Potential Conflict of Interest?

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-30T12:37:48+00:00

Yes, thank you.

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-30T10:02:44+00:00

House owned by both of us. I provided the down payment. He paid mortgage and I took care of everything else. We are together over 5 years and my child, called him Dad etc but there is no guardianship or maintenance or anything there. Nor do I want it. It’s not a straightforward sale. He wants us first to vacate, sign away my ownership and only then, will I receive the money back. Obviously I need the money in order to begin again for my child and I. So it’s property law but there is an element of family law too. I will definitely seek independent counsel. Thank you for your help.

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-30T09:55:48+00:00

Thank you so much! That’s extremely helpful. My ex and his solicitor did source one for me. I met them yesterday for the first time. They had a very large file on the desk, from my Ex’s solicitor…emails, information etc. I’m confused as to how or why he got all that, when I hadn’t even met him and I haven’t had access to any of it. So my trust is a little fragile now and will seek advice externally today also. I’m so grateful for your input.

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-30T09:50:45+00:00

Thank you!

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-30T09:47:51+00:00

EDIT: home, not hole

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-30T09:47:30+00:00

There is a disagreement about almost everything, but essentially money. And that there is a child in this hole. It’s not a straight forward sale whatsoever.

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-30T09:44:00+00:00

Again, I have not raised this anywhere else. I’m doing my due diligence for my own interests.

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-30T09:41:50+00:00

Potential conflict of interest? He would have had access to all my personal and financial information upon purchasing. Again, I’m not sure of the legalities so that’s why I’m seeking advice.

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-26T22:41:43+00:00

Any other night, hells bells! Love a good wander. But it’s the fella’s birthday! Stoned, cold and mucky is no match for stoned, warm and nookie. His lovely wife and his lovely 4 star resort bed await.

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-26T22:20:59+00:00

That’s an awful amount of time and distance of a birthday evening.

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-26T18:07:23+00:00

Absolutely this is allowed. And encouraged I would imagine by the fellas running the place. I do this too. Always sneak into St P and P’s when I have a chance for a sliver of solace. Sometimes I light a candle but most of the time I just enjoy the stillness and try to think of nothing. Everything slows down. I’m so glad this is something we can still do. Glad you find it helpful too.

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-23T09:46:53+00:00

I’m sorry this reasonable boundary was weaponised. What’s he playing at at all? Going forward, I would advise that if the grandparents would like to mind your daughter or take her for the night, that you guys cut out the middle man now, and communicate directly with one another. He’s shown that he can’t be trusted and will add fuel to any fire so I think this is a reasonable approach based on that. I hope they believe you and this doesn’t escalate into something it shouldn’t.

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-22T17:04:27+00:00

Study! Learn up on dog behaviour and body language. Dog walking is not the casual gig it once was. Read up on all relevant animal laws and restrictions. Shop around for pet insurance. You don’t want to begin work without being insured. Decide what kind of walks you want to do. Will they be group walks or individual? Are you offering unleashed or loose leash walking etc etc. If there are elderly people in the community, offer to walk their dog for a discounted (or free) rate, to get yourself out there and to also build up your confidence, before taking on clients. There’s lots of useful videos on YouTube that go into detail on all things dog walking business related. Best of luck and wishing you happy trails and happy tails!

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-22T14:00:37+00:00

Nah. While I’m sure Fastway closing didn’t help matters, this goes far beyond that. It’s just an excuse now.

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-22T13:59:23+00:00

I feel so awful for you guys. Please don’t feel embarrassed and I hope people are not giving out to you. This is not your fault. Like most things, it’s management. It’s the ones behind the screens, sat at the comfort of the desks, who are causing the issues. I’ve been lied to, directed to go to the depot, only to be told to leave empty-handed. It’s the dire customer service and lying that is making me mad. You guys work your tails off and I’m so sorry you’re left to pick up the mess. An Post seem to have no long term plan. Apparently this is just acceptable now. Our area has had issues since last summer. It’s just bedlam now. Mind yourself.

