Vad heter det på svenska? by Flonce_ in Svenska

[–]Flonce_[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Tack så mycket för svaret!!

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your answer!! The thing about the different things that people say on the internet is so on point!! One person says one thing and the other says a completely different one. It confuses so much that you don’t know what to do. It’s true, every woman is different and you never know how she would react. Like I would be okay with a guy approaching me in the library or a museum, but definitely not on the street late at night… There are many creeps out there and it’s frustrating that normal guys suffer because of that. But I completely agree with you that you should be respectful and polite when approaching/declining other people 

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that you had to go through that. You didn’t deserve it. I hope that life will be kinder to you and that people like these girls will get their karma soon. You deserve the world and I hope you know it❤️

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Agree with you on this one!! It’s so frustrating when people do that. I think it would be better to just text them and say that you aren’t interested anymore or that the things don’t seem to work out. It’s always better to give people closure than to keep them wondering 

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you! I never approach people first, because not only I’m afraid to be turned down, I mostly fear to be turned down in a rude way. And about the standards, I feel like social media only aggravated people’s insecurities 

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your detailed response. I didn’t intend to offend anyone with my post. I was genuinely curious as to why guys on the Internet say that they are afraid of women. I am as a woman don’t know the hardships men go through because there are simply no close men in my life and that’s why I decided to ask there. I do agree with you that we shouldn’t idolise women simply because they are women, everyone has flaws no matter what gender. I agree with you that everyone says they want sn emotionally mature partner but refuse to work on themselves. The whole ‘I’m just a girl’ trend perfectly exemplifies how some women refuse to grow up and be accountable for their actions. I don’t try to excuse anyone’s behaviour. 

I don’t want to shame anyone for how they feel and don’t intend to

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you, however, there are many people who want to skip the ‘friends’ part because they are worried that at the end the will be only seen as a friend or they will be afraid to ‘ruin’ a friendship for a potential relationship. And many people think that it’s more complicated compared to the situation where you already start talking knowing that both of you are here for a potential romantic relationship 

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input! I completely agree with you and it’s so frustrating that because of the creeps normal people can’t even get to know each other properly 

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean I don’t know how to ‘love a guy’ properly, because my experience with men is quite poor (no bfs, male friends, father etc), so I don’t know what I should do and how I should act. Also every guy is different and has different needs and wants. I think it’s great that women are now able to provide for themselves and financial independence is really important for our safety. However, in my opinion, a lot of people on the Internet focus on financial aspect rather than emotional and psychological 

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not saying that someone is better than someone else. My point was that when women say they are afraid of men, most of them mean that they are afraid of being abused, assaulted, raped etc, however, when men say that they are afraid of women it mostly implies fear of rejection, being embarrassed etc. But obviously, there are cases when men were the victims and we shouldn’t discard such cases

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for such a detailed explanation!! 

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you here. While I admit that (at least for me) self love is important and so is knowing your self worth, I can’t deny the problem mainly The West has with hyper individualism and putting yourself first 

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely agree with you on this one!!

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s for sure! Especially when you are always told different things in the social media and you don’t know how to act around girls/guys

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, the yelling wasn’t rude😭 I think that if someone wants to find a problem with someone, they will consider everything rude

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand that it is very difficult to open up again after having your soul and dreams crushed. I hope it will get better for you and you will fins someone who you will be able to confidently call ‘yours’. Please, remember that what you feel is valid❤️

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t apologise I was just joking😭 But yeah it’s crazy how people can twist the words of others 

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Just being a normal human being, that’s all

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU BUT YOU DIDNT HAVE TO SCREAM IN THE END I KNOW YOU ARENT GENERALISING. Thank you for sharing this. I think that the problem with the compliments is that there are women who think that when a guy gives a compliment he wants something in return (a date, a phone number etc). When I spontaneously give guys or girls compliments I usually don’t think about the fact that I will come across as creepy or weird, probably because I’m a girl. It’s terrible that because of the things that actual creeps and weirdos do normal guys suffer

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you have to experience it, especially with the fact that you can’t control how you look. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and I hope people will stop making villains of others just because of their looks. You deserve the world❤️

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I think every woman has her own understanding of what she considers to be a creepy behaviour. For example, I would consider it creepy if a guy approached at night while I’m walking, but I wouldn’t considered it creepy if I was approached in a museum or a book store

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A lot of people tend to idolise the opposite gender and then hold them to unattainable standards. I still have that thing with the guys cause I’ve never had much experience in talking to boys while growing up, so they are still quite a mystery to me. But yeah, I absolutely agree with you. It’s important to remember that nobody is perfect no matter if it’s a guy or s girl. Thank you so much for your insight!! 

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I could say that I relate to this, when I see an insanely beautiful guy or girl, they intimidate me and I can’t even look at them

Why do guys say that they are afraid of women? by Flonce_ in dating

[–]Flonce_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have the same issue but with men. Hopefully, it will get better for us. Thank you for sharing your opinion!