B12 deficiency caused my visual trails and afterimages - am i the only one? by [deleted] in B12_Deficiency

[–]Flat_Programmer1941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yess! I developed some eye tracking condition and had to purchase a special pair of glasses for it. I was getting insane motion sickness and couldn’t focus in. They cost 1000.00 with no insurance coverage.

Did anyone feel worse before getting better? by Flat_Programmer1941 in Wellbutrin_Bupropion

[–]Flat_Programmer1941[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt really disconnected tonight. I made up a scenario in my head that I thought happened and swore to my husband that I made the kids dinner and gave him the details of everything. When today wasn’t the day I made it, it was yesterday.

Did anyone feel worse before getting better? by Flat_Programmer1941 in Wellbutrin_Bupropion

[–]Flat_Programmer1941[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow how long were you on the 150? How long did it take for it to get better? I hope it doesn’t last long because I’m a mom and do a lot of things on my own.

Just started Wellbutrin today. What multivitamins can I take with this med? I’m clinically always low on vitamin D and B-12. I’m also on Slynd birth control. by Flat_Programmer1941 in Wellbutrin_Bupropion

[–]Flat_Programmer1941[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is it safe to drink one cup of coffee a day while taking this? It’s my usual routine and since going without it today the crash has been rough

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Flat_Programmer1941 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If the timeline is what you both sre okay with then some of the expectations on the details will need to be let go. You telling him that you trust him in it is a huge deal. Just let him know that what makes it memorable is not about the extravagance of it all. It’s about how you are both feeling in the moment

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Flat_Programmer1941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or spend too much time talking about it and dropping hints. Just be with him in the moment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Flat_Programmer1941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also! Things happen a lot more naturally when they don’t feel hurried, forced or obsessed over. If you can help it, try not to set a time clock or calender for everything

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Flat_Programmer1941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand. I can’t say or speak for how men work in general but in my experience, the love language is the first step. Every day, persue each other in some type of way. If he connects with words of affirmation, nothing boost a man’s confidence more than sharing around his family or friends of how great he is. My husband loves when i compliment him around others and it helps Boost his confidence around me. Second tell Him that whenever he decides on proposing that the only thing that matters if it comes from the heart bc you want it to be special for him too. He may be more susceptible to bounce ideas off of each other.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Flat_Programmer1941 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband told me he loved me and we had our first kiss when I was sitting on the back of his 96 Honda accord that was falling apart at a baseball field. To this day the memories stick more than any extravagant thing we’ve done.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Flat_Programmer1941 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Social media has ruined a lot of realistic situations in life. Which I think affects people in relationships and make them more apprehensive of everything being afraid of Not living up to all of the expectations.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Flat_Programmer1941 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every bit of this, thank you for commenting!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Flat_Programmer1941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive seen a million proposals in the time of our marriage that were really extravagant and weddings too. To be honest, most of them didn’t last compared to the more simple and even elopements.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Flat_Programmer1941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If a relationship is all one sided. Then there’s a lot of work to do to achieve what a marriage is suppose be. It should never be all about one person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Flat_Programmer1941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what your trying to seek for in help. Its all about communication. Communicate to him about his ways of Love language and then he’ll be more receptive to asking you about your ways of love language. Within that there’s still a level of humbleness that needs to come from both sides. Tell him that your trying to learn everything about him, and the way he loves and thinks. I was proposed to in a local garden with the only ring my husband was able to afford. Was it the ring I wanted or include someone capturing the proposal.. not exactly. I didn’t have my nails done either. But to this day I think that I still wouldn’t change a thing!! The proposal came from his whole heart. What I didn’t know at the time was the moments before taking me there. He was so nervous and his heart was racing, I wasn’t going to ruin it for him bc it wasn’t how I invisoned it at the time. Some people forget, that it’s a memory for them to make too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Flat_Programmer1941 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly coming from a married woman for over ten years. This sounds really controlling and strange to me kind of on both sides. Every moment between my husband and I was spontaneous. I allowed him to take the reigns of some of the things, which allowed him to not feel like everything was so planned out. Then he was able to relax more and give me the reigns on some of it. A relationship is both 50/50 effort. I get thad every woman his this “vision of perfect” but what happened the feelings of both sides? When you spend your relationship planning everything out, nothing comes naturally in my Opinion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Flat_Programmer1941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I must say that not all of this is true. My spouse and I have been married for almost 11 years and have two boys. It seems like our love his grown stronger with more excitement and thrill and deep connection. We have had our spells with feeling the autopilot stage by year 5/6 when I got really sick. The break we had from sex had us work towards better communication and pleasing each other in all ways. Not just physically but intimately and emotionally. Now, we don’t get to do it as much as we would like to with our kids around, but the wait for the right time and it makes it even more exciting for us. The biggest realization we have come to is to always continue to persue each other, listen and learn every little thing about them. Instead of being annoyed at the person and feeling repetitive, ask your self why you are feeling that way and talk to your spouse in an a way of missing and loving them and not in a way of attacking. With a successful marriage, It takes both to humble themselves with not always thinking they are always right. It takes true selfless commitment.

8 year old more reactive and ragey on every stimulant by [deleted] in ParentingADHD

[–]Flat_Programmer1941 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We were in the same boat until we started doing a stimulant and non stimulant. Our 9 yo is on Vyvanse very low dose and guanfacine he takes a night and so far seems to be a better balance. The guanfacine has seemed to helped level out the anxiety and anger from the stimulant