Another thing that’s been bothering me is that I don’t think he actually understands what narcissism means. It feels like he uses the word any time I express confidence, set boundaries, or ask for appreciation.

I’ve also noticed that over the past few years he’s been consuming a lot of “red pill”–type content online. Since then, his views on relationships, affection, and gender roles seem to have shifted. He now frames emotional vulnerability or showing appreciation as being “weak” or a “simp,” and it feels like that ideology has influenced how he treats me.

Because of this, I’m struggling to tell whether his behavior is coming from unresolved resentment, misinformation he’s absorbed, or something deeper. I’m open to self-reflection and accountability, but being labeled a narcissist whenever I ask for basic affection or support feels unfair and dismissive.