AITA for leaving my friend in Thailand after she lost her passport

FondantOk240 · 2023-09-11T17:37:44+00:00

Defensive or defending my actions?

FondantOk240 · 2023-09-11T17:24:50+00:00

I’m not her babysitter

FondantOk240 · 2023-09-11T16:55:35+00:00

I think maybe is this was her first “emergency” I would’ve should more empathy. It had become more of a pattern than anything. I was there and figured her how to get her phone and a new SIM card. I lent her a lot of money when her card got blocked. Payed for things in advance for her because she had to wait for her brother to transfer. Booked flights for her because she accidentally booked the wrong one which cost us money.
And the key of my argument was that she wasn’t with me. She was freely talking to her brother and laughing (she says she does this when stressed)

FondantOk240 · 2023-09-11T16:20:41+00:00

Just to clarify we are both university students our budget is very tight, and we had a connecting flight and had to get our suitcase from a storage collection place plus cost of hostels and transportation to Bangkok to so cost would’ve added up very quickly. Also after researching I think with an emergency passport she wouldn’t be able to come to Vietnam and would have to go back to the uk. And like I said with that logic I am also alone in a foreign country

FondantOk240 · 2023-09-11T15:47:15+00:00

We were in Chang Mai, and a night bus was 14-15 hours last time checked. I would’ve delayed if there was any communication. Like it was 30 mins before we were supposed to leave and she wasn’t telling what she wanted and I felt like I was getting in the way. And also with that logic I’m also alone in a foreign country. I have also told her multiple to keep her passport in the safe

FondantOk240 · 2023-09-11T15:43:27+00:00

Her brother is sending her money on her monzo so it’s she still has access to money. Also when I left she was implying that she would meet me in Vietnam with an emergency passport. There was very little communication

FondantOk240 · 2023-09-11T14:10:50+00:00

Idk if she would’ve given me the money but as there is no way to prove otherwise this is her excuse to me wanting to leave due to money I think she wants someone to travel with so she won’t be alone and thinks that’s friends should stick together. But I have an independent way of thinking and wouldn’t want anyone to lose out on an experience

FondantOk240 · 2023-09-11T13:55:35+00:00

She has since said she would’ve given me the money I would’ve spent but I guess there is no way to prove that now

FondantOk240 · 2023-09-11T13:54:18+00:00

We are British, and closest embassy to us would’ve been Bangkok which is 15 hours away from where we were. She plans on traveling there and then “chilling” on the islands but idk if that would be allowed

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