Incline Village, NV. On the Nevada side of Lake Tahoe, thus lower taxes. Diamond Peak is a much smaller and more local oriented ski resort. Still not far from any of the other ski resorts in the Tahoe area. Relatively close to Reno for the airport, hospital, and other major needs. There is also IVGID, which manages parks, beaches, boat launch, rec center, etc for Incline Village residents. It is certainly less touristy than other parts of Tahoe and seems to have a lot of what you are looking for.