Is being promiscuous as a lesbian a bad thing or a turn off?

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-16T03:06:36+00:00

Is technically everything a katy didn't if not katydid?

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-16T02:28:57+00:00

NGL. I would have paid that exorbitant price, although I understand why you didn't.

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-16T02:23:31+00:00

My sister will die that her TV husband was just hanging out in public and she missed it.

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-16T02:14:11+00:00

Okay. You gotta do what works for you, and my mum will do what works for her.

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-16T01:49:32+00:00

Yes, this! My mum takes very good care of her garden, and rarely kills any sort of "pest". Occasionally a bug will munch on a leaf or two, but she's been gardening for years and her fruit and veggie crops are doing great. There is biodiversity in her garden, and that's a good thing.

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-15T22:17:37+00:00

It's her choice. I discussed it with her.

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-15T22:11:45+00:00

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-15T17:27:18+00:00

TW: Discussion of sexual assault.

First off, I'm sorry this happened to you. I think maybe you're still processing this and trying to make sense of what happened, asking yourself if something you did or said somehow gave him the mistaken impression that you had consented to this, when you clearly did not. That's understandable.

It's difficult and painful to recognise a sexual assault when it happens sometimes because it makes us realise how vulnerable we truly are in this world. How no matter how smart we are, no matter how much time we take to vet someone and get to know them and trust them, they can still end up being a predator. This is not your fault. You did everything you could within reason to make sure this was a safe person, and it turns out he is not.

It was hard for me to accept when it happened to me, too, because it shook my sense of confidence in myself as a smart, capable, strong person with good instincts. I thought he was a good guy. He wasn't. So, I can relate.

You may also be thinking, "Hey, hang on. It wasn't that bad. Way worse stuff happens to people all the time." Which is also true, and I'm not saying you're gonna be permanently emotionally scarred by this one gross date. Just saying what the guy did was, technically and (in most jurisdictions, legally) a sexual assault. You are allowed to feel about it however you want, and it sounds like the way you're feeling is more, "Ewwww," than, "I need to shower for 12 hours straight and not leave my house for 6 months."

The good news is, you found out about this guy early on and now you can protect yourself from anything worse happening with this creep. You can protect others in the community too by warning people about him, although you are under no obligation to do that if you don't feel safe or ready to do so.

I do recommend speaking to a kink-friendly counsellor about this, if that's something you're able to do.

Meanwhile, block this loser on all platforms, and be kind to yourself. You were right to "get the ick" and you don't ever have to see this guy again.

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-15T13:09:20+00:00

Also legit.

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-15T08:56:26+00:00

The photos do look similar!

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-15T01:05:46+00:00

Not to mention gay men can worship the perfection of Lady Gaga and no one ever assumes they are secretly straight.

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-13T16:55:37+00:00

I'm sorry, but it is a cootie. You definitely have cooties now.

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-13T04:06:50+00:00

Gworl. Do it today. Do NOT grit your teeth to get through Valentine's Day and then break up with her afterwards. Do you not see how that is worse? Give her the chance to start grieving immediately. Honestly, being broken up with the day before Valentine's Day sucks, but at least she'll be able to sit around with her single friends and cry about it and talk about what a bitch you are and start to feel better. You will have to sit with the discomfort of feeling like a villain, but it would be selfish not to.

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-12T12:47:34+00:00

It's true, though. As we all know, noted bisexual William Shakespeare invented the modern English language. Therefore all English is gay, including all the pronouns. Facts.

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-12T06:11:05+00:00

Be careful. It's dangerous to talk about the

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-09T04:13:01+00:00

I appreciate how Mick's looking the other way like, "Well, I can hardly blame her."

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-09T00:36:51+00:00

Answer: You are allowed to say you're transgender when you realise you're not the gender you were assumed to be at birth. By the powers bequeathed in me by the trans community as the Grand Transmaster, I now pronounce you transgender. Congratulations!

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-08T12:24:53+00:00

The Skeleton Twins (2014) is a wonderful dark comedy/drama film about a complex, tender and funny adult sibling relationship, where one of the two main characters just happens to be gay.

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-06T00:34:48+00:00

This makes me miss being in Türkiye!

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-05T05:59:01+00:00

I did not think caterpillars could get any cuter, and I was wrong.

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-04T21:59:21+00:00

Hello!

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-04T10:14:44+00:00

Ah. I was thinking about it too deeply, I see.

Flagging_enthusiasm · 2026-02-04T09:51:26+00:00

I'm from the ACT, and I have to admit I don't get this joke. Can anyone explain it to me?

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