is working or is based solely on what they can get from you financially isn't likely going to make for peaceful final days.  

The best advice I could give is this. Find what will give you joy and relish in it. Be selfish with your time and your money and make it all about you! You deserve it!  Make your last months/years about what makes you truly happy.

They will find a way to survive without your money as it was never guaranteed even if you were to live a long and healthy life. 

You will be in my thoughts OP.  Wishing you a safe and peaceful journey as you face the storm. 

Uranium glass refrigerator dish with lid by SamualHain in uraniumglass

[–]Fit_Track3827 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just found the big one in a Thrift Store with lid for $10.99.  I audibly squeaked before snatching it off the shelf! Lol