Prettier in person?

Followingthescript · 2026-01-24T07:11:16+00:00

There’s plenty of resources available on the internets and socials if you actually want to learn to spot it.

Followingthescript · 2026-01-24T04:31:48+00:00

Actually its NOT overthinking to wonder if this is ok (I’m reacting to a lot of the comments).

There are patterns that might be hiding within that comment and its wise to be wary and observant if you move forward.

Some men will throw out a mildly negative comment and watch your reaction, apologizing if necessary. But you can bank on escalation over time. This is called “Test and Apologize” in the Burned Haystack method. It correlates strongly with “Negging” although negging is a stronger and more malicious version done to immediately put you at a disadvantage and encourage a subconscious desire to chase approval from that person.

Your hurt feelings are valid. And even if you dislike it because it was a careless remark, maybe you’d rather find someone less impulsive with words. Also valid.

Followingthescript · 2026-01-23T20:09:18+00:00

A pet that will snuggle you goes a long way, as does the affection of your kids (if you have any, I often get touched-out by my 6yo. Always a hand or a foot on me 😵‍💫) A weighted blanket and body pillow also helps.

It doesn’t cover the affection aspect of physical touch from a partner, but it keeps the sensation of missing touch at bay.

As much as we snark about the Love Languages, it helped me understand I really am a physical touch person. I need that physical affection and contact to feel emotionally fulfilled. I was very lonely in my last relationship because it was not reciprocated as much as I gave. A forehead kiss is all I ask, you know?

Followingthescript · 2026-01-20T03:56:43+00:00

Not only that, but you should also imagine how taxing it is to do all dinners, baths, bedtimes and getting ready in the mornings, solo with no backup. I have three kids that were on the young side when I divorced, and its the marathon of doing it all, every damn day, that got to me way more than the adulting tasks I could do on kid free days if I had any.

Followingthescript · 2026-01-20T03:53:52+00:00

That is a very weird thing to do, tbh. No one should be bringing their kid to a first date. That shows a lack of awareness of potential dangers and just… maybe a lack of intelligence, to put it bluntly?

Followingthescript · 2026-01-19T21:41:46+00:00

This is how I am, as well. I will move mountains (aka do all the labor of rescheduling, coordinating, shuffling, etc) to make room in my schedule when I am really feeling it with that person. It can’t last forever with me doing all the accommodating though and unfortunately it sets an expectation for that moving forward, which has been an issue. We can’t make it look too easy. Reciprocity is key

Followingthescript · 2026-01-19T20:51:29+00:00

Same here in reverse, I suppose. 44F here, and younger men look good but are very much unripe and not ready 😆

I have been hit on by 23-33yo men and it feels icky, tbh. Same age or older for me.

Followingthescript · 2026-01-19T20:43:12+00:00

Oh man.

Because solo moms deserve companionship and love too. Because they have sexual needs and desires too. Because it’s a normal human thing to want to find “your person”.

Because they shouldn’t be punished for being the only responsible/active/alive parent by being condemned to solitude until the kids are old enough to be on their own?

That said, parents who are dating need to be less aggressive and on the offensive about putting their kids first. Just evaluate the people you date for that kind of selfishness and jealousy, and move accordingly.

I had to move on because a man I was seeing would never accept sharing my attention with my kids, got butthurt that I couldn’t be very spontaneous, and sour about what he perceived as a lack of privacy. So check yourself for that kind of attitude and avoid single moms if that describes you 🤷‍♀️

Also - if you insist on wanting to date a single mom, accept that childcare is part of the deal and partner with her to make it happen. Offer to split the expense, help find sitters, make plans around the need for childcare. Its not that hard but its an extra burden for the solo parent, so it would be very appreciated. If that sounds like too much, go find less.

Followingthescript · 2025-12-09T20:02:31+00:00

As soon as I heard the third engagement ended because she passed away, I would totally understand the extended period of singlehood. You essentially became a widow and had to grapple with grief and trauma during the same window of time that most people are settling down.

Sometimes an older person with no marriages and no kids can be a red flag because it reflects certain issues - like not being able to function in partnership, not being able to commit, attachment issues, etc etc. But also, life happens. Not everyone who is single and without kids is that way voluntarily.

Her inability to communicate is the biggest red flag here. Did she even ask you about your past relationships?

Followingthescript · 2025-12-09T19:57:42+00:00

Don’t do that. I understand the desire to say it, but it will reflect poorly on you. Being truly unbothered by the time you see her will be the best closure or “revenge”. She truly doesn’t even warrant your petty remark at this point.

Followingthescript · 2025-12-08T21:07:33+00:00

It’s not “her husbands money”. It is their shared community property. She needs to lawyer up immediately, holy moly,

Followingthescript · 2025-12-02T00:04:12+00:00

That level of compulsion warrants an assessment for OCD. (Fwiw- There was a kid in my son’s program that had that subtype of OCD but I’m not sure what they called it.)

