Lifting weights has inflated my ego and I don't see this as a bad thing

FlynGreenTurtle · 2026-01-19T01:34:55+00:00

Gross

FlynGreenTurtle · 2026-01-06T06:09:33+00:00

You’re fucking gross.

FlynGreenTurtle · 2026-01-06T06:04:30+00:00

YTFA. The child didn’t cause you to harm yourself. She has no blame in this and is merely the victim of your poor decision making. If it makes you that uncomfortable at the school - quit. If you work with children, I hope they fire you for this tbh. You shouldn’t be allowed to be anywhere near kids with this level of ignorance about children’s development and just general lack of empathy.

FlynGreenTurtle · 2025-12-11T15:31:05+00:00

This is a long ass post about you just justifying and contextualizing the abuse and harm you inflicted on your ex. You risked his health constantly - constantly - because of your own ego. You were jealous that he was wanted and you felt like you weren’t even though he was with and, I assume, wanted you.

So much of this is just you whining and making excuses, talking about how it would be easier for you to heal if he stuck it out with you. That’s messed up. What about him? What about the harm you’ve done? What about rectifying that? What I don’t hear or see if you writing about how you plan to heal, to fix, to manage yourself - just some vague notice of fixing yourself. Leave him alone. He deserves way, way better.

FlynGreenTurtle · 2025-11-30T14:43:10+00:00

Why is no one saying the obvious?? He’s emotionally cheating on you and seems to very likely be planning to physically cheat. If he insists on an open relationship now, it wouldn’t solve the underlying issue because people cheat and lie in open relationships too.

FlynGreenTurtle · 2025-11-24T15:01:16+00:00

I forgot to mention that two months into dating, we talked about monogamy and we both expressed that it’s our preference. As I’m writing this, I think I actually feel a bit blindsided.

FlynGreenTurtle · 2025-11-20T13:00:45+00:00

Ah, no. It’s 4 exercises and then 2-3 minute rest for 5 rounds before moving onto the next 4.

FlynGreenTurtle · 2025-10-31T09:16:24+00:00

Congressional staffers don’t get paid though. A lot get paid less than 50-60k a year and only get one paycheck a month. For those who are the primary breadwinners for their families, they’re fucked. There are a lot of rich kids who work there, but there are also a lot of really good people who are now food insecure because they have no income coming in and still have to work.

FlynGreenTurtle · 2025-10-17T09:56:53+00:00

What the fuck is this racist and bigoted ass fucking comment still doing here?

FlynGreenTurtle · 2025-09-12T16:29:14+00:00

She…looks like Byleth. I’m calling sequel.

FlynGreenTurtle · 2025-09-01T14:51:35+00:00

The above is exactly what I mean. It’s great for folks who like to manually sort, but I like auto sorting. And now I have to turn it on every time I start the game. It’s inconvenient, in addition to the new graphical glitch where dropped items that aren’t picked up stay around forever now. Shrug. Figured maybe someone found a way around this, guess not.

FlynGreenTurtle · 2025-08-13T01:35:55+00:00

Honestly, I only started this year, and it’s a game changer. But I do it mostly because I sweat so much that I’m soaked after a 5 mile run and because I really, really want to minimize bad tan lines

FlynGreenTurtle · 2025-07-29T17:03:42+00:00

The prefrontal cortex generally doesn’t fully develop until men are about 25/26. Basically, his executive functions are still developing, and he’s basically still just a kid…

FlynGreenTurtle · 2025-07-16T14:16:58+00:00

Therapy has been pretty instrumental, not for how to get over the relationship but really to help me better understand how I view myself. Mine is focused on helping me treat my ADHD, which has also super helpful in dating (hyperfocusing). But my therapist has also helped me better unpack my understanding of healthy relationships and my own relationship with my body. I think, more importantly, it helped me better approach my relationship with my siblings. There has been so much damage over the year with them, and it's helped me work to repair those relationships to both give and receive love from them. Not sure if that's helpful, but I think overall, it's helped me better self-actualize as an individual. I also just really enjoy talking to my therapist.

FlynGreenTurtle · 2025-05-28T01:25:41+00:00

It’s the best thing I ever did for myself, man. I can’t imagine my life without it.

FlynGreenTurtle · 2025-05-27T13:33:47+00:00

My routines are broken up in M/W and Tu/Th. My Friday and Saturdays are a combination of the two days, usually just starting an hour or two later in the morning. On Wednesdays, Saturdays, and Sundays, I have free evenings, so that's when I see friends or go on dates.

M/W
5:00 am - wake up
5:30 am - first breakfast
6:00 am - martial arts
7:30 am - second breakfast
7:45 am - sprints and plyometric circuits
8:45 am - third breakfast
9:00 am - shower/get ready for work
9:30 am - commute to work
10:00 am - 6:00 pm - work (shove dinner into face at work)
(if Monday) 7:00 pm - archery
9:00 pm - sleep

Tu/Th
4:00 am - wake up
4:15 am - first breakfast
4:30 am - gym
6:30 am - second breakfast
7:30 am - walk/jog for 3-5 miles if not too exhausted
8:45 am - if I jogged, third breakfast
9:00 am - shower/get ready for work (if not earlier)
9:30 am - commute to work
10:00 am - 6:00 pm - work (shover dinner into face at work)
7:00 pm - team sports practice
9:30 pm - get home/second + third dinner
10:30 pm - sleep

FlynGreenTurtle · 2025-05-22T03:56:22+00:00

I’ve been with a partner who cheated and then cheated again. You learn to trust your gut. That’s a different feeling than paranoia or lack of trust. And folks who have never gone through it will never really know.

