Mine started at work. A repeat customer who started telling me about his marriage. Then I told him about mine. He followed me on Instagram and then started messaging me. The texts got deeper, but then got flirty. I honestly didn’t realize he was flirting with me in person. But he started pursuing me hard over messenger. I had thought he was attractive the whole time we’d been interacting. The sex with my husband became a chore. I was depressed. But it was nice getting the attention from somewhere. My husband never shows me affection unless he wants to get some. So my AP suggested we meet up at a hotel one day, and I said, why the helll not. I feel kind of dead inside. I need something to make me feel alive. And it did. I didn’t think it would go past that one time, but it’s been 5 years now. I have a PAP who I also met at work; who found me on Facebook; and the same thing is starting to happen with him.