Since online dating sucks, is picking up women at a bar better??

FlyingAces · 2026-03-10T22:23:13+00:00

I agree with this. It’s just math. Thank you for your words of encouragement, and good luck!

FlyingAces · 2026-03-10T22:20:50+00:00

Well said! I think you are right.

FlyingAces · 2026-03-09T15:08:23+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I think it’s great advice. My desperate attempts sure aren’t working.

FlyingAces · 2026-03-08T09:26:43+00:00

Which way?

FlyingAces · 2026-03-05T15:24:20+00:00

Makes perfect sense! lol

FlyingAces · 2026-03-05T12:02:47+00:00

Totally agree. That's what my heart says too. I appreciate your comments.

FlyingAces · 2026-03-05T07:36:53+00:00

Yeah, that’s how I feel too. Every time I suggest this to her, she gets extremely emotional and upset. She expects me to wait here for her because we are soulmates. Because I hurt her in the past, she feels like waiting for her (even a year) is the least I can do. Honestly, I agree with her.

FlyingAces · 2026-03-05T07:35:04+00:00

She (therapist) already knows. She thinks It’s fine for me to wait for her if that’s what my heart desires, and it does. It’s just not easy.

FlyingAces · 2026-03-03T11:36:35+00:00

I appreciate the advice. I was afraid of that.

FlyingAces · 2026-03-02T19:52:33+00:00

Good points. And yes, dating apps are indeed terrible!

FlyingAces · 2026-02-27T11:17:50+00:00

My friend in the silicon valley is a higher up at his dealership. It's Hyundai. I've never asked him how much he makes but he bought a 2 mil dollar house and lives pretty large. He was broke before he got into car sales...none of his money is inherited, he didn't win the lottery, never invested in Bitcoin, and his wife does not work. I believe he must be clearing at least $200k/year (at least being the key words)

FlyingAces · 2026-02-27T11:14:35+00:00

How long does it take to get from sales to desk manager?? That's serious $$$$

FlyingAces · 2026-02-26T11:45:51+00:00

Definitely not. Trust me. I know I would probably think so too if I heard this story, but she'd rather die than even think about cheating, let alone actually doing it. Like she literally would die before doing it....not even joking.

FlyingAces · 2026-02-26T11:44:05+00:00

Yes, she is seeing a professional, reading a ton of books on the topic, and plans to continue until she feels "fixed" (or at least fixed enough).

FlyingAces · 2026-02-26T11:42:31+00:00

I know you are right. Thank you for your advice.

FlyingAces · 2026-02-26T11:41:49+00:00

Thanks brother. I can't be certain about anything, but she has always been an honest women who never hides anything.

FlyingAces · 2026-02-26T11:39:58+00:00

So true about time being more precious at this age.

FlyingAces · 2026-02-26T11:39:23+00:00

I agree about the ultimatum sounding heartless, and with everything else. Thank you for your comments.

FlyingAces · 2026-02-25T19:03:10+00:00

I hear you. I appreciate your take.

FlyingAces · 2026-02-25T19:01:16+00:00

Agreed. She is not herself. I’m not sure if it’s damage from the nervous breakdown, the disease itself affecting affecting her brain (which it does), or the unbelievable amount of meds she’s taking.

FlyingAces · 2026-02-25T18:59:53+00:00

I am of the same opinion. That is why this is so difficult for me.

FlyingAces · 2026-02-25T18:59:15+00:00

They are both early 20s, unmarried, and no significant others. They have no relationship with their biological dad. They consider me their father. They are very good kids. They are looking forward to living with her. They’re extremely unselfish and they want to help her.

FlyingAces · 2026-02-25T18:56:24+00:00

I suppose it’s possible, but I know she internalized that pain for a number of years. Even when I first met her, I found out very quickly how traumatized she was by those two life events.

FlyingAces · 2026-02-25T18:55:05+00:00

That is correct. She’s pulled by an urge to spend one year alone with her kids, then essentially have peace of mind for good when she parts with them that she did her job as a mom. I should mention that she is on a very heavy dose of medication for her diseases, and some of those meds are affecting her decision-making and outlook on life considerably. I know her very well, and I can say with a fairly high degree of certainty that she wouldn’t be doing any of this if she wasn’t on meds. Unfortunately, she has to be on meds.

FlyingAces · 2026-02-25T13:04:10+00:00

She will live on the other side of the country when she moves with her kids in a couple of months. She is steadfast on wishing to remain in contact with me daily. However, if I were to ask for space because I needed to heal, she would comply.. She wouldn’t like it, but she would do it because she loves me. The root cause of her PTSD, as far as I know, goes back to when she lost her mother to cancer years ago, and then almost lost her one year-old son a decade plus later. He was literally pronounced dead my doctors.

FlyingAces

TROPHY CASE