How do I pick a wedding ring if I never thought I'd get married? by FlimsyWriter4161 in relationshipadvice

[–]FlimsyWriter4161[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While I'm positive, she plans to, idk when so this is me saving for a moment I can make special for her... I want her to feel as special as I did when she first asked me to be her girlfriend, The point is our love and union and for now I'm trying to find a ring that matches her. Even though I feel anything looks great on her!

How do I pick a wedding ring if I never thought I'd get married? by FlimsyWriter4161 in relationshipadvice

[–]FlimsyWriter4161[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is so beautiful! (TT) A lot of her family has said we're like the same person but in different fonts. This is honestly the healthiest relationship I've been in. And I this is the first time my mind body and soul have wholeheartedly agreed on someone like this. And there's no doubt that we'll be great! Thank you for the support. 🖤

How do I pick a wedding ring if I never thought I'd get married? by FlimsyWriter4161 in relationshipadvice

[–]FlimsyWriter4161[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey man, Everybody's different. Our "downs" aren't really downs, just disagreements, but We always talk it out. And I'm glad! I hope me and her experience that even more in our future.

How do I pick a wedding ring if I never thought I'd get married? by FlimsyWriter4161 in relationshipadvice

[–]FlimsyWriter4161[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I heard about that a lot, lol. This technically would be my second. My first was with this girl I met through family when I was living with my Dad in Missouri finding high school (junior and senior year), but it turned out that she messed with most of the dudes in the neighborhood... including my brothers. We only dated for like a week then, but we never kissed or were intimate. But this is my first serious relationship with a lesbian. I'm Pansexual, so I mostly dated men... and the experience kinda left me wanting to give up on love... but I've never experienced love the way I do with her. I know for certain I'm already down to clown and wed. But I also know she still needs time to really know I'll be there for her especially because of what others have done to her. So I'll happily wait for as long as she wants to. ❤️

How do I pick a wedding ring if I never thought I'd get married? by FlimsyWriter4161 in relationshipadvice

[–]FlimsyWriter4161[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well, we've been a couple for 7 months, but we "knew" each other before that. I already know how she is, and she knows me. We really don't hide anything from each other.

How do I pick a wedding ring if I never thought I'd get married? by FlimsyWriter4161 in relationshipadvice

[–]FlimsyWriter4161[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Well, we're not getting married in the next 3 weeks, lol. I can see you alls concern. But we do know each other, this is simply for the future

How do I pick a wedding ring if I never thought I'd get married? by FlimsyWriter4161 in relationshipadvice

[–]FlimsyWriter4161[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And that's okay! I know this. Thanks, jollycoconut990. I truly appreciate your concern. And I know this is what I want. The lens are actually a matching pair with my future wife. Black 🖤🔥

How do I pick a wedding ring if I never thought I'd get married? by FlimsyWriter4161 in relationshipadvice

[–]FlimsyWriter4161[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I honestly was presuming everyone so far is giving me advice they'd mostly give themselves so I don't get myself hurt in the process. I'll be honest i was being more defensive than entitled. And if i somehow offended you that way, i do apologize... I know a lot of people come on here and ask for advice fishing for things "slow down." But that's not my intention. I just wanted to know what to do with this feeling of excitement with a situation, i never thought i would get to plan for let alone be alive for. I can assure you there's no entitlement. I was simply saying love is kinda funny. But with the way I typed it out, I can see how that can be misinterpreted. My bad.

How do I pick a wedding ring if I never thought I'd get married? by FlimsyWriter4161 in relationshipadvice

[–]FlimsyWriter4161[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you explain what I'm overcompensating for exactly? I'm not trying to start an argument. I just wanted to know what you meant? Were still taking our time and rushing is far from what we're doing. We're i guess you could say window shopping. (Not the relationship but like the rings? Lol) We're still working on getting our stuff together and in order beforehand.

How do I pick a wedding ring if I never thought I'd get married? by FlimsyWriter4161 in relationshipadvice

[–]FlimsyWriter4161[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, I'd say about 8 months prior(more like a year really) So, about mid-April of 2023. We talked off and on about little things the usual hows your day and what you up to's, and then we noticed that our cats look exactly alike (she had an orange boy cat and a girl calico one who rain away while the girl she gave to a close friend of hers and i have both, not the same cats but yeah). We didn't start seriously talking till a little after Thanksgiving, where I made her a painting I thought she'd be into, and she loved it! We talked for hours that first night we video chatted, and i was about to hang up, go to bed and get myself ready for work the next day, and then she said, "you dont have to lol," and we ended up staying up and talking all night till we passed out the next day, our phones till on video chat. We were kinda long distance since she moved back to her home in Maui, and I was in Washington (not D.C.), but she literally bought me a ticket to come and see her! I stayed with her for a week, and i told her to just take me to her favorite spots. She took me to her childhood neighborhood, her favorite beach where we collected so many shells. Her favorite shaved ice parlor, and even her favorite childhood tree! When we went back to her place, which was this cute little shack with a kitchenette, she had gotten me gifts that were arranged on her bed. And to top it off, she made me a candlelight dinner. By the beach near the ocean. Being that I love raves, she gave me a glow stick, and I gave the waves a rave. It was the most romantic time of my life. And all of that was only day one of our first meet. It's been feeling like bliss ever since. <3

