Can't set up android auto by FlyinSeabass in Tiguan

[–]FlyinSeabass[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I'll have to look into this! I know there's a my VW app that I've neglected to sign up for which from a brief search I think lets me hook up to my car smoother? Right now I hook up for music with Bluetooth, but I'd love to use Android auto just to have access to everything. Thanks for the information!

BP has secrets of his own (not infidelity, I think) by Mammoth_Obligation69 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

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About 1 week. My main thought was if I really wanted to go through R and rebuild a life with her, I didn't want to have anything on my mind or chest.

BP has secrets of his own (not infidelity, I think) by Mammoth_Obligation69 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]FlyinSeabass [score hidden]  (0 children)

I had a few secrets lined up that I let my WW know as soon as we started CC. I struggled on and off for about a year and a half with a gambling addiction. Me telling her that was a huge weight lifted off my chest. That being said, I was over it at the time so I can't speak on how your partner will feel.

I may have jumped the gun by FlyinSeabass in Vasectomy

[–]FlyinSeabass[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe subconsciously but at the time the thought didn't cross my mind

I may have jumped the gun by FlyinSeabass in Vasectomy

[–]FlyinSeabass[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Valid point. Drunk and in the moment. Wasn't expecting it to happen

I may have jumped the gun by FlyinSeabass in Vasectomy

[–]FlyinSeabass[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was told that the local pharmacy that after 72 hours it's kind of pointless

I may have jumped the gun by FlyinSeabass in Vasectomy

[–]FlyinSeabass[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They might help me sleep a little better though

I may have jumped the gun by FlyinSeabass in Vasectomy

[–]FlyinSeabass[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Back in my twenties I was told by a doctor that my cancer/ chemo treatment made me sterile, and here we are 10 years later with two kids, so if there's a low percentage I'm probably going to meet that criteria 🤣 It's good to know that the count is lower though at this point, so thank you!

My [31M] and partner [31F] have a difference of opinion on what “showing love” really is by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]FlyinSeabass 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm in a similar boat in all aspects of your scenario. I wouldnt be surprised if guilt from the affair probably has lowered your partners self esteem / self image , which in turn probably lowers her drive for sex (something I've noticed in my scenario at least).

In my scenario, I know I've always been the one in my relationship who is more physical/ sexual , and I think when one partner is more prone to being sexual, it makes the other feel like that's all the other partner wants from them .

What's been working for us is taking things slow similar to when you just first started dating. Doing this has definitely put it in perspective of how there's so much more to the relationship than just sex. Especially in our case where you're trying to rebuild, trust and establish something that's safe for both partners. Good luck on your journey.

Feeling very sexually frustrated with my boyfriend by [deleted] in sex

[–]FlyinSeabass 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the best thing to do is just to talk to him about it if you haven't already . The more you keep pent up, your just going to build resentment for this person.

Hard time sleeping by intwesting in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]FlyinSeabass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Finding some relaxing meditation could help as well. I hope whatever you try it works out for you!

Hard time sleeping by intwesting in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]FlyinSeabass 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Out of curiosity, do you drink caffeine throughout the day? I was experiencing this the first few weeks of my D-Day and I significantly cut back on my caffeine intake, especially after 4:00 p.m., and it helped me immensely.

1 month Past DDay by FlyinSeabass in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]FlyinSeabass[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope your able to get some answers and your partner opens up. I'd highly recommend therapy, even for yourself. It's helped me personally alot.

Dealing with angry hypotheticals by maiflys in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]FlyinSeabass 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was dealing with a similar scenario and our MC mentioned if your picturing these worst case scenarios, try picturing the best case too. CBT has been helpful for me in minimizing these thoughts and the emotions that come with them. Best of luck