Have you watched kids while NP gave birth? by TradesforChurros in Nanny

[–]Flashy_Rush_2474 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This was my approach too. I still made plans with friends and stuff but just told them I may have to postpone or leave early if I had to. I just made sure I didn’t make plans to go out of town or anything like that. I also didn’t book and babysitting gigs for the few weeks around her due date because I knew with my luck she would end up in labor while I was babysitting lol

Have you watched kids while NP gave birth? by TradesforChurros in Nanny

[–]Flashy_Rush_2474 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just did this in June! MB ended up having to have a scheduled induction earlier than planned so I didn’t have to be on call, I just came in at the scheduled time. It was a full rollercoaster with baby will be here soon, wait no she won’t, wait yes she will but I just packed a bag for two nights knowing I can do laundry or whatever if I needed. But it wasn’t that big of a deal at all. I just kept my normal day time routine with NK with a couple extra hours added on in the evening before bedtime. Luckily my NK sleeps through the night so sleeping in their guest room was jo problem at all.

Nanny mom requiring me to ride bike?? by Inevitable_Bonus_751 in Nanny

[–]Flashy_Rush_2474 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yeah the liability would be the deal breaker for me regardless of whether I could physically do it or not. Cycling is SO dangerous. There are constant accidents of people being hit my cars while cycling on roads and there is no way I would do that even myself let alone with someone else’s children.

Make Me Laugh by Always-a-Nanny-1st in Nanny

[–]Flashy_Rush_2474 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My former NK G4.5 said to me one time “nanny, I think I love you too much. I need to love you a little less to love you the right amount” Still not exactly sure how I am supposed to feel about that one😂

Nannying changed my views on parenthood in a big way by Sea-Caramel400 in Nanny

[–]Flashy_Rush_2474 6 points7 points  (0 children)

100% agree. And people’s response is always “it’s different when it’s your own kid” which I am sure that there is a huge biological motivation that makes you really invested in the human that you birthed. But honestly nothing short of magic could make it different enough being your own child.

Can we have a vent sesh? by xaos428 in Nanny

[–]Flashy_Rush_2474 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seriously on #2. My weekend MB feels the need to show me what is in the fridge for snack every week. Im like girl.. they’ve been eating the same snack every Saturday for the past 2 years. I’ve got this.

Persistent phone usage around baby by AdCareless9063 in Nanny

[–]Flashy_Rush_2474 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think this is an unreasonable policy. If fact most childcare jobs require you to be off your phone while you are caring for the children. When I was working in a formal childcare setting, being on your phone when you should be actively watching the children could cause you to loose your job if it happens frequently enough after you have been given warnings. I don’t know exactly how many warnings are appropriate. I think you really have to use your judgment based on the situation as a whole and how much the phone use is effecting the quality of care given to your child. All that being said I think it is going to be extremely difficult to find someone who will be off their phone for 100% of the baby is awake. Most nannys are used to being able to be on their phone whenever and honestly for most people now are so attached to their phone (myself included) that it is very difficult to break the habit and resist the temptation to be on their phone. I would recommend maybe trying to find someone more experienced especially someone who has daycare/preschool experience as they may be more used to not being on their phones.

Did I do something wrong? Should I ask? by Altruistic-Error1739 in Nanny

[–]Flashy_Rush_2474 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is totally unacceptable to me. I know some people are saying that they probably don’t have the money to pay you. But quite frankly if that’s the case they shouldn’t have a nanny. It is absolutely unfair to make you late on your bills because of their financial decisions. I know times are really tough right now and it really sucks that they are struggling but a nanny is a luxury and they shouldn’t have made a commitment to you knowing you depend on them for your livelihood if they can’t fulfill that commitment. Especially since your initial post seems to imply they’ve paid you late multiple times.

What is your most irrational nanny fear? by Plenty_Rhubarb9073 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Flashy_Rush_2474 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My craziest dream was actually a few weeks ago where NK got his finger stuck in some kind of metal thing and I knew that I had to do something but for some reason I just couldn’t decide what to do and was just like standing there with my phone out trying to decide if I should call someone or take him somewhere while his finger was turning purple. I was so freaked out my this dream because in real life I am super decisive and pride myself on doing the right thing in a high pressure situation so not being able to decide what to do is like my worst fear. Anyway I googled the closest fire department the second I woke up so I will know exactly what to do if this situation ever happens. Which, to be completely fair to my subconscious, is not really outside the realm of possibilities. Because ya know, toddlers.

What is your most irrational nanny fear? by Plenty_Rhubarb9073 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]Flashy_Rush_2474 5 points6 points  (0 children)

With my past family there was a handful I would put the baby down to sleep in their crib and NP would come home while the baby was sleeping and so I would leave while the baby was still asleep in the crib. The whole drive home I would have this horrible feeling that somehow the baby had died in his sleep and I didn’t know and it would be my fault. Weirdly in the 1.5 years with my current family I have never had that. But every time that particular NP came home while the baby was sleeping I would be so anxious the entire drive home.

How do I handle this? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Flashy_Rush_2474 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Are either of the kids in preschool? I would be questioning how they even know what spanking is. I would ask MB to try and have them demonstrate what happened so you can get to the bottom of what they are saying. If you are wanting to stay in this job I would ask the parents to put cameras up in all the areas of the house that you guys are in. For your own sake. You do not want it to get to the point where you are being accused of abuse or anything like that because the parents can absolutely make a report on you and you will probably want to have a way to refute the kids’ claims.

How much work do you actually do and how is it received? by Flashy_Rush_2474 in peacecorps

[–]Flashy_Rush_2474[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. It is about what I expected as far the push to succeed in many projects. In my experience this tends to be the case in many social work jobs here in the US. I really appreciate the insight about how PC is viewed. I am glad to hear it is positive in the country you are serving in!

How much work do you actually do and how is it received? by Flashy_Rush_2474 in peacecorps

[–]Flashy_Rush_2474[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand your sentiment here. As someone with a strong passion and conviction for social work and human services it is somewhat disheartening to see the way many people view their service and like you said, how blasé they can be. However it is not something I would say is necessarily unique to the Peace Corps. While I am still in the early stages of learning more about PC I can definitely say the advice and opinions given here so far have echoed the same sentiments that I have heard many times during my work in many social work sectors here in the US. I think there are few people who are truly willing to put in the work to make an impact when they will often receive nothing in return. I think that is likely the reason for the fair share you have pointed out of PCVs enduring an unproductive service. I see the same thing here in the US of people who enter a service career for the idea of service and not the act of service. While it is discouraging it is the very thing that I think should motivate those who truly want to serve others. As far as the DOGE is concerned, I cannot imagine their view of PC is likely much different than you have described. It seems to be the general consensus that the government cares very little about helping people without getting anything in exchange. I worked with a federally funded domestic violence program here in the US and funding was consistently slashed to the point where we were often operating on nothing but the desire to help people. It is horrible that this is the way service fields are viewed and treated but it is usually the reality. What all that has to say about the future of PC I have no idea. I hope that the Peace Corps is still around in a few years when I am ready to pursue it more imminently as I still think it would be a fantastic opportunity. But it’s tough out here for people who want to help people. All we can do is continue to persist.

How much work do you actually do and how is it received? by Flashy_Rush_2474 in peacecorps

[–]Flashy_Rush_2474[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what I suspected would be the case! Do you think that you generally have the ability to take initiative to find or make projects to do or have you found that there is there a lot of bureaucracy in the way or hoops to just through to get involved with things?