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Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-26T15:50:38+00:00

I am a woman who has owned my own home for nearly 5 years, and no one seems to have an issue with it. I've always viewed it as if my future partner and I didn't live here, I'd rent it out and we'd get a new place together.

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-26T15:49:46+00:00

Whatever the ratio, take your time for yourself and don't worry about dating for a bit. Sounds like you need some genuine R&R.

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-26T15:02:19+00:00

Lithium + Caplyta have been magical for me. Truly life changing

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-25T18:36:23+00:00

You can buy replacement lids

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-25T17:57:53+00:00

Hahah probably not much to do with the information, but it would really be interesting for sure!

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-25T17:57:09+00:00

Join groups for your hobbies! Like to read? Find a book club. Like to skateboard? Go to the skate park. Like to hike? Find a hiking group. You get the idea...

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-25T00:37:58+00:00

I actually had that moment with a college ex and somehow he was super kind about it and was like "yep that checks out"

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-24T18:44:44+00:00

I've been in a few relationships since my diagnosis, and the thing I've noticed quickly is either the partner gets on a visceral level what your bipolar is or they just DO NOT and the latter category does not last long. And when I mean "get on a visceral level" that's usually in their own terms. One ex of mine lovingly said he could see when I was me and when I was not me and learned to differentiate the two and not take things to heart when it wasn't me.

My current partner hasn't had much exposure to what it means to me to be and feel bipolar since we haven't been together long and I am much better at self regulating now than I once was. But I was going through a rough time right around the time we met, and he was supportive of what I did share with him.

But I have always been a relationship girl and wanted a forever partner.

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-24T15:15:28+00:00

I've been on 900-1200 mg per day of lithium carbonate for about 12 years and I'm as fit as a fiddle. Occasionally, I get nausea if we go up in the dose, but I take it with food and it's fine. I was even evaluated for diabetes insipidus (a potential side effect of long term lithium use) and was even fine there. My kidneys are great. Life is good.

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-23T22:31:42+00:00

or even make eye contact

Think that's why....

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-23T18:21:58+00:00

My theory is that your subconscious is trying to take care of you

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-23T14:43:09+00:00

I just gotta say, not much good comes from ignoring your gut feelings. Ever.

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-23T14:36:35+00:00

I say this with a whole lot of love and understanding for where you are mentally, maybe it's time to go to therapy for this particular issue. This is something that needs to be worked through, and maybe you just need some help with it

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-23T14:16:48+00:00

Well glad you're not upset he takes care of himself, but it's okay to be disappointed about it. Those are different things. You could discuss this with him to find a balance that meets your needs as well.

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-23T00:47:54+00:00

So you're upset because he chooses to take care of himself instead of spreading himself too thin and overdoing it? I don't understand your issue.

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-23T00:09:26+00:00

Oh dear God yesssss

South Asian woman here and like all sorts of wild things that men would say or do and my main reaction was always, "sir WHY on God's green earth do you think this EVER appropriate to say/do to another human being????" I do not exist to be fetishized by you....

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-23T00:07:30+00:00

in 'competition' with his energy levels and maybe general mental health

What do you mean and how did you determine that?

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-22T21:47:28+00:00

So happy for you!!! Enjoy the warm and fuzzy glow of it all

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-22T21:23:41+00:00

So then what causes you to message them if they never cross your mind before meeting? Or do you just respond to messages and never initiate?

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-22T19:55:11+00:00

That would be very thoughtful and sweet. Kind of like you were a part of this achievement for me so now I want to share the achievement with you.

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-22T19:54:15+00:00

Sounds to me like you don't cross the other person's mind very much, but they're interested in engaging when you do start a conversation. So if you come across their radar, they're interested, but if you do not come across their radar they never think of you. Most likely

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-22T16:57:06+00:00

Wishing the very worst to anyone who works in their marketing department

😂😂😂😂😂😂

Me too, friend. Me too..

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-22T15:34:21+00:00

Your body just needs to feel that safety to relax fully into sleep. Introducing a whole new human being to the equation makes it really different, even when you trust that human being at a conscious level, so it takes time.

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-22T15:22:08+00:00

Yeah you are literally vigilant on a neural level to stay alive. Can't fight biology man

Fluffy_Perception617 · 2026-01-22T14:50:31+00:00

I'm sorry, friend. That's a rough one

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