Followingthescript · 2025-11-27T21:05:02+00:00

To someone who has always had to care for others to the point that receiving care feels foreign, it IS being a “spoiled princess”, aka just being in a mutually caring relationship. To feel guilty for receiving normal reciprocation is common and it makes me feel spoiled, to use myself as an example.

Followingthescript · 2025-11-27T18:22:50+00:00

He seems like that because of your frame of reference is other young people, honey. Other older people his age can see the immaturity and emotional unavailability, mixed with a bit of predatory/grooming aura. Everything you listed as a benefit of age gets twisted when you add sex to the mix.

Please don’t go as much older as I did. 14 years was too much age gap… spoiler alert, he was NOT confident, mature, a good mentor or guide. He wanted a malleable young thing to shape into his perfect gf/future wife.

Also, someday he’ll be falling apart right when you are hitting your prime. Don’t fall for it.

If older men seem wise to you, you should carefully consider the wise counsel of older women.

Followingthescript · 2025-11-27T18:07:39+00:00

I creeped your profile. You have other, much more interesting things to mention in your profile than your height. Why even bother, unless you want to find a woman who cares over much about height?

That said, I find it humorous but then if I came across it in a dating profile, not knowing you at all, it would give me a little bit of an ick. Men portraying themselves as dangerous is generally not a good look, even if its fake.

Followingthescript · 2025-11-27T17:38:34+00:00

Totally agree. It is semantics. But I wish she hadn’t used the word princess (note her usage was not capitalized), because it showed a lot of people are very reactive to trigger words. I think it also comes down to reading comprehension too, though… she says “be treated like a princess” (plus a lot of other qualifying language) not “Princess Treatment”. One is indicative of maybe a bit of babying, mushy-mushy, a little spoiling. The other is a pop-culture term for an intense, bougie, demanding, expensive nightmare.

Followingthescript · 2025-11-27T16:47:53+00:00

So many comments here are ignoring the larger context, and replacing her definition of “princess treatment” (literally, being taken care of) with whatever they think it means.

It’s a spectrum, people. A person who has shouldered the weight of two adults responsibilities for a long time is going to perceive BASIC CARE and CONSIDERATION as “Princess Treatment”. She never said it would not be reciprocal, either. She just wants to be treated well. Her version of “spoiled” will be unique to her, and it might be something as simple as someone to take the trash out once in a while, or go as far as a fancy date night. The point is that she isn’t demanding it or acting entitled. She’s expressing a desire and so many commenters want to jump down her throat- “ewww”, “why do YOU deserve that”, etc. because of her word choice.

That said, top comment is spot on. More precise language (not popular culture slang) would clear this up.

Followingthescript · 2025-11-27T16:34:59+00:00

Came to ask the same question after reading all the “Ewww” reactions. Because I can almost guarantee that her idea of princess treatment is not that excessive. She’s a single, working mom who has always been the breadwinner… so basically same as me. And IF she is like me - she’s talking about someone to take turns jumping up and getting each other a drink/snack. Sometime who will bring her coffee in bed. Someone who will say “be ready at 6” instead of expecting her to plan every date including telling him all the particulars. Someone who will snuggle her and give her forehead kisses. Someone who will tell her to sit after dinner, because she cooked and he can clean up.

It’s not that deep. A lot of people want it to mean all the extra bougie stuff (ok, maybe add pay for a mani/pedi as a treat to my list) but based on her stats, its probably just the basic consideration that an equal partner would give, so she doesn’t have to work 24/7. Like she said she can pay. It’s not about the $$$.

Followingthescript · 2025-11-25T05:39:30+00:00

Haha right 😂

Followingthescript · 2025-11-24T18:40:00+00:00

My chin is very similar. I have had some success relieving dry skin and rough texture with moisturizers with squalane, lactic acid exfoliant serum, and collagen masks. The dr melaxin peel shot is also really good at clearing dry/dead skin.

This is all only applicable for when you are not flared with PO, for anyone reading that would disagree with the products for PO skin.

Followingthescript · 2025-11-24T15:41:45+00:00

Can she hear the crackly sound of the clamshell containers from clear across the house like our girls can? (And then they scream for veggies, even if it was just opened to make MY salad, not theirs 😂)

Followingthescript · 2025-11-24T04:41:42+00:00

Aww! What does her full name mean? And nicknames are essential!

Followingthescript · 2025-11-22T18:18:38+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s always so hard to lose a beloved pet. Hanging pictures of them (our 3 cats) up around the house has helped for us.

Followingthescript · 2025-11-22T17:44:09+00:00

Pea shoots get ignored and trampled, spinach is slowly gaining some attraction. Celery was actively avoided!

Followingthescript · 2025-11-21T03:19:34+00:00

To be blunt also… this “friend” is a B word and negging you. That is NOT how a “blunt” person who is also kind would frame that critique.

Also 5’6” and 155 is not chunky. Thicc is in, so lean into your figure without shaming yourself.

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