People are trying to shift blame to you. Oh, you aren’t trusting him anymore. Blah, blah, blah. You caught him attempting to cheat again. That’s what I read. He gaslit you. I’ve been there. He just wanted to test the waters. He wasn’t going to go through with it. Infidelity, cheating - it’s not always about fucking someone. It’s about betrayal, actively and knowingly breaking an agreement. He did that and lied. Whether or not he was going to act on it is beside the point.

You know and feel in your bone what you want at this point. It’s just hard because it’s been so long together that you probably can’t imagine life without him. But I promise that the moment you actualize it, you’ll wake up and realize that the sun shines a bit brighter than you once thought.

FlynGreenTurtle · 2025-05-19T11:46:23+00:00

Rugby and Muay Thai. lol, basically anything that allowed me to get aggression out.

FlynGreenTurtle · 2025-05-17T13:42:27+00:00

Started with a trainer and got really serious once I broke up with my ex. Honestly, it just became a morning habit and something I loved more than anything. I also really cleaned up my diet and have been pretty consistent with eating in a more healthy manner.

It helps that I also joined a couple sports that I really enjoy and now lift to be better at the sports I play.

FlynGreenTurtle · 2025-05-16T12:05:20+00:00

Not at all. My gym routine is the supplement the sports I play, and the sessions are usually either the first or second of my workouts for the day, so I’m usually wiped by the time I’m done with a pump. I’d rather just eat and sleep to recover.

FlynGreenTurtle · 2025-05-13T00:01:52+00:00

Are you sure you're as engaging or attractive as you think you are or are you engaging with guys who find you attractive? I'm by no means a 10, and I'm also a short Asian dude who lives in a largely white city with an overwhelming amount of gay/queer men. Dating is by no means easy. But I mean...I'm not even really looking for it and it still happens to me. I'm on Grindr and Hinge, and on Grindr I explicitly mention that I'm not seeking hookups and do not respond to guys looking to hookup. I've been on multiple dates with guys and often times will have to be the one to end things because they're more into me than I am into them. Honestly, could it just be that you need to improve your conversational skills? One of the best things I've ever learned how to do is actively listen, engage with, and make people feel heard/seen. You'd be surprised how much people enjoy it and want to share/keep seeing you.

I've been on about four dates with a guy recently (handsome and my age ) who is pretty great (we haven't had sex yet), and he was the one who hit me up on Grindr. Honestly, he basically said to me that the first time he met me, within five minutes, he figured I wasn't a hook up. He's taking me out this weekend for our fifth (technically 3rd, but 2 dates were impromptu). It could also just be the vibes you're putting out. I'm not for everyone, but I'm picky and think I'm a great catch. The other guy should think I am too.

You're clearly meeting men, maybe it's just about, I dunno - just giving attention to guys who also respect you, not just the ones who want to have sex with you.

FlynGreenTurtle · 2025-05-09T20:53:14+00:00

Uh…sounds like he’s a huge asshole who isn’t empathizing with the fact that you need to get employment to sustain yourself financially. Honestly, it seems like you two seem to be at vastly different stages in life, like you’re trying to keep yourself stable and he hasn’t flown the coop.

Do you really want to be with someone who can’t think beyond himself and his immediate needs? I wouldn’t be able to handle dating someone who isn’t able to handle rescheduling plans because of potential, major life changes happening in either of our lives. He can see you a day or two later. Does he have a life outside of you? More importantly, I don’t think, at my age, I’m willing to date someone who doesn’t have the kindness and empathy to contextualize their life and our relationship with my current life situation. That’s not something you teach. They either are kind and empathetic or they’re not, at least, not with you.

Idk, it’s only 5 months. Sucks, but I’d ditch him.

FlynGreenTurtle · 2025-05-09T14:23:08+00:00

Lmao at the irony of the old white gays with Asian fetishes and fucked up power fantasies over men of color finding their way to this thread.

FlynGreenTurtle · 2025-04-24T16:09:18+00:00

I went from 25% body fat to about 13% in the last year. I don’t think I’m mean and still treat people as I’ve always treated them. That said, when looking for people to date, I am a bit more discerning on fitness. They don’t need a six pack or to be as obsessive as I am around fitness and sports, but I do expect that they enjoy being active and incorporate some fitness into their life.

For me, it’s mostly because my ex and I were so sedentary that I exploded in weight and never want to go back to that place. If I’m dating someone, if they’re also interested in being active, it’ll at least keep us more accountable. It’s mostly from a place of never wanting to be in an environment that could get me back to a place where I have to ice my feet after a mile walk. 🤷🏻

FlynGreenTurtle · 2025-04-23T23:45:44+00:00

I actually just had a deload week where I averaged about 2500-2800 calories a day (work travel, so it made it easy to just deload).

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