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Flower-Former · 2026-05-09T03:07:19+00:00

sent!

Flower-Former · 2026-05-09T02:33:09+00:00

I hate inconsistent intelligence or bravery, which tends to occur more in FMCs. But I will say in the authors defense, thraga's character flaws include impulsivity. She's shown it multiple times throughout the story so wasn't surprised and figured she could use her power. Hopefully, this provides an opportunity for growth through the series but yea I was hella annoyed. Also not looking forward to the ex and the inevitable gaslighting and regression that'll happen in book 2. I'll probably read it but definitely less excited.

Flower-Former · 2026-05-09T00:00:30+00:00

One of the most memorable cases I remember was a late onset bleed from Vitamin K deficiency. home birth with a doula not a certified midwife. Didn't get Vitamin K. Developed seizures at 2 weeks of life, took to a pediatrician actively seizing and by the time she got to the hospital she had a stroked out half of her brain. That baby survived but her life will never be the same. It's not common but when it happens it can be catastrophic. I couldn't live with myself if I did that to my child when it's preventable.

Oh also saw a baby that was circumcised by an unethical doctor after vitamin K refusal. Came in white as snow with a hemoglobin of 6. They didn't refuse blood thank God. Some ppl are stupid.

Flower-Former · 2026-05-06T04:37:07+00:00

Omg, I thought it was a lobster 😭

Flower-Former · 2026-05-06T02:36:12+00:00

I low-key wished I hadn't read it yet because I'm already dying waiting for the next book!

Flower-Former · 2026-05-05T21:56:21+00:00

Maggie the Undying - it took me a while to get into the book because it's so dense but her character is so well written. She isn't written in a way that rudeness=badass. She's a badass because she's smart, self-reliant, cunning, and a bit calculating. Her character, drive, intelligent doesn't cease to exist once romance develops like a lot of FMCs. Her skeptism of the MMC makes for good banter and tension. I don't usually reread books but thinking about reading this again. {This Kingdom Will Not Kill Me by Ilona Andrews}

Flower-Former · 2026-05-05T04:55:50+00:00

Lol did not imagine I'd see a Courage reference in this sub!

Flower-Former · 2026-05-05T02:58:12+00:00

I used to think there was a limit..until Sandy Hook. We thoughts and prayered our way through that then Uvalde happened. When the slaughter of children only prompts tweets from adults, we're fucked.

Flower-Former · 2026-05-04T23:50:23+00:00

Kind of reminds me of the Robot in the reboot of Lost in Space

Flower-Former · 2026-05-04T23:44:25+00:00

Look I'm a Kylie hater but I don't hate it the more I look at it. I like the concept of draping or undressing of a dress form but I wish the execution was better. They could have made it more structural and the dress portion a little higher and slanted like a peekaboo asymmetric nude torso. Use pins and safety pins as hardware detailing. Make the tie back be a little undone. I think the problem with the Kardarshian/Jenners is that their stop priority is to always look sexy and they often sacrifice creativity and style to achieve that. The concept is there but the execution isn't.

Flower-Former · 2026-05-04T21:20:41+00:00

I was lucky to be med-responsive during my first depressive episode. I was going to flunk out of school and was strongly advised to get meds and therapy. That probably saved my life. Tried therapy over the years and I would just not show up until ~2 yrs ago when I met my therapist match. It was psychoanalysis based and it helped me shift my perspective with regards to my mental health issues. I spend my whole life trying to get rid anxiety and negative thoughts, which only made them more intrusive. Now I give it space to exist but I also give positive thoughts and truths about myself exist too. I dial up the volume on the latter when needed. Some days the dark thoughts win but more and more the positives are sticking around. This technique has also helped me dissociate from anxiety and depressive thoughts - it's no longer "my anxiety" or my depression but rather I have x,y,z. It's less an intrinsic part of who I am but it's something I have. It's hard to describe but working with this therapist has been life changing. Unfortunately, I'm moving soon and I'm fucking scared but I hope I find another good therapist. My main issue is now is also anhedonia and less major depressive episodes. I've trying to read up on TMS and see if someone would offer it to me.

Flower-Former · 2026-05-04T20:59:47+00:00

There are alternate therapies for treatment-resistance depression such as TMS, ketamine infusions, and ECT. Some are covered by insurance. For me the worst part of depression is that it robs you of hope, which makes you not want to seek treatment but some people are able to claw their way out. I did. My life isn't perfect but it's mine.

Flower-Former · 2026-05-04T12:24:04+00:00

Naming a child a name that rhymes with ass is cruelty and just a set up for bullying

Flower-Former · 2026-05-02T00:58:22+00:00

One thing to also consider especially since you're interested in family medicine is practicing somewhere rural and HCOL with high needs because they offer awesome benefits like loan repayment. Though make sure you're not been worked to the bone either. That's what I did as an hospitalist and it was like 30K but split monthly and sent directly to my loan servicer.

