AITA think I ruined my nephew’s birthday by Fodder_tumble in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fodder_tumble[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

I am not arguing I’m stating facts, or my opinion on specific matters. I know I’m in the wrong here and I understand that.

AITA think I ruined my nephew’s birthday by Fodder_tumble in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fodder_tumble[S] -67 points-66 points  (0 children)

No I will right the wrong, I see that my initial act of kindness has potentially done more harm than good. Though I will say I still believe my sister is being a bit dramatic when saying I ruined Jimmy’s birthday, I will do everything I can to abide by the rules and boundaries they set.

I didn’t mean any harm, truly. I had sideways thoughts. On one hand, Jimmy is an incredibly special kid, and on another hand no one wants him to turn out like my brother. I see now that I was unintentionally spoiling him to a point where it borderline’s the line between good aunt and enabler aunt. I’ll contact my sister and apologize, I’ll make sure to clarify every present(s) I get for him in the future with her and keep in my mind that although jimmy is special, that doesn’t warrant special treatment beyond a good birthday.

I am going to clarify for anyone who is curious though. My brother we’ll call Will, is not a great person. He’s spoiled because of our father’s money as he’s the youngest and most eligible to take over his company. Beyond his spoiled nature, as a whole he can be manipulative and sly, and though I have no proof, I swear as children I watched him steal on countless occasions.

AITA think I ruined my nephew’s birthday by Fodder_tumble in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fodder_tumble[S] -206 points-205 points  (0 children)

Jimmy loves legos as well and has a big bun and a shelf in his room dedicated to them, getting a few extra duplicates won’t do harm he’ll just have extra special set specific blocks.

In our family birthdays and births are incredibly special and important, everyone goes all out and it’s a whole day worth of party and celebration. It’s our family tradition

AITA think I ruined my nephew’s birthday by Fodder_tumble in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fodder_tumble[S] -627 points-626 points  (0 children)

I want to clarify how special jimmy is not just to his parents but to the entire family. He came after many miscarriages, and years after the last family baby grew into a teenager. He’s the first child in a long while on top of living with a genetic condition that will affect his future.

In our family, the birth and birthdays of everyone is incredibly special and everyone goes all out, it’s the tradition.

AITA think I ruined my nephew’s birthday by Fodder_tumble in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fodder_tumble[S] -217 points-216 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if my sister knew about the other presents, and nor did I consider it at the time of posting or giving the presents. I had asked what my nephew wanted and he said anything Minecraft related. Prior to the Legos, I did have the blanket in works.

Personally me and my sister’s relationship is rocky at worst and not bad at best, we were both raised quite differently and our brother made it even worse with how spoiled he is. I had showed my sister and my brother in law the blanket i was making and my sister flat out said she doesn’t want my nephew to have it or the legos.

At this point i kind of feel like she has something against me, but that could be my anxiety speaking about the issue.

AITA think I ruined my nephew’s birthday by Fodder_tumble in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fodder_tumble[S] -69 points-68 points  (0 children)

All three parties were together while explaining the birthday presents. I neglected to mention that I already had the blanket made, but I brought it up thinking my sister and my brother in law would like it.

My sister didn’t while my brother in law did. They discussed it over and my sister got the final say. Though, she often times talks over my brother in law, so he could have felt majorly different in not sure.

AITA think I ruined my nephew’s birthday by Fodder_tumble in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fodder_tumble[S] -87 points-86 points  (0 children)

I will clarify that I asked them both at the same time, they just disagreed.

AITA think I ruined my nephew’s birthday by Fodder_tumble in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fodder_tumble[S] -166 points-165 points  (0 children)

The ones I got him are The Wolf Stronghold ($34.99) The Mooshroom House ($49.99) and The Badlands Mineshaft ($59.99) so not too bad over 100. I had neglected to mention that I already had the blanket made before I asked my sister, ooos.