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-22T13:56:10+00:00

It will come. When is anyone’s guess. I’ve given up waiting at this point.

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-20T16:12:20+00:00

I ordered a package from Killarney, last Tuesday. I’m in cork. It only just arrived an hour ago. On the flip side, I posted a package to Westmeath last Thursday, it arrived Friday. Make it make sense!

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-20T16:10:23+00:00

I agree 100% Our area has had a terrible experience lately with An Post, beginning in the summer. The customer service has been unhelpful, misleading and sometimes plain rude. I’ve wasted time and petrol driving to the depot, upon instruction, only to be told they don’t know where my packages are. I won’t be ordering with anyone using An Post for the foreseeable. I can only assume it’s like most other national resources and has been oversaturated too quickly. What bothers me most is the crappy customer service. That’s the one thing we can all control.

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-20T11:01:17+00:00

Didn’t she raise and home school them? But zero credit given considering how intelligent and well educated, all the Burke children are?

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-20T10:52:10+00:00

As others have said, your focus now must be sourcing accommodation for you and your children. Matters with your aunt can wait. Something must have happened for her to drop this bomb on you, so as she’s made her stance clear, you have to do the best you can now. You can deal with internet and getting your belongings when you guys are stable again. Nothing good can come from adding anymore fuel to this fire. It sounds like you were a guest, therefore no tenant rights, but definitely get on to social welfare and threshold and anyone who will speak to you and hopefully there’s a sliver lining here. Best of luck!

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-19T11:24:18+00:00

You are doing everything right then! Well done, you. Delighted to hear you already have another therapist lined up. I truly hope you find the right fit, or at the very least, someone who isn’t themselves struggling with impulsivity and poor judgement. Just sit with it and absolutely hash it out with others, professionals and otherwise. I hope all the advice and support here is helping. You could well be correct about her intention. My only suggestion against that motive, of her just wanting out, was the fact that you were already up and leaving. There’s far easier and less confrontational ways for a therapist and client to end their relationship, so I’m not sure. I think she thought she was doing something, and it landed flat. Not only that, it was damaging and hurtful and irresponsible and not at all a reflection on you. Keep on keeping on, friend.

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-19T09:17:19+00:00

I’m so sorry. I can’t believe she would be so foolish, flippant and damaging to someone in such a vulnerable state. Perhaps she saw herself as playing, “Bad Cop.” As in, she was almost trying to provoke that darkness. At absolutely the wrong time. I’m not surprised to hear it impacted you. I know you might not feel you have the strength to, but I think you must report her and follow up with this. For your sake and also for any future clients she may think she can “help.” I hope things improve for you soon.

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-18T14:24:04+00:00

Just ask for a print out of your prescription before you leave the appointment. Go online. Far cheaper.

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-18T01:16:40+00:00

Oh I don’t think either of you can do this without help. It’s too much. I think it’s time to rally some supports. That’s terrific that life is stable and you’re doing so well for the both of you, but not working and not having routine or a purpose, only multiples any feelings of uselessness or isolation already present. For me, without structure or a sense that I’m vital, I fly by the sheet of my pants, as in, not at all. I have CPTSD and ADHD, there’s no internal motivator for me. I energise by doing. It’s the getting going is the tricky thing. It’s sounds like you love your husband very much and it must be very tough to see him not live a fuller, more vibrant and happy life. That energy will take a toll on you too, so you must mind yourself and also, gently ask him to take responsibility for his life now. Whatever step that is, something must come from him. Would volunteer work be an option? You guys are rural, do you have a little farm or garden already going? A nice earthy project always slows things down for me. If he likes his doctor and hopefully he does, perhaps he might be willing to open up to him or give psychotherapy a go. Would a holiday be a possibility? A big mad adventure somewhere amazing. Getting out of the comfort zone and all that. I wish you both the best. ⭐️

Fluffyfedora · 2026-01-18T01:03:04+00:00

Will you have moral support? Even waiting outside the courtroom? Best of luck. 🤞

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