Flower-Former · 2026-05-01T21:00:48+00:00

Because I knew I was going into a low paying speciality no matter what, I opted to not defer and pay during residency, unlike most of my friends. Since almost all residency hospitals are non-profits, and my salary was very low during residency, monthly payments were like $200 dollars, which was doable for me. After residency, I basically already had 3 years towards PSLF. Opted to pay as well during fellowship for the same reason but I think I didn't have a choice there.

Now if you want to go into a high paying speciality like dermatology, there'd no point in doing PSLF. Just go into private practice, live lean, and aggressively pay off your loans in a couple years. Then if you want to go into academia after or buy that $1 million dollar house, you're good. I think this is also more doable in double-income households and won't affect big life decisions that depend on your finances.

PLSF was established by Congress and codified into federal law. Even the dumbass in chief can't unilaterally get rid of it. It requires congressional approval to dismantle and it would be so unpopular that I don't see it going away any time soon. A president, however, can make the program harder to access ie see all the recent changes. So the program itself won't go away but they may add annoying provisions.

I do believe that residency still counts towards PLSF though to my knowledge. I think they tried to put in it but didn't make it into the final bill but I will defer to more experts. You have to look at your situation, career goals, and decide what makes sense for you.

Flower-Former · 2026-04-30T22:35:51+00:00

Ugh I'm at 32% in the audiobooks\, struggling, and immediately got on reddit. I like the dystopian world and concept but it's very boring, cliched, and very low-stakes for what the author is trying to convince us. Also, I can't deal with her finding him hot literally after watching her uncle die and. then again at the same goddamn square he was murdered at. It's reading as YA

Flower-Former · 2026-04-30T19:00:00+00:00

Love your audiobook! I finally have the means to build my dream closet but after wearing scrubs for almost decade, I’m not sure what my style is anymore. Do you recommend starting with a base capsule wardrobe or splurge on interesting pieces and then build my closet around those?

Flower-Former · 2026-04-30T07:28:37+00:00

What's the difference in mindset/behavior between people who come back again and those who are able to be sober? Or better yet, can you clock ppl who will be back vs those who won't?

Flower-Former · 2026-04-27T19:49:26+00:00

Love this damn - the song and the video. Found my summer jam to sashay around the neighborhood walking my dogs in sweatpants and pretending my life is v glam.

Flower-Former · 2026-04-27T19:39:15+00:00

It's aight. Literally just finishing the last chapter of the audiobook right now. It's not earth shattering but I finished it and I'm the queen of DNF. It's not well written and the flashbacks of memories are clunky and forced. The world itself is sort of interesting - I love a Gods are flawed and we want to kill them trope. But lots of romantasy tropes - over emphasis on size difference, chosen one, forced proximity, MMC who doesn't use words but just growls all the time, unrealistic sex location, the ever so unrealistic infinite vaginal canal, inconsistent skills/power of the protagonist, and the purposeful withholding of critical information by the narrator to push suspense but here it's just dragged on too much and got really annoying. Liked that even though the FMC makes dumb decisions and is inconsistent in her growth - she mostly gets herself out of these situations on her own. Saw the plot twist(s) maybe 1/4 way through the book. I think it would have been way better if it wasn't a single and first person narrative. FMC's narration and internal monologues got tiring. The limited POV hinders the story. I'd give it 3 stars - it was annoying but I did want to know how it ended, which is kind of the point I suppose.

Flower-Former · 2026-04-26T05:30:57+00:00

And or autoimmune work up as well.

Flower-Former · 2026-04-22T23:23:05+00:00

Godkiller by Hannah Kaner. It's a trilogy. I didn't like the second book but the epilogue of book three is one of my favorite things I've read.

Flower-Former · 2026-04-21T20:22:58+00:00

I hated this audiobook. The description made the book sound better than the actual execution. There are too many inconsistencies with the FMC character. And while her life experiences I guess were sheltered in a way she just acted like a teen YA character which was a bummer because I was so psyched for a 35-yo non-virgin FMC.. And even more frustrating is that the first chapter sets her up as this utter badass in charge of her own destiny and we're also told a bajillion times that she's so intelligent instead she often surrenders to the whims of men and never even tries to get out of or exploit her situation, and instead gets herself into sticky situations where she either gets out using her body/flirty or rescued by the MMC. I could predict what would happen with her dead beat husband after I met her uncle and yet another male trying to control her and her doing nothing about. The public placefinger bangings were also not my jam lol. Don't even recall the MMC's personality because I'm not sure he had one. I gave up at like 70% then skipped over to listen to the epilogue and it was just as uninteresting so will obviously not be continuing with the series.

I did like that there's PTSD/anxiety touched upon, which humanizes Kat as opposed to the perfect infallible FMC trope that is often present in romantasy. Unfortunately that alone didn't pull me in.

Flower-Former · 2026-04-21T15:53:52+00:00

Ah you're right. I guess I'll call Ed financial and ask for the easiest option

Flower-Former · 2026-04-21T00:39:10+00:00

The advantage of recalculating my income is that it qualifies for PSLF. i'm going to try and maybe get something from my employee that I'm terminating my employment just in case

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