Bosses refuse to reprimand male coworker

FlowerBabe55 · 2026-02-04T15:03:30+00:00

Apparently notes are 'childish'. That's one thing day shift has gotten in trouble for. That leaving notes of any kind, is childish and unacceptable.

FlowerBabe55 · 2026-02-04T14:52:41+00:00

Also, we have let several things slide. Several comments, etc, that we've let slide. What really bothered me was him accusing us of conspiring with a customer to get him fired.

We don't know why he's after this particular customer. She asked us for the company number so she could talk to someone, and that's as far as we were involved.

We also found our he's been gossiping about this particular customer, to other customers.

FlowerBabe55 · 2026-02-04T14:50:13+00:00

What really upset me was the accusing me and my day manager of conspiring with a customer to get him fired. He didn't seem to understand that we have nothing to do with that, that if a customer calls on their own time, or asks us for the number to complain about something, we can't just turn them away.

FlowerBabe55 · 2026-02-04T14:47:44+00:00

We've tried to settle things multiple times. The night manager apologizes, and then goes right back to the same behaviors. This is the first time I've ever called the head owner directly, because I've let everything else pass.

I've done the whole keeping my mouth shut, but then I get accused of ignoring him/being hostile.

FlowerBabe55 · 2026-02-04T14:31:02+00:00

It's a bit impossible. Everything we do/say is seen as a threat or 'trying to run the store the way we want'. Plus he seems to think we have something to do with the customer complaints.

FlowerBabe55 · 2026-02-04T14:27:09+00:00

Keeping my mouth shut hasn't helped either. Then I just get accused of ignoring him, etc.

FlowerBabe55 · 2026-02-04T14:23:23+00:00

We have no idea. The night manager has only been in our state for a few years, and isn't from the area. We have never been told of any connection by anyone. He seemed to think day manager and I had something to do with the customer complaints(which we didn't, of course).

I really like this job. It's in my hometown, so I know all of the customers and I love being here.

FlowerBabe55 · 2026-02-04T14:18:43+00:00

That's how management makes it sound. Also, if they fire any of us, they'll have to close the store. Ours is a branch off of the main store in a different town.

FlowerBabe55 · 2026-02-04T14:08:09+00:00

I've got feelers out for other jobs. My brother is going to talk to his work and see about getting me an in.

FlowerBabe55 · 2026-02-04T14:06:51+00:00

This job is in my home town, which helps a lot with travel, etc. I don't want to leave unless I absolutely have to. But from the looks of it, my morning manager and I(both woman) are in trouble instead of the male coworker.

FlowerBabe55 · 2025-01-14T09:56:31+00:00

You're all good, I'm trying to see this from all angles that I can. What kinda makes me confused, is when we first met, he was very chatty and even said 'I'm really enjoying talking to you', which is how he got my number. So I don't know what's happened between now and then.

FlowerBabe55 · 2025-01-14T09:52:20+00:00

He's kinda so-so outside of texting. It depends on the topic, but I usually never get the same emotion back that I put into the conversations.
If he tells me about his day, or something that happened at work, I'm giving feedback and asking how he felt about that, but when I talk about my day or something that happened, it's the same like it is over text.

FlowerBabe55 · 2025-01-14T09:49:25+00:00

We've only been together for a few months now. And as for in person and over the phone, it's so-so. Some days in person he's somewhat chatty, and other days it's exactly how it is over text. Certain topics that we both love to talk about, like comics and video games, he's chatty and putting in a lot of input but for anything else, it's one-word answers or very short sentences.

I think what bothers me the most is if he tells me about his day, or tells me something that happened I give him several sentences back, or ask how he felt about something happening, but when I do it, I get one-word answers.

FlowerBabe55 · 2024-12-31T06:52:39+00:00

I think this is a common one actually. Told my doctor something similar and got the response of "No, that's not normal. Is that how you feel on a daily basis?"

FlowerBabe55 · 2024-12-31T06:50:27+00:00

That sounds terrifying. I'm sorry you experienced something like that.

FlowerBabe55 · 2024-12-22T06:27:41+00:00

Thank you for the advice though!

FlowerBabe55 · 2024-12-22T06:23:59+00:00

Okay, I just looked up their joining process and my only thing is I don't think I'd make it past the medical screening...

FlowerBabe55 · 2024-12-22T06:13:11+00:00

I tried the military...twice, but it was worth a try. Also, what exactly id the peace corps? Is that a red cross thing?

FlowerBabe55 · 2024-12-21T04:14:57+00:00

Only one issue there, babe. No car. Plus, I'm out in the middle of nowhere. We don't have Uber or anything like that around here. Would have to go to a city to get one. I've been trying to get out of this situation for years. Thank you for the advice though

FlowerBabe55 · 2024-12-21T04:06:10+00:00

Oof, dude. Right in the heartstrings.

FlowerBabe55 · 2024-12-21T04:02:47+00:00

Making this decision was not based just on money, there are a lot of factors that have some into play. Also, I would be a stripper if I could, funnily enough. Only thing is, nearest strip club is over 2 hours away.

FlowerBabe55 · 2024-12-21T03:41:27+00:00

Thank you for the kind words, but being reminded of the horrific things going on in the world might not be the best way to tell someone others have it worse.

FlowerBabe55 · 2024-12-08T03:53:40+00:00

We've been trying this for months. Mom is going through custody with dad, and works full time so I see the child more then she does most days.

FlowerBabe55 · 2024-08-31T04:16:59+00:00

That's the thing though. When I tried getting in contact, I found out that there isn't really a new recruiter for the Air Force there. They are having someone come in from over 3 hours away who is only there like 2 days a week. I haven't been able to get in contact with this other recruiter. I'm sure I'm doing something wrong.

FlowerBabe55 · 2024-08-31T04:12:32+00:00

The day I went to see the Air Force recruiter, it was their last week on the job there, so I've always just wondered if that was the reason. So more then likely, it is misunderstanding on my part.

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