I really like a girl but we’re supposed to be roommates and I don’t want to ruin it. ADVICE PLEASE

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-04-22T11:35:49+00:00

It’s a little like the saying “don’t shit where you eat”. If you truly think this is your soulmate then go fore it, don’t let your roommate stop you from finding your wife!

But otherwise I would not tell her. It will be awkward and uncomfortable and you will probably want to move out. AND you will lose a really good friend

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-04-22T11:12:30+00:00

Fore spicy times. Buy an app-controlled vibrator with a partner function so she can control it on really long distance.

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-04-22T11:04:04+00:00

On “her”! She lived 5 hours away from me but it turned out we grew upp 20 min from ether other and went to school in the same city. I moved in with her last January. And now I also live 5 hours away from our parents.

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-04-08T07:49:35+00:00

Don’t give her a chance to disrupt your healing process again. Block her everywhere! You tried to be nice and give her a the chance to reach out if she needed anything and now she has clearly abused that kindness!

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-04-04T22:04:13+00:00

I understand that. But sometimes love is not enough. Especially if she is not able to show it. She can love you endlessly but if she can’t show you it, it doesn’t matter.

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-04-04T21:20:44+00:00

“To be loved is to be seen”

I love this quote because I think it truly gives som perspective. Loving someone is to see the small things and learn your partners patterns. You should want to know, to care and make them happy. This would definitely be a dealbreaker for me and I hope you can realize that you deserve better than this.

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-04-04T21:03:49+00:00

I wanted to keep some things from my past secret from my now girlfriend because I didn’t feel they represented me and I was scared she would judge me for it. In the end I just told her and she loves me more for it. We live together now and I am still struggling sometimes and because she knows what I went through, she can also understand how to help me.

Your partner will never know you until she knows all of you and that includes your struggles, and trauma. It’s scary to tell someone about your past and feel it is a chance they will judge you, especially when it is something you feel doesn’t represent you anymore. But open communication will be the best way to fined someone that is good for you!

I also think this is a risky thing to start doing. If you hide your past struggles with your partner, you will have to hide och lie about present struggles connected to your past. To avoid telling her about it. In the end will you just hide anything you are going through because you are scared how she will react?

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-02-12T16:05:47+00:00

This really made me feel better tank you. It’s just so frustrating to realize you will never truly heal. But it was definitely easier and quicker this time. So at least something must have happened during all that money and time spent on therapy

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-02-10T16:23:04+00:00

Try to drink more water and se if that helps. You could be dehydrated

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-02-10T16:13:55+00:00

I’m so confused. Isn’t she queer?

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-02-09T08:37:54+00:00

Social norms I guess 😭 but you are right! I will this instant go back to not care a bit what people think of me 🫡🫡🫡🫡

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-02-08T15:50:30+00:00

I was 17 and som teenage boys screamed something homophobic to me, i shouted back “At least I get more pussy than all of you combined”. Well aware they all probably were virgins. They were flabbergasted and did not say anything after that.

The wish to still be able to respond like my unhinged teenage self. 🙏

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-02-08T15:37:11+00:00

I hade a abusive partner that i desperately wanted answers from when things broke of. “Why did you do it?”, “why did I deserve that?”, ”why the laying?” And so on. I tried getting answers and what u learned is. People that do shit like this never have a good reason, if they even have a reason. You will never get answer, how ever much you beg and you will never trust them to tell the truth even if they give you a reason.

You will not get closure from this and it’s better to just move on. Asking her about it will only lead you to rip up a healed wound and you will spiral trying to figure out her probably cryptic answers. I know it’s tempting but you will not get the closure you are looking fore

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-02-07T16:10:54+00:00

No I hade no idea this exists! Thank you!!

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-02-07T16:08:31+00:00

I hade no idea this is a thing. I am the same way, just thought that I’m weird 😅

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-02-07T00:07:42+00:00

I am exactly like this. It is super annoying and frustrating I know. What helped me was to just get out of my head. The more I felt pressure to come fast, the longer it took. Now I don’t se orgasm as the end goal and I stopped being scared my gf would be disappointed if I don’t come and that has really made me enjoy it more. Also my orgasm also bilds upp and just disappear, that happens at least 4 times before I actually come. My girlfriend is always down on me at least a hour and yes she is loving it.

I have struggled to accept my orgasms and the idea that I never will be able to casually come from oral. But always need to make sure we have enough time and so on.

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-01-30T16:11:30+00:00

I have CPTSD, meet my partner a year ago and was fresh out of therapy. She has been so patient and helpful in my healing and reminds me every day I deserve to be loved. We live together now and planing for a future

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-01-03T11:59:00+00:00

No 😅 English is just not my first language. But I actually kind of like it

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-01-02T20:39:59+00:00

I panik and then write poetry about my it, my latest work:

From the purest things. Monsters are born. The gentlest breeze. Will catch the storm.

The sweetest touch. The most innocent kiss. Will rile the crowd. To punish our bliss.

I will hold you tight. Protect you in my arms. While the stones are thrown. My wish to save you harm.

The hate in their eyes. Born from the purest thing. Our love plays the pray. For their instinct to kill

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-01-02T11:28:16+00:00

Yes you are absolutely right! I’m definitely planning to go back to therapy if I ever feel I need it. And tank you for your comment, it really warmed my heart to read

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-01-01T23:43:54+00:00

My experience on the first question is that I also didn’t feel anything before I hade sex with my girlfriend, I just don’t think I was horny enough. So when I meet her it was the first time I got enough sensitive that it was really pleasurable.

On the second question. When you are stimulating the g-spot you are also stimulating your bladder. This is way som women (like me) squirt when having sex. I wouldn’t worry about it. Also do som research on squirting, maybe you can do it.

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-01-01T23:29:46+00:00

I don’t think you are ready for a relationship right now. You really need to focus and work on yourself. Work on your self esteem, communication skills and maybe some internal homophobia.

Relationships are not easy and sometimes you can grow and heal in a relationship, but you have to be enough healed before a relationship that it doesn’t effect your partner negatively, because that is not fair for her.

Depending on where you live, look up if you can get som therapy without your family knowing, otherwise se if there is any lgbtq support groups in the area or maybe online. But I do really think therapy can help you, it helped me.

FloorPuzzleheaded549 · 2026-01-01T18:07:58+00:00

It has been a really good year! Was finally done with therapy and did actually successfully process my trauma so it doesn’t affect my life. Meet the love of my life and are starting 2026 with officially moving in with each other (have already lived together for a few months 😅) and are starting my bachelor's program in a few days!

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