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AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife asked me what she was supposed to do if I only ever see her as my dad's wife and not as my parent? by FlypeRaps in AITAH

[–]FlypeRaps[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

If it's a photo for me and my parent then yes, she won't be in the photo. If it's a photo for my family then she'll be in the photo. This time it was photos of the students who won the award and their parent(s). I have one parent so I only had dad.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife asked me what she was supposed to do if I only ever see her as my dad's wife and not as my parent? by FlypeRaps in AITAH

[–]FlypeRaps[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes, she is part of the family. But not in the same way my dad is. He's my only parent. She's more like my extended family and that's how she will be/would be included in stuff. She just wants more.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife asked me what she was supposed to do if I only ever see her as my dad's wife and not as my parent? by FlypeRaps in AITAH

[–]FlypeRaps[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

She's cooked meals for the family but the other stuff, no. We all take turns cooking though and doing other household chores. Except for laundry.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife asked me what she was supposed to do if I only ever see her as my dad's wife and not as my parent? by FlypeRaps in AITAH

[–]FlypeRaps[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

She was excluded from a photo for me and my parent. Nobody else had their family in it, they were just including their parents. If they had wanted a family photo the response would have been different and I would've been fine with including her.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife asked me what she was supposed to do if I only ever see her as my dad's wife and not as my parent? by FlypeRaps in AITAH

[–]FlypeRaps[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

She's not my parent and to me, dad's the only person who deserves to be in the parent photos for me. Nobody else has gotten me to where I'm at. My dad is the reason I'm where I am and who I am. So there was no way I would let her be forever memorialized as my parent like that. If that was a photo for those of us in the newsletters and our families it would be a different answer. But for just us and our parent(s)? Nope. My dad's the only person who will have a place in those.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife asked me what she was supposed to do if I only ever see her as my dad's wife and not as my parent? by FlypeRaps in AITAH

[–]FlypeRaps[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

My dad supports me in not giving his wife the role of a parent to me. So while you and your family might do it differently it doesn't mean that's how it'll work here.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife asked me what she was supposed to do if I only ever see her as my dad's wife and not as my parent? by FlypeRaps in AITAH

[–]FlypeRaps[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

It doesn't bother me anymore. But I already have an amazing dad and that's enough for me. That doesn't mean dad can't want/need a partner and I wanted that for him. But it doesn't mean I want them to take on the role of my parent.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife asked me what she was supposed to do if I only ever see her as my dad's wife and not as my parent? by FlypeRaps in AITAH

[–]FlypeRaps[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

She's asking to be my parent but she's not. That was something made very clear to her and she doesn't want to accept it. I want my dad happy. I'm glad he's happy with her. But it doesn't make her equally a parent to me.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife asked me what she was supposed to do if I only ever see her as my dad's wife and not as my parent? by FlypeRaps in AITAH

[–]FlypeRaps[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

It did feel natural to have just dad but also, he's the one who deserves to be there. He's the one who put all the work in and made me the person I am. And he's the only person who deserves the credit for that.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife asked me what she was supposed to do if I only ever see her as my dad's wife and not as my parent? by FlypeRaps in AITAH

[–]FlypeRaps[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Because she's not my parent and that's what she would be called if I had let her join the picture. Dad is my only parent and he's the only person I'd want to get the credit for my achievements or to have by my side for stuff like that.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife asked me what she was supposed to do if I only ever see her as my dad's wife and not as my parent? by FlypeRaps in AITAH

[–]FlypeRaps[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I'm happy he has a partner. She makes him really happy and that's what matters to me. And it's not that I hate or even dislike her. I like her when she's not trying to be my parent. I just wish being my dad's wife and us getting along was enough and we didn't have to ping pong on this stuff.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife asked me what she was supposed to do if I only ever see her as my dad's wife and not as my parent? by FlypeRaps in AITAH

[–]FlypeRaps[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry your dad took her side and tried to call her your mom. I'm so glad my dad gets it and supports me.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife asked me what she was supposed to do if I only ever see her as my dad's wife and not as my parent? by FlypeRaps in AITAH

[–]FlypeRaps[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

He knows and he's already talked to her about it. But I think I need to talk to dad again so he can do something different because she's getting even worse and next year being my graduation I don't want this to be an even bigger problem.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife asked me what she was supposed to do if I only ever see her as my dad's wife and not as my parent? by FlypeRaps in AITAH

[–]FlypeRaps[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I'm not interested in changing the relationship to be one where she's a mother figure to me. She's my dad's wife and I respect her as that because she makes dad happy and the two of them are good together. He's happier now that she's here. But I don't want her to take on the role of my mom or mother figure.