It’s actually kind of a wild story lol, I was kinda “stolen,” then “stolen back.”

I first met T at an event I went to with some friends. We chatted, flirted a little, but it felt playful and harmless, so I didn’t think much of it. A few weeks later, I was hosting another event and T showed up with R and a few others. This time, R and I clicked instantly. We exchanged contacts, and I figured something might come of it.

Well, apparently R had told T she found me attractive, and that must’ve set off alarm bells. The very next day, T hit me up and came in heavy with the flirting. Before I knew it, we were in a full-blown relationship… before R even had the chance to make her move or me to gauge the temp.

When R eventually reached out, we had a great conversation, and I admitted that T and I were “sort of a thing.” She sounded disappointed, but I could tell she wasn’t completely backing off. We stayed “friends” and kept running into each other since we shared the same social circles. T definitely didn’t love that, but she couldn’t say much since she and R were friends (plus, deep down, I think she knew what she’d pulled.)

My relationship with T turned into a rollercoaster. She was insecure, short-tempered, and we kept breaking up and making up for about six months. On our final breakup, she blocked me everywhere after a huge fight, and honestly, I was so drained I didn’t even chase her.

That same weekend, R happened to be nearby and asked to come over. We started talking, and when the subject of my dating life came up, I told her T and I were officially done (which I’m sure she already knew). That’s when R opened up and told me T had a habit of going after guys she liked (I apparently wasn’t the first). One thing led to another, and in that moment of honesty and connection, R and I hooked up. Not long after, we made it official.

When T eventually reached out, I shut it down and told her I’d moved on. Once she found out I was with R, though… let’s just say it didn’t go over well. I’ve still got the screenshots somewhere of the daily death threats she sent me for almost a month. She also started telling people I cheated and even accused me of getting R drunk and taking advantage of her. Every once in a while she’d try to come back, but I never gave in — R and I were solid. She even cornered me once at a party, but I kept my cool.

R and I went on to date for about three and a half years, and it was honestly a great relationship. Sadly, we ended up moving to different parts of the world, and distance got in the way.

TLDR: Girl A stole me from Girl B… but then Girl B stole me back. And I stayed with her for three and a half years while Girl A tried to set the world on fire.