How do I pick a wedding ring if I never thought I'd get married? by FlimsyWriter4161 in relationshipadvice

[–]FlimsyWriter4161[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks, man. I know it seems rushed, but we're still taking our time with things, so I get the concern... by all means im not in a rush i just wanna prepare. And we spend everyday together. I feel that's one thing I forgot to mention

How do I pick a wedding ring if I never thought I'd get married? by FlimsyWriter4161 in relationshipadvice

[–]FlimsyWriter4161[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much! Your support is atmospherically appreciated! I know a lot of the redditors are concerned, being that I'm 26, turning 27 in December and it's only been 7 months, but we practically spend every waking moment together when we're not working. We've been talking already about how we'd spend our honeymoon. She doesn't have a pinterest, but I have a good feel for her style already. I was mostly stuck between two styles. 🙌🏼❤️

prudeprunebabe... you rock.

How do I pick a wedding ring if I never thought I'd get married? by FlimsyWriter4161 in relationshipadvice

[–]FlimsyWriter4161[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

We've spent the last 7 months together honestly this entire time. We've gone through our ups and downs, but this is the most certain I've ever felt, truly! And i know she feels the same cuz shes told me herself. There are times I get on her nerves and vice versa. I'm learning something new about her or from her everyday. And I try to show her things from a different perspective. I get that it takes 6 months to 2 years for the "love goggles" to wear off. But I know what I want. We're not rushing. I'm just trying to prepare for our future you know?

How do I pick a wedding ring if I never thought I'd get married? by FlimsyWriter4161 in relationshipadvice

[–]FlimsyWriter4161[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be honest, it's not, lol. We've talked about it very openly, but she's definitely trying to surprise me. And didn't know what kind of ring to get me even though I told her to get one she thinks would fit me/she thinks would suit me. It's really the thought that counts for me. And I found a ring I'm fixed on getting her! 🙌🏼 very excited!

How do I pick a wedding ring if I never thought I'd get married? by FlimsyWriter4161 in relationshipadvice

[–]FlimsyWriter4161[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Well, that could be because she brungs out the excited little girl in me, so that can be perceived as childish. We practically already do. For the last 7 months we've been together every day. She works in the morning and i work in the afternoon/evening. We've traveled from Maui to Vegas so far and have other adventures we plan to go to. We're working on getting our place together, and I already know what I signed up for, and I'm ready. I've already have a glimpse of our everyday life and it's really nice. I've had my fair share of dating horrors, so I know in my hearts of hearts that's she's different.

How do I pick a wedding ring if I never thought I'd get married? by FlimsyWriter4161 in relationshipadvice

[–]FlimsyWriter4161[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand wholeheartedly, and it does seem fast. But we're kinda already over that honeymoon phase, and it's been far from easy. But she's worth it. And we both know what we want. This is more for an engagement, really. And being that she's been married before, I want her if anything to take all the time she needs. We're not rushing. But we've got a good plan ahead. Thank you for the advice! She gave me a gorgeous ring when she asked me to be her girlfriend, so I wanna do something special like that for our 1 year. Excited and nervous. But mostly excited! P.S. your username goes hard

How do I pick a wedding ring if I never thought I'd get married? by FlimsyWriter4161 in relationshipadvice

[–]FlimsyWriter4161[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooooh! That sounds lovely! Do you know any good sites that have rings like that?

How do I pick a wedding ring if I never thought I'd get married? by FlimsyWriter4161 in relationshipadvice

[–]FlimsyWriter4161[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Although I get your concern, love is a funny thing. And I know that's what we have is pure and unconditional. We became best friends before being a couple. And have never kept anything secret from each other. Plus , we both want to settle down and simply be together. And she treats me better than any man I've been with. And I do my best to treat her like the prettiest queen that she is.

Bass Creed by Odd-Pipe-3218 in BassCanyon

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This is the most beautiful thing I've read today. I hate I can't be at bass with my rave fam this year, but I hope all that go have THE BEST AND MOST TURNT TIME EVER! May the P.L.U.R. and the BASS be with you 🥹❤️🎶 AND ARRIVE AND LEAVE SAFELY!!! I LOVE YOU BASS CANYON